HitMeNow Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Hey everyone, First time poster. Needed to vent somewhere and this forum seems like a good place. So I made the mistake of falling for a FWB friend of mine. I haven't told her yet. I myself am very collected, usually don't contact first girls type of guy. I ll type in some of the things that I've noticed and someone figure out if she's into me like that or not. - she's a few years older than me, more experienced. - buys me gifts, food, drinks. - We have had ok-ish sex, she orgasms at least a few times, but I have been pretty tired most of the times, so nothing super mind blowing (like I'm used to make girls feel ) - we used to see each other once a week or two, lately more often. - she has been with 1 or 2 other guys while together... Not lately though. And has cut contact with the ones she was with. - we cuddle a lot more lately. - she started initiating texts a little bit lately. - I usually am super afraid of being too attached / clingy, so I only text once in 10 days. - I have another 2 FWBs she knows about. - When I ask her about her other guys, she asks me why I am asking as to imply that we are just friends. - She has flopped a few times on our plans (like 20% of the times) and has almost never initiated plans. I am used to girls just desiring the **** out of me. - I've started thinking a lot about her when I'm not with her. I am a lot more confident than I sound here.... usually. I also have read all over everywhere that the guy should never bring up relationships. It should always be the girl. I am lost.
DC4 Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Maybe she is asking why you are asking because she is thinking the same thing you are and doesn't want to be the first person to say it? There's no rule about who can initiate "the talk." If you're feeling it, do it.
Author HitMeNow Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 I just feel like if I try to lock her (which I don't even know if I wanna do), it will just push her away
sabre80 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Does it really matter if you lose her? Do you want to continue in this arrangement knowing she could at any point get it on with someone else while you have feelings. Better to find out where you stand and move forward or move on.
Author HitMeNow Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 Yes it does, but I am pretty sure I am not going to lose her. I am pretty confident that if she gets with someone else she'll just come back running... cuz yes Im that good
ScreamingTrees Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Yes it does, but I am pretty sure I am not going to lose her. I am pretty confident that if she gets with someone else she'll just come back running... cuz yes Im that good Well, then go out and buy her a ring or something, man. Speed up the process.
Author HitMeNow Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 Well, then go out and buy her a ring or something, man. Speed up the process. I didn't get this at all? I am DEFINITELY not anywhere close to buying a ring for someone in the next 10 years
ScreamingTrees Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 I didn't get this at all? I am DEFINITELY not anywhere close to buying a ring for someone in the next 10 years Obviously not. If you were so sure she's that into you as you say she is, you'd have talked to her already. You obviously have your doubts, or else you wouldn't have come here. Just talk to her. 1
sabre80 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Yes it does, but I am pretty sure I am not going to lose her. I am pretty confident that if she gets with someone else she'll just come back running... cuz yes Im that good What what happens when she gets with someone an inch longer and a half inch thicker, who can gyrate his hips a little better and has more stamina. Your words speak confidence but your posted question asking for advice says insecurity. There is always someone better.
Author HitMeNow Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 What what happens when she gets with someone an inch longer and a half inch thicker, who can gyrate his hips a little better and has more stamina. Your words speak confidence but your posted question asking for advice says insecurity. There is always someone better. I honestly dont believe that size and hip movement makes much of a difference. I think I get some stuff a lot better than the average guy. The level of comfortability and soul connection that I reach with people is usually unreal... And IMO if a woman I'm seeing finds someone else that is better / more compatible than me, then I should be nothing but happy for that person, right?.. Locking a person just for that person to not be with other people, should not be a good thing... And I posted here cuz I wanted to vent and I am really curious about how she views "us"... I am just venting. I won't have any talks with her. I don't even know if I m ready for a relationship, but I will let her know that I care in a very simple way and Whatever will be Will be. I can't control the future, so I d rather just live it and find out
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