Author fortyninethousand322 Posted May 17, 2013 Author Posted May 17, 2013 Maybe she is, but maybe she doesn't look like her picture and she is scared of you seeing her. Or maybe she is married. Who knows? It's not necessarily a guy. It could be many things you're right. But I feel like everything I do with women ends up being some kind of personification of Murphy's Law. Nothing ever goes right or easily for me. Hence the desperation and the desire to give up...
CryForNoOne Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 Maybe she is, but maybe she doesn't look like her picture and she is scared of you seeing her. Or maybe she is married. Who knows? It's not necessarily a guy. True but whatever the specifics may be, it's a fraud... 2
pteromom Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 It could be many things you're right. But I feel like everything I do with women ends up being some kind of personification of Murphy's Law. Nothing ever goes right or easily for me. Hence the desperation and the desire to give up... Every attempt will be a failure until the one that is a success. Dust yourself off and get back up and keep trying. You can still keep trying to get her to talk to you, but keep casting your line elsewhere too. I have faith in you. Don't let haters and frauds and liars change who you are. YOU win, not them.
somedude81 Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 Nothing is wrong with you. There are MANY reasons that have nothing to do with you... maybe they are already in a relationship; or are coming out of a bad relationship; or are cripplingly shy; or are insecure and feel you wouldn't like them; or are very busy and don't really want a relationship or to date. Assume it is THEM, not you. And keep moving forward. Yup, it is always them, never you. Get rejected by 50 women in a row, don't worry, it has nothing to do with you. 1
CryForNoOne Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 Yup, it is always them, never you. Get rejected by 50 women in a row, don't worry, it has nothing to do with you. LOL! Funny thing is the moment you start thinking that way, they stop rejecting you! 1
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted May 17, 2013 Author Posted May 17, 2013 I don't have any female friends. It was either they wanted to date me or not. Do not give women more than a 2nd chance. People can sense if you're desperate. Don't focus on getting dates or even hanging with them. Just focus on getting to know them and having fun with them. You are getting way too serious and need to relax. Yeah well if I didn't give people second and third and fourth chances I'd get nowhere. I think I'm going to retire to a fortress of solitude...
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted June 29, 2013 Author Posted June 29, 2013 Just an update on this thread. We were supposed to talk earlier today, but when I went on she was nowhere to be found. I sent her an email and she gave me yet another excuse (this one actually turned out to be legit). But, we ended up talking on the webcam for about half an hour. She is indeed a real person and indeed an actual female. I have/had no expectations except to have a simple conversation with a seemingly interesting woman. I may talk to her again, I may not. I consider this case closed.
kaylan Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 (edited) I do not take romantic interest in women who live more than an hour drive from where I live. Why waste my time? And in a different country? As if. Too many local women to talk to. And itd have to take one really amazing girl for me to take interest in someone far away. The furthest Id go is Canada, and thats because its a realistic distance away from NY. Dont sell yourself short bud. Edited June 29, 2013 by kaylan 1
Imajerk17 Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 It's so sad to see you settle for scraps like this. You in particular could have so much more power and choice with women if you'd only go get it. 2
Cracker Jack Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 I dunno, man. From everything I've read you, it seems like you've submitted to your situation and don't care enough to change it. You're not in the best position, but you're not so far removed to the point where you can't better yourself. You just need to push yourself, like jerk said. There's no reason why you can't. 1
tbf Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 You in particular could have so much more power and choice with women if you'd only go get it.Can you lay it all out for 49322 why it would be him in particular? It might help him get an idea of what traits he possesses that you perceive in a positive light. 1
Imajerk17 Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 (edited) Can you lay it all out for 49322 why it would be him in particular? It might help him get an idea of what traits he possesses that you perceive in a positive light. Yes. From his posts he is clearly smart, articulate, and EMOTIONALLY LITERATE. He seems to be a genuinely good guy. And he has an amazing physique on top of being a natural athlete. Traits that are both rare and in demand. The one thing that is probably holding him back with the ladies is that he doesn't seem to want much out of life. If 49322 got some confidence and fire in him he'd clean up. Edited June 29, 2013 by Imajerk17 6
ThaWholigan Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 Yes. From his posts he is clearly smart, articulate, and EMOTIONALLY LITERATE. He seems to be a genuinely good guy. And he has an amazing physique on top of being a natural athlete. Traits that are both rare and in demand. The one thing that is probably holding him back with the ladies is that he doesn't seem to want much out of life. If 49322 got some confidence and fire in him he'd clean up. You have to find what you want first before you take .
Imajerk17 Posted June 29, 2013 Posted June 29, 2013 You have to find what you want first before you take . Why not try them all in the meanwhile? 2
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