TaraMaiden Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 You'd be amazed - sincerely - how few people seem to care, here in the UK. I'm astounded, honestly. And the thing is, it seems I'm not the only astounded one... whenever the person-on-the-phone-shopping has finally paid and left - still with the damn thing stuck to their ear - the following shopper invariably looks after them in disdainful amazement, and tells me they think the behaviour is sooo rude.... And it is. But it's all too common, and politeness is rare.... "Courtesy: A form of polite behaviour practised by civilised people, when they can be bothered to find the time."
MrCastle Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Texting>>>talking on the phone in public. Once again texting wins
Queenie42 Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Choose your weapon of communication wisely. It really depends on what medium is more appropriate for the situation. I find texting better for short and sweet messages which don't require a lot of detail, if more information or interaction is needed, use the phone proper. The big issue in this case is that tone is sometimes hard to convey in text only. Hence mixed messages and misinterpretations and everything went badly. It's easier to fix mix ups like this over the phone because she could have heard in his voice that he was joking, and he could have heard that she was genuinely confused.
Lillygoose Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 WHAT ARE YOU ON ABOUT, seriously? Do the whole of england a favor, and keep to where ever it is you are! 1
dasein Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Don't text early before meeting in person. Spare yourself and her this kind of annoyance and confusion.
Shardish Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 WHAT ARE YOU ON ABOUT, seriously? Do the whole of england a favor, and keep to where ever it is you are! He's from Philadelphia and the last time I looked at an atlas Philadelphia was in the United States of America and not England.
ShannonMI Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Been getting to know someone for a week over text and talking on the phone. So today I decided to be silly and send a text saying......"Looking forward to seeing you tonight" She responds back.........."Who is this" I was like....No she did not delete my number when all our conversations have been pleasant" So I send a text back saying....You are a weirdo" and then she replies that she has a new phone and that she did't recognize the number. I don't know I;m kind of turned off by "who is this" text since I know I have only asked that when I deleted someone and moved on. I don't even recall us have a convo that would lead her to deleting my number. Perhaps she told you the truth?? Maybe she did get a new phone and didn't transfer her contacts. It happens. Shocker. These women have no chance with you. Like the girl who innocently asked if you drive. You hung up on her. This girl gets a new phone,loses her contacts, doesnt recognize your number and she's called a weirdo. There is no winning with you. 2
TaraMaiden Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 He's from Philadelphia and the last time I looked at an atlas Philadelphia was in the United States of America and not England. Exactly. Read it again- Wherever you are - stay there - don't come here!
Casablanca Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 I would, unless she also asked me if I drove I would, she could of changed phones or perhaps she didn't put in your name because you two hadn't met yet and just had your number in the recent call numbers, who knows. Don't nit pick
ShannonMI Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 I would, unless she also asked me if I drove I would, she could of changed phones or perhaps she didn't put in your name because you two hadn't met yet and just had your number in the recent call numbers, who knows. Don't nit pick All he does is nit pick. God help any girl that dates him. She won't be able to say or do sh*t. 2
anne1707 Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 She won't be able to say or do sh*t. She'll probably do that the wrong colour for the OP too Apologies to those of a sensitive disposition 2
Author PhillyDude Posted February 27, 2013 Author Posted February 27, 2013 Perhaps she told you the truth?? Maybe she did get a new phone and didn't transfer her contacts. It happens. Shocker. These women have no chance with you. Like the girl who innocently asked if you drive. You hung up on her. This girl gets a new phone,loses her contacts, doesnt recognize your number and she's called a weirdo. There is no winning with you. It takes communication skills to have a successful conversation.
ShannonMI Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 It takes communication skills to have a successful conversation. She could have easily just not transferred her contacts. Do this girl a favor as well and don't text or call her back.
Shardish Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Yes and she COMMUNICATED with you instead of letting it go to voicemail. She could have said hello first. She was rude, but PhillyDude is overreacting here. Still it's his decision, if it's a deal breaker, it's a deal breaker.
ShannonMI Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 She could have said hello first. She was rude, but PhillyDude is overreacting here. Still it's his decision, if it's a deal breaker, it's a deal breaker. We got his threads mixed up hahahahaha I noticed it and went back and edited my post. They are both redundant so no wonder.
Author PhillyDude Posted February 27, 2013 Author Posted February 27, 2013 A very valid question was asked that you didn't even acknowledge. DID you have plans with her that evening? If not, then she had every right to be thrown off guard when someone is referencing supposed plans she has that night that she doesn't even KNOW about. It's plain creepy. Why does every little stupid thing have to be a travesty? Fake names, drama, displaced anger, ludicrous expectations, having a 'fetish list' and all this nonsense. Like the other poster said, this constant crap reads like a Seinfeld script. They all had the most RIDICULOUS reasons not to date people or to 'next' them. I'm wondering how long it will be before you post that you had to dump a girl (under your assumed name, of course) because she ate her PEAS individually. My friggen head hurts. I was calling to set up plans for tomorrow or friday, but now she has to wait
ShannonMI Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 I was calling to set up plans for tomorrow or friday, but now she has to wait So you are punishing her? That's messed up. Just don't call her. She's better off. 1
Author PhillyDude Posted February 27, 2013 Author Posted February 27, 2013 So you are punishing her? That's messed up. Just don't call her. She's better off. If i get a message from someone else who is better looking I may just do that
Author PhillyDude Posted February 28, 2013 Author Posted February 28, 2013 Just imagine if she wanted to have a girls night out, go visit her parents, have an opinion of her own, disagree with him, etc. All the Philly guys thinks it's cool to wear wife beaters and PhillyDude is one step away from being one. There was a girl a few years ago that was always going back home to visit her parents like she was 10. I got sick of it because she was acting like she was going to die if she didn't see her parents every week
Treasa Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I was calling to set up plans for tomorrow or friday, but now she has to wait Actually, you weren't calling. And you weren't setting up plans. Communication is the key to a successful relationship, or something like that. At least, that's what I recently read on here. 1
MidwestUSA Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 There was a girl a few years ago that was always going back home to visit her parents like she was 10. I got sick of it because she was acting like she was going to die if she didn't see her parents every week What some would see as an endearing quality, you, oh never mind.
Drseussgrrl Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Are you for real OP? Sorry but I get the hunch that you might be the very LAST person who can be so picky about such insignificant garbage. You don't even like these girls 10 seconds into a normal human interaction. 1
serial muse Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Well, this is still relevant. PhillyDude, I asked you once in another thread of yours whether you ever take any of these comments in - meaning, do you actually ever say to yourself, "A lot of people on loveshack are telling me I sound very difficult and nit-picky; I wonder if there's anything to that?"? You didn't answer that question, so I'm asking it again. So. Do you? I mean honestly, does it ever even occur to you that this might be something for you to think about and even work on?
sydneysider1978 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 (edited) Phillydude, can you answer serial muses question? I have to wonder if any girl manages to negotiate all these strange communication rules that you have. In fact I have to wonder what you are like in all your personal relationships. Do you blow up this often with your friends and family? 1. I'm a functioning, professional person. When i got a new phone, I don't think I had time to set up and transfer all my numbers straight away. Her excuse sounds genuine to me. 2. If a guy I'd met online sent me a text saying "looking forward to seeing you tonight" and we hadn't made plans, I'd probably assume that text was meant for another girl. In fact, I think that happened to me. I thought it was funny rather than offensive, poked fun at him. I still think we went on a date. Edited February 28, 2013 by sydneysider1978
Phoebe Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 No, only the name I gave her. And see this is why I don't like using my real name because there is no guarantee you are going to meet face to face. Maybe I'm missing something here but what is the problem with giving your real name? It doesn't even have to be your full name if that makes you uncomfortable, no one's asking for your SSN, address, bank info. Personally if I found out the guy I'd been talking to for a week had been using a false name it would freak me out.
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