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There is a section for dating, one for people with marriage plans, and one for people who are already married. What about one for people who for financial reasons, age, or being in school aren't getting married any time soon but have been together for a while, as in at least a year.

 

I posted in the dating section, and the advice was overwhelmingly to get rid of my boyfriend not to improve things and communicate to work through stuff. Not to say our relationship was great I mean I was asking for advice, but basically everyone told me to just dump him and move on. I guess, since I'm young (20), I should just flit from one relationship to the next without communicating w/ the guy first.

 

Lol...not sure if this would really help the forum in general, but it's something that i thought was missing

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I asked about this before, but I think the response I got was to post in either the Marriage forum or the General Discussion forum.

 

I def. agree that Dating is a horrible place to ask if you're in a committed R. I asked once there before. Never again. :laugh:

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Dear, you said you were with him because you didn't want to be alone, couldn't break up with him because you were in a class together this semester, and weren't attracted to him but thought he was a nice guy. You also wondered if it was okay to flirt with another guy but didn't want to break up with your boyfriend in case the other dude didn't pan out. Now you're upset that every poster, most of whom never agree on anything and normally argue like cats and dogs, told you to leave your boyfriend, rather than stick it out and marry him. Sorry, it wasn't the feedback you wanted, but that doesn't make it wrong.

 

You are twenty. Please learn to let go when a relationship has run its course instead of stringing someone along while you try to line someone else up. What you are doing to your poor boyfriend is cruel! Using someone because you're afraid to be alone is wrong.

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Whoops, I gotta admit I missed the thread. Care to link?

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...Yeah, I agree with you in that case, Cutie. Had no idea that the 'issue' was interest towards another guy. :eek: I thought it was something like less frequent sex, or the dude not taking her out much, or the dude gaining weight, or any of the other millions of issues that tend to prompt the Launch!! response on Dating. :laugh:

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Dear, you said you were with him because you didn't want to be alone, couldn't break up with him because you were in a class together this semester, and weren't attracted to him but thought he was a nice guy. You also wondered if it was okay to flirt with another guy but didn't want to break up with your boyfriend in case the other dude didn't pan out. Now you're upset that every poster, most of whom never agree on anything and normally argue like cats and dogs, told you to leave your boyfriend, rather than stick it out and marry him. Sorry, it wasn't the feedback you wanted, but that doesn't make it wrong.

 

You are twenty. Please learn to let go when a relationship has run its course instead of stringing someone along while you try to line someone else up. What you are doing to your poor boyfriend is cruel! Using someone because you're afraid to be alone is wrong.

 

Did you miss the part where I said our relationship isn't perfect. He isn't perfect either but we accept each other's faults and have similar ideas about relationships. Neither me nor him want to get married anytime soon. Who knows...it might be never since his parents are in a messy divorce and he might not want to. And I'd be ok with that since I'm not a shallow person like some of you seem to be...

 

Anyway, you're twisting my words and I never actually flirted with this guy and I'd never "line someone up" as you said before breaking up with someone. That's what *******s do. Seriously, maybe we should break up but i'd rather actually talk to him about it and see what he has to say.

 

Just because my lifestyle isn't the same as yours doesn't mean you need to get condescending in your post and then mask it behind "good advice".

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I'm not using him. How many times do I have to repeat I haven't actually flirted with this guy, I haven't talked to him since getting back from the mission trip, and he has a lot of red flags so i wouldn't be interested in dating him anyway.

 

Cutie, your advice was the most condescending of anyone's. Seriously I didn't get the persistent winky faces? I never said we were getting married, and some people prefer being in committed relationships instead of casually dating people. As long as our relationship works for both of us who are you to judge?

 

Whatever...ultimately it doesn't matter what you say.

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...Yeah, I agree with you in that case, Cutie. Had no idea that the 'issue' was interest towards another guy. :eek: I thought it was something like less frequent sex, or the dude not taking her out much, or the dude gaining weight, or any of the other millions of issues that tend to prompt the Launch!! response on Dating. :laugh:

 

The Dating section does have its problem threads.:laugh: This wasn't one of those.

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