Mtlgrrl Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 Question for the men: What would you think if your mother hates your Long term dating girlfriend? I didnt do anything to his mother & looks like she pretended to like me. Question for the women: Is it normal that it bothers me so much? We had an awesome relationship, found out she never really liked me. I guess thats what hurts. She was fake. What would you do and if you have any experience please share!
TaraMaiden Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 If he's an ex, don't waste time stressing over it. You dodged a bullet, obviously....
Radu Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 Well, my mom is generally normal [and i know she is flawed so i don't idealise her] and tended to not interfere in my relationships ... in which case it would worry me a bit because she might see something i don't see. Unfortunately, in this situation if you don't have the guy on your side and actively taking your side against the future MIL, than the relationship is doomed from the start because she will always have a license to butt in. Most likely you will marry a momma's boy in this case.
Keenly Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 No woman is ever going to be good enough for her little boy. You women will do the same thing when you have a son.
TaraMaiden Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 OP, are you talking about the dysfunctional loser of these two threads......? So is he your ex, or are you still an item?
Ami1uwant Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 Its more likely his mom does not like the idea of meeting someone via some online dating site. My mother was like that. Because she didnt understand it she didnt like it.
Author Mtlgrrl Posted February 16, 2013 Author Posted February 16, 2013 Okay I've met my boyfriend lol and yes we are still together. He is on my side and stood up for me. Theres a lot of back story I'm avoiding because our situation is obviously not common and I'm trying to be anonymous here. You can always go read the past threads I have started which by the way - we are doing better since then! But the situation remains with his mother and as much as I wanna believe him when he says shes not a factor in our lives and he knows she is in the wrong. I'm still concerned and I'm sad as well, we were close me & her. And yes I've met her many times! Were in a real relationship me & my man but its a LDR! I just wanted advice about if he's right not to worry or if this relationship is going to get harder and harder - Thanks!
Author Mtlgrrl Posted February 16, 2013 Author Posted February 16, 2013 Hate is a big word. So know when to use it.maybe She just dont thnk you are the one for him. And maybe you have attitude that she dont like.but that You think its great. Just be nice and focus on your relationship. Okay she probably doesnt ''hates'' me, even he says that. But she out of nowhere decided she does not like me and has stopped speaking to me (we used to call/chat all the time and she used to ask about me every single day to the point that my bf would get sick of it) so what gives?
Treasa Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 No woman is ever going to be good enough for her little boy. You women will do the same thing when you have a son. I'm actually friends with my most recent two exs' moms. Both their moms love me and don't blame me for breaking up with their sons. That being said, my current boyfriend's mom is an alcoholic with a lot of issues. It really bothers my boyfriend. I can tell he wants a happy relationship with his mom like he used to have before she started having problems. All I can do is support him. She doesn't seem to like anyone except her boyfriend.
veggirl Posted February 16, 2013 Posted February 16, 2013 She probably wants him to have a local gf and is worried about the possibility of him marrying a girl in another country who he's never spent more than a couple months with at a time. I'd dislike the idea if I was her.
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