venuss Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 (edited) Hi guys ..is it possible to provoke him to contact me? I am finding it hard to stay away from him. I want us to be friends like we used to be (before we stepped into this relationship). Just friends because I think he is not ready for commitment and without commitment I am not ready for sex, so we will be going in circles again.. This question for boys specially..if you get dumped and are insulted (a lil) , how long a girl should wait before contacting again so that you don't feel mad and what's the best way? Can I do/say anything to him so that he contacts me instead? Email? FB? Text? Blank text? Missed call? Upload my happy pic? My happy pic with someone else ? A pic at party? Anything else? Its been 2 weeks since NC. Edited March 30, 2013 by venuss
Damsel in Distress Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 You're the dumper? I don't think anybody on here is going to give you tips for baiting your ex into being friends with you after you dumped and insulted him.
destroyed4sho Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 Men dont want to be friends with women...unless sex is involved. There may be those rare cases.
NewPerspective93 Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 (edited) I think you need to let him be; give him his peace of mind and space. If you dumped him, it will be hard for him to be friends if he still harbors feelings for you. If you care about him, give him space and time to move on. Being friends at this stage is not going to help him. It seems like you are being selfish by still wanting to be his friend, and still having the audacity of thinking of posting pictures of you being with someone else. I feel as if you want to relieve your guilt of telling him things. Let him be, and give him his space. Sorry, but that's what I see. It also seems as if you want to play with his feelings by even thinking of putting up things that will showcase how "happy" you are by triggering some emotion from him as if to cause him to contact you. Why should he be the one to contact you when you told him insults and were the dumper? Regardless, I stand by my previous statement of leaving him alone. Cheers. Edited March 30, 2013 by NewPerspective93 3
Minneloa Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 I think you need to let him be; give him his peace of mind and space. If you dumped him, it will be hard for him to be friends if he still harbors feelings for you. If you care about him, give him space and time to move on. Being friends at this stage is not going to help him. It seems like you are being selfish by still wanting to be his friend, and still having the audacity of thinking of posting pictures of you being with someone else. I feel as if you want to relieve your guilt of telling him things. Let him be, and give him his space. Sorry, but that's what I see. It also seems as if you want to play with his feelings by even thinking of putting up things that will showcase how "happy" you are by triggering some emotion from him as if to cause him to contact you. Why should he be the one to contact you when you told him insults and were the dumper? Regardless, I stand by my previous statement of leaving him alone. Cheers. Boom. OP, leave him alone. The idea that you want to "provoke" and "bait" your ex into contacting you is reprehensible. He is a human being whom you hurt, not your toy. 3
Sheilalou008 Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 Hi guys ..is it possible to provoke him to contact me? I am finding it hard to stay away from him. I want us to be friends like we used to be (before we stepped into this relationship). Just friends because I think he is not ready for commitment and without commitment I am not ready for sex, so we will be going in circles again.. This question for boys specially..if you get dumped and are insulted (a lil) , how long a girl should wait before contacting again so that you don't feel mad and what's the best way? Can I do/say anything to him so that he contacts me instead? Email? FB? Text? Blank text? Missed call? Upload my happy pic? My happy pic with someone else ? A pic at party? Anything else? Its been 2 weeks since NC. I would advise against all of the above. I was dumped and could not be friends with my ex til I was ready. 2 weeks is not enough. Leave them alone and when and if they are ready they will contact you. Do not play games with someones heart or feelings. It is childish and immature.
Echo000 Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 I find this post to be the most immature/insulting post I have ever seen on this website. YOU dumped him, YOU insulted him..now be a woman and leave him alone. Are you kidding me with this immature baiting crap? Grow up, and leave him alone. 2
Author venuss Posted March 30, 2013 Author Posted March 30, 2013 You're the dumper? I don't think anybody on here is going to give you tips for baiting your ex into being friends with you after you dumped and insulted him. Please read this and let me know http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/382927-2-questions#post4742363
Author venuss Posted March 30, 2013 Author Posted March 30, 2013 (edited) I find this post to be the most immature/insulting post I have ever seen on this website. YOU dumped him, YOU insulted him..now be a woman and leave him alone. Are you kidding me with this immature baiting crap? Grow up, and leave him alone. Hi there..can you also please read this post http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/382927-2-questions#post4742363 now being 'dumper' sounds evil..I am not..I was not rejecting him..I was just not comfortable giving him what he wants given his lack of commitment...I really want to be able to talk to him.. Edited March 30, 2013 by venuss
Minneloa Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 Please read this and let me know http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/382927-2-questions#post4742363 This is very confusing. That post tells a totally different story from the situation you described above.
Author venuss Posted March 30, 2013 Author Posted March 30, 2013 This is very confusing. That post tells a totally different story from the situation you described above. In one sentence. He wanted sex and was asking for it again and again without making any serious commitment and I did not give that and got frustrated and the texts that are mentioned in the post. Now I want him back but as a friend cause it was great when we were friends!
Minneloa Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 In one sentence. He wanted sex and was asking for it again and again without making any serious commitment and I did not give that and got frustrated and the texts that are mentioned in the post. Now I want him back but as a friend cause it was great when we were friends! If your intentions are only to be friends, which is very difficult to revert to after a romantic involvement, why do want to bait and provoke him, for example with a picture of you with another guy? That doesn"t sound like a bid for a platonic relationship to me. Friends don"t try to make each other sexually jealous.
Author venuss Posted March 30, 2013 Author Posted March 30, 2013 If your intentions are only to be friends, which is very difficult to revert to after a romantic involvement, why do want to bait and provoke him, for example with a picture of you with another guy? That doesn"t sound like a bid for a platonic relationship to me. Friends don"t try to make each other sexually jealous. I thought may be he will ask who is he and I will tell him just a friend and we will talk about other things and be talking again..not sure
destroyed4sho Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 I think your right in getting rid of this dirtbag. (You need to explain your story a bit because you are confusing people.) I assure you he will NOT go for being in the friendzone without SEX!! I assure you, if he says yes to friends he will keep trying to have sex with you and if you don't he will not want to remain friends. FWB=Yes Just Friends = No Acquaintance/Friendly = Yes Choose one.
Author venuss Posted April 1, 2013 Author Posted April 1, 2013 I think your right in getting rid of this dirtbag. (You need to explain your story a bit because you are confusing people.) I assure you he will NOT go for being in the friendzone without SEX!! I assure you, if he says yes to friends he will keep trying to have sex with you and if you don't he will not want to remain friends. FWB=Yes Just Friends = No Acquaintance/Friendly = Yes Choose one. Acquaintance/Friendly = Yes ....would be great!! And if we are just friendly will he still think about SEX? We had a fight still he will have feelings??
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