lulzatyourface Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 This thread is related to this thread. So, I got a text from him tonight saying hi at around 11:30. The conversation was basically in three parts (all through text): The first part of the conversation, he kept on calling himself a jerk and an asshole for ignoring me for so long. He constantly asked if I wanted him to leave me alone, that he deserved for me to be angry at him, that he is a terrible person, etc. I told him that I forgave him and that he isn't an asshole. Out of nowhere, he suddenly says that he didn't blow me off, which is the second part of the conversation. He claims that he never got the text that I sent back to him on Christmas Eve, so he thought I was ignoring him. Then when the 26th rolled around, he was going to ask me to hang out, but because I had already deleted him off Facebook and was being short with him, he assumed I was so mad that I would say no. He also was confused because, again, he thought I was disinterested. So, we acknowledged that it was a misunderstanding, and I asked if he wanted to give us another try. Which brings us to the third part of the conversation. Before me, he had dated a girl for six months. (He had liked her for a year and a half beforehand.) When we started hanging out, they had been broken up for four months. He said that he had convinced himself that he was over her, and that he was genuinely interested in me. But, a few days after New Year's Eve, she called him and he realized that he still had strong feelings for her. They hung out a couple of times during his break, but he ultimately decided to sever all ties with her tonight because he felt as if she was leading him on. He said that while he likes me, he's not in the "best state of mind" to be with me at the moment, and that he's just trying to be fair to me. However, he said that when he feels ready, he might want to pursue something with me in the future. He wants to keep talking to me and see where things go. I don't know what to think. First of all, as petty as it is, I'm sort of irked that he apologized through a text. I think a call would have been a bit more sincere. But, that's not the point, ha ha. I really like/d him. But I feel like I'm in a shitty position. On one hand, I feel as if he really wanted to be with me, he'd choose to do so. On the other hand, he just ended two years of feelings, and I've been in a similar position. I know how it feels, and I know that, at the time, I didn't want to jump right into another relationship either. I'm still interested in him, so what should I do if I want to be with him in the future? Or is he just setting me up as a rebound?
MrCastle Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 You're right. If he wanted to be with you, he would have. I always feel the need to preface my advice with a warning that I'm a scorpio to the bone and have a very extreme, black/white personality. I don't do maybe's, eventually's, or possibly's--you either give me a yes, or we're done. The day a girl would have said she wasn't ready to date me exclusively would have been the last day we spoke. For me; all sales are final. If your personality is more flexible, and you want to wait around, by all means. I most likely wouldn't do the same.
Author lulzatyourface Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 So, he texted me both Friday night and Sunday night. I decided to respond politely. However, he got annoyed at me both nights because apparently I was being short with him. I told him that while I forgave him, it would take me a while to be willing to open back up again. That seemed to annoy him even more. And when I tried to fix it, he would just shoot me down. First of all, why is he being so immature? Plus, isn't texting, especially only at night, sort of a weak form of communication? I'm about done with him.
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