JuneJulySeptember Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 So, one of my Facebook friends who is about 33 years old or so is fairly attractive, probably a solid 6. A 7 maybe if you're into her type. So, a while ago, pics started showing up on her page with this guy. He's short, and a little pudgy, and dresses pretty badly. Pretty nerdy looking actually. And I was like, "Wow, are they dating?" I mean, it wasn't even THAT glaring of a difference. Same race, same height. But still, she could do better physically, you know. His page is private, so I can't tell anything about him except what I see from her page. Then, a while ago, they got engaged. After only dating a while. And it was actually inspirational. I was almost about to come on here and tell the struggling dudes here this inspirational story of this fairly attractive , fairly successful woman marrying this short, geeky looking dude. Maybe they clicked. Maybe she appreciated his heart? Well, I just found out today, the guy is a doctor at a really good hospital. So much for inspiration. :lmao: 1
MrCastle Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 You know, stories like that don't inspire me. They make me angry/make me question why it wasn't me. You know, I'll see a chick in school and think "ahh, she probably goes for the tall, muscular, jock types". Then I'll search her on facebook out of curiosity and her profile pic is her kissing some short, fat, style-less dude. I don't say "aww", I say "arrghh!" That guy could have been me had I met her just a few months prior. Telling you, luck plays a bigger role in success than people will admit to. 4
Estate Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 So, one of my Facebook friends who is about 33 years old or so is fairly attractive, probably a solid 6. A 7 maybe if you're into her type. So, a while ago, pics started showing up on her page with this guy. He's short, and a little pudgy, and dresses pretty badly. Pretty nerdy looking actually. And I was like, "Wow, are they dating?" I mean, it wasn't even THAT glaring of a difference. Same race, same height. But still, she could do better physically, you know. His page is private, so I can't tell anything about him except what I see from her page. Then, a while ago, they got engaged. After only dating a while. And it was actually inspirational. I was almost about to come on here and tell the struggling dudes here this inspirational story of this fairly attractive , fairly successful woman marrying this short, geeky looking dude. Maybe they clicked. Maybe she appreciated his heart? Well, I just found out today, the guy is a doctor at a really good hospital. So much for inspiration. :lmao: Yawn..... same thread over and over and over.... Why are you whining? If you feel you are not physically attractive enough then maybe its out of your control. If you are certain this guy has nothing going for him but a good career then why don't you go and become a doctor, that's totally in your control. So why not do something about it then whine whine whine. Like how do you think he got her... think he walked up to her all sloppy and said "Hey, I'm a doctor" and she dropped her pants? Because I doubt it, mayb he's a really awesome guy who has a lot more going for himself than posting self pity on an internet forum all day. Have a problem? Go fix it. Can we stop these threads until you are a doctor and have nothing more to worry about? 2
pbjbear Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Im trying to expand on my dating lingo...is this an example of hypergamy? Doctors are a no-no for me unless its a doctor that works 9-5 like an oral surgeon or foot doctor or something. I want someone who I actually see on a regular basis
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 I mean, yeah go and make something of your life. Have a successful career. Instead, you chose to spend your time whinging on LS 4
MrCastle Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 I mean, yeah go and make something of your life. Have a successful career. Instead, you chose to spend your time whinging on LS I prefer to spend my time on LS looking at your avatar 3
ThaWholigan Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 I mean, yeah go and make something of your life. Have a successful career. Instead, you chose to spend your time whinging on LS Well, dude did say he had a bunch of masters so he's not exactly done nothing. Maybe he should have gone for a doctorate instead .
Author JuneJulySeptember Posted February 7, 2013 Author Posted February 7, 2013 What's so uninspiring about that? It was inspiring to think that she could have reached somewhat below herself on the food chain on the basis of them perhaps clicking on a mental level or maybe her appreciating that he was a good guy. To see that the guy was a doctor just means he made up the difference in what he lacked in the food chain through money, status, and prestige. And so, instead of being inspirational, it ends up being no different than any other couple who goes for the best they can get.
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 I prefer to spend my time on LS looking at your avatar or be charming like MrCastle 1
ThaWholigan Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 It was inspiring to think that she could have reached somewhat below herself on the food chain on the basis of them perhaps clicking on a mental level or maybe her appreciating that he was a good guy. To see that the guy was a doctor just means he made up the difference in what he lacked in the food chain through money, status, and prestige. And so, instead of being inspirational, it ends up being no different than any other couple who goes for the best they can get. How do you know the money and prestige got him the girl?
Author JuneJulySeptember Posted February 7, 2013 Author Posted February 7, 2013 I mean, yeah go and make something of your life. Have a successful career. Instead, you chose to spend your time whinging on LS My career ain't bad. Lawyer, engineer, banker. Let's just say I'm one of those with a grad degree. But I don't make a lot of $. Definitely not the 200K he likely makes. Don't even come close to touching it. And there's no way I will. But this isn't about me. It's about the idea that someone could appreciate inner over surficial. Like I said, it was inspiring while it lasted.
SJC2008 Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Well going by that logic just go date some hot chick that works at a fast food joint! Care to update us on the woman you recently went out with??
ChessPieceFace Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Maybe you'll feel better when she divorces him and lives off of his alimony & "child support" payments. He's just a walking money bag waiting to be pilfered. 3
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 What kind of doctor are we talking about? Women might not be drawn to a podiatrist the same way they are to a neuro-surgeon or something. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 My career ain't bad. Lawyer, engineer, banker. Let's just say I'm one of those with a grad degree. But I don't make a lot of $. Definitely not the 200K he likely makes. Don't even come close to touching it. And there's no way I will. But this isn't about me. It's about the idea that someone could appreciate inner over surficial. Like I said, it was inspiring while it lasted. That's the thing. You assume it's the money. In reality, you have no idea. What would attract me to a doctor is the fact that he is most likely smart and ambitious. Money has nothing to do with it. Having said that, we would have to connect in many other ways too. It's not as simplistic as you think. 4
Author JuneJulySeptember Posted February 7, 2013 Author Posted February 7, 2013 How do you know the money and prestige got him the girl? Let's just say even if he was a computer/IT guy, which is what he looks like, I'd still be sufficiently inspired. But the fact that he ended up being a doctor just takes us back to the food chain theory. ESPECIALLY because they got engaged in like 5 months or something. Well going by that logic just go date some hot chick that works at a fast food joint! Care to update us on the woman you recently went out with?? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/366476-guys-your-luck-common-gals I cover all the bases! That's the thing. You assume it's the money. In reality, you have no idea. What would attract me to a doctor is the fact that he is most likely smart and ambitious. Money has nothing to do with it. Having said that, we would have to connect in many other ways too. It's not as simplistic as you think. Actually, reality supplies me with the substance for all the material I post here.
Author JuneJulySeptember Posted February 7, 2013 Author Posted February 7, 2013 Well, dude did say he had a bunch of masters so he's not exactly done nothing. Maybe he should have gone for a doctorate instead . So I could teach adjunct for 40K a year without benefits? No thanks.
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 So I could teach adjunct for 40K a year without benefits? No thanks. That's not even close to correct but whatevs. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 The problem with you and other guys like you is that you build your own reality that only serves to validate why you keep failing with women. You reject anything that's not in line with your false beliefs. 5
Author JuneJulySeptember Posted February 7, 2013 Author Posted February 7, 2013 The problem with you and other guys like you is that you build your own reality that only serves to validate why you keep failing with women. You reject anything that's not in line with your false beliefs. Sounds pretty surreal. Perhaps a PsychD can do a dissertation on struggling men and the alternate realities they create. You look like a PsychD.
TheBigQuestion Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 That's not even close to correct but whatevs. It's a very accurate statement if you live in the US. Save for a tiny, tiny handful of subjects, a Ph.D. pretty much makes you unemployable for anything other than part-time lecturing with few or no benefits. Tenure-track positions in most fields are practically nonexistent. I understand the point you were trying to make, but it's pretty clear you don't know much about how things work in the U.S.
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 It's a very accurate statement if you live in the US. Save for a tiny, tiny handful of subjects, a Ph.D. pretty much makes you unemployable for anything other than part-time lecturing with few or no benefits. Tenure-track positions in most fields are practically nonexistent. I understand the point you were trying to make, but it's pretty clear you don't know much about how things work in the U.S. Demand varies across the disciplines, but yeah, don't know much about US system
Negative Nancy Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 It was inspiring to think that she could have reached somewhat below herself on the food chain on the basis of them perhaps clicking on a mental level or maybe her appreciating that he was a good guy. As if man ever do that. The fact that you rated her according to that stupid scale just shows that you are neither better nor less shallow than her, so what's your problem? According to your theory, she shouldn't have picked you anyway, since you can't appreciate women for anything other than looks. 1
StanMusial Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 ... ESPECIALLY because they got engaged in like 5 months... That definitely sounds like a girl who tired of the pump and dump and went for the diamond.
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