jade_nc Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 zara - thank you very much. i am truly thankful for your insight. no, i don't trust my hb. actually, i think that this was just my last straw. he's never been able to be honest with me. that's why a big part of me can't accept that he's telling me the truth this time....especially after having to drag it out of him and listening to his story change over and over and over. i want to be in a relationship with him, and one with trust. this is why i want to find out how to rebuild that trust, but he doesn't want to do that. he's not even speaking to me now. Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 Jmargel - just a note to say that VIP dances near you are toooo cheap. £30 for a VIP with me! But then you make your experiences sound terrible. If you are ever in England i promise you an enjoyable evening's entertainment. No bored dancers and no dances that everyone else can see! Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 Jade..Write him a letter, in that letter write down everything you feel, along with the ultamatium. Either goto counseling with you or that you are leaving. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 I can't add anything here, but J's advice is right. Link to post Share on other sites
zara Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 Originally posted by jmargel Jade..Write him a letter, in that letter write down everything you feel, along with the ultamatium. Either goto counseling with you or that you are leaving. This says it all - Jade, it is not your burden to face alone, nor should it be. A relationship needs to people to participate equally and to share. Your husband has to do this... Link to post Share on other sites
shortbus74 Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 zara...thank you for adding your insight... zara brings up really good points in her post.... Link to post Share on other sites
zara Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 Aw, shucks - you're making me blush! lol! Link to post Share on other sites
crazycatwoman Posted October 6, 2004 Share Posted October 6, 2004 Im so sorry he treated you this way..... i believe for your own mind and soul, get this marriage annuled, dont wait for him to cheat on you again, then you will have to get divorced, you will have invested more of your heart,soul, and valuable time....... life is short find someone who will respect your wishes and keep his word rubbing another womans Pu$$Y.....is cheating weither it was paid for or free action is discusting to think the man you married did this, and its horrible you had to press and beg to know what happened i think you should annul your marriage for the disrespect alone, you made a deal he broke it .....its obvious he does not respect you as for the people saying they were in counselling they shouldnt have married anyways.....how do you know they had horrible problems, maybe it was just regular premarital couselling about what to expect.... so annul it , get out ........... now the second part your own father betrayed you , i would not put up with this, does he know how much he hurt you, does he even care. you said your fathers infidelity has become a issue.......i would not go to his home, visit your mother only, show her its ok to leave a cheater, and maybe she will follow your lead, you both deserve better..... i would not act like all is ok, i would let my father know i hated him for what he did, because if you annul this marriage, meet a nice new guy, introduce him to your father......... and your father is still the same person .......he will f**k you over again .......... keep your father away from anyone new.......... ok thats what i would do........good luck Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted October 6, 2004 Share Posted October 6, 2004 This was not a strip club, it was a brothel Finally! Someone's calling this what it really is -- prostitution! The guy paid for sexual services...in most law books that's good enough for a fine and a night in the holding cell. Yes, by all means, bail from the marriage. It's called cutting your losses. Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted October 6, 2004 Share Posted October 6, 2004 Pre-marriage counselling is also prescribed in the Dutch Reformed church (that I was brought up in), but not mandatory, I suppose. I think marriage counselling before getting married is very important. Too many people think it's a fairy tale and barbie/ken house-house. EDIT: Hey! You changed your post! Link to post Share on other sites
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