HitMeNow Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Long story short, I've been seeing this girl for a while. Things are developing nicely. Last friday, it was her birthday so I hung out with her and her friends. This sunday she's asking me again to hang out with her and her friends to got to this heavy metal concert. Now pros and cons. - I somewhat like heavy metal. - I have nothing planned for sunday. - I have schoolwork - It's a bit pricey. - Don't know if I ll feel comfy enough, since I dont know her friends that well. Cheers,
KungFuJoe Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Long story short, I've been seeing this girl for a while. Things are developing nicely. Last friday, it was her birthday so I hung out with her and her friends. This sunday she's asking me again to hang out with her and her friends to got to this heavy metal concert. Now pros and cons. - I somewhat like heavy metal. - I have nothing planned for sunday. - I have schoolwork - It's a bit pricey. - Don't know if I ll feel comfy enough, since I dont know her friends that well. Cheers, Holy crap it's not like she's asking you to speak in front of a class or anything like that...it's just hanging out some people. Go and have fun! 1
carhill Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 How long is 'awhile'? Do these friends, presuming female, have boyfriends/husbands? If so, will said men be attending?
KungFuJoe Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 How long is 'awhile'? Do these friends, presuming female, have boyfriends/husbands? If so, will said men be attending? Umm...who cares? 1
carhill Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 I do, and why is none of your business, so focus on the topic. 1
KungFuJoe Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 I do, and why is none of your business, so focus on the topic. I am focusing on the topic. Who gives a **** what friends go. The important thing is she wants op to meet her friends, which is ALWAYS a good thing. Op, if you like the girl and you're cool with the "scene" then just go. Don't worry about who her friends are...you're going to have to meet them one day anyways. Break out of that shell!
Author HitMeNow Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 How long is 'awhile'? Do these friends, presuming female, have boyfriends/husbands? If so, will said men be attending? It's a group of friends all single. A guy, and 2-3 girls I think.
Mycteria Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 I do, and why is none of your business, so focus on the topic. But it might be helpful for the OP to know why, which IS on topic.
carhill Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 I am focusing on the topic. Who gives a **** what friends go. Again, stop with the confrontational language. If you disagree, do so, and do it respectfully. OP, are you in an exclusive monogamous sexual relationship? Has the lady met your friends and hung out with them? Meeting friends can be 'good' and it can also be 'filler' if the nature of the relationship is unclear. I'll take a look at your backstory.
KungFuJoe Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Holy crap...talk about "overthinking". Geez...I wonder how some of you even make it out the door in the morning. "Should I wear the brown or black shoes? If I wear black, someone might think I'm trying to outdress them. But if I wear brown, then maybe I won't be appropriate in case something .........." ...oh **** it. I'm out....
carhill Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 OP, I noted this in your first thread here: Hey everyone, First time poster. Needed to vent somewhere and this forum seems like a good place. So I made the mistake of falling for a FWB friend of mine. I haven't told her yet. I myself am very collected, usually don't contact first girls type of guy. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/366325-where-going-my-fwb-she-into-me Is this the lady in question?
Author HitMeNow Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 The important thing is she wants op to meet her friends, which is ALWAYS a good thing. Op, if you like the girl and you're cool with the "scene" then just go. Don't worry about who her friends are...you're going to have to meet them one day anyways. Break out of that shell! I agree. Although I am used to going out with a person on their own. And Idk what's the standard for hanging out in a social situation. Do you each do your own thing? Do you stay always with each other? Do you hang out as if you were with a friend? I also do not wanna feel like I am just following her wherever she goes. Probably I am just bored and overthinking.
carhill Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Holy crap...talk about "overthinking". Geez...I wonder how some of you even make it out the door in the morning. "Should I wear the brown or black shoes? If I wear black, someone might think I'm trying to outdress them. But if I wear brown, then maybe I won't be appropriate in case something .........." ...oh **** it. I'm out.... With due respect, apparently you've never been used as 'filler'. As the OP's situation, based on his first thread of 1/13, if it is this person, is somewhat nebulous, I ask questions to learn more. It's a discussion forum and he brought the issue to the forum. Since I've had LTR's and have been married and have been 'used' by women, I bring that perspective to the discussion. You bring yours. Both are valid. EOS.
Author HitMeNow Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 Is this the lady in question? Yes it is. Lol
KungFuJoe Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Probably I am just bored and overthinking. Bingo (10 char)
carhill Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 OP, seeing that you have two other FWB's whom you are apparently concurrently sexual with, in addition to this lady you're dating, it appears this whole dynamic is currently casual, so I'll reverse myself and align with KungFuJoe regarding bringing this particular nuance up. Additionally, as it appears this FWB is paying for you, or has in the past, hanging out with her friends at this concert will mainly be an investment of time. Perhaps it will perk your interest in heavy metal. I'll close with a statement you made in your first thread: I posted here cuz I wanted to vent and I am really curious about how she views "us"... I am just venting. I won't have any talks with her. I don't even know if I m ready for a relationship, but I will let her know that I care in a very simple way and Whatever will be Will be. I can't control the future, so I d rather just live it and find out Sounds good. Go with that.
Author HitMeNow Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 OP, seeing that you have two other FWB's whom you are apparently concurrently sexual with, in addition to this lady you're dating, it appears this whole dynamic is currently casual, so I'll reverse myself and align with KungFuJoe regarding bringing this particular nuance up. Additionally, as it appears this FWB is paying for you, or has in the past, hanging out with her friends at this concert will mainly be an investment of time. Perhaps it will perk your interest in heavy metal. I'll close with a statement you made in your first thread: I posted here cuz I wanted to vent and I am really curious about how she views "us"... I am just venting. I won't have any talks with her. I don't even know if I m ready for a relationship, but I will let her know that I care in a very simple way and Whatever will be Will be. I can't control the future, so I d rather just live it and find out Sounds good. Go with that. Haha thanks a lot guys and say bye to 60$ . Always nice to come and talk about this kind of childish stuff somewhere. (Obviously I wouldn't be able to talk about this with anyone in real life, or my whole "laid back cool guy" perception would get shattered)
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