PJKino Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 What a sad thread basically women whining that they cant get men out of their league and how women only date and marry non hot guys out of depseration to get married and have kids Society has fallen Link to post Share on other sites
iKING Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 What a sad thread basically women whining that they cant get men out of their league and how women only date and marry non hot guys out of depseration to get married and have kids Society has fallen Society fell a long time ago, didn't you get the memo? Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 What a sad thread basically women whining that they cant get men out of their league and how women only date and marry non hot guys out of depseration to get married and have kids Society has fallen We never hear that from men, ever... Honestly, it's sad all the way around when you think of it that way. I do know happily married people, and I haven't jumped on anyone in desperation, in my old age. Link to post Share on other sites
TheBigQuestion Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 Most of my male friends who are engaged or married have partners who are more or less in the same league both looks-wise and in terms of their stations in life. Significant discrepancies in either quality tend to make for short-lived relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 And anyone who "settles" is making a choice. They value being with someone they might not be fully into (or who might not be fully into them) over the prospect of being alone. It's a choice. Sometimes we don't like our options, but as adults we have to make the best out of them. This true, but it's more socially acceptable to be part of a couple even if you settled than to be single. I have to defend my choice to be single over settling all the time. My dentist was asking me questions about why I am single few days back I am sick being offered to be set up with people's friends or cousins. Argh!!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mesmerized Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 This true, but it's more socially acceptable to be part of a couple even if you settled than to be single. I have to defend my choice to be single over settling all the time. My dentist was asking me questions about why I am single few days back I am sick being offered to be set up with people's friends or cousins. Argh!!!! I want to punch random people who ask me "why are you single?". What do they really expect me to say? Do they think relationship is something you can go buy at the store down the street? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 I want to punch random people who ask me "why are you single?". What do they really expect me to say? Do they think relationship is something you can go buy at the store down the street? I think when people say that what they mean is "gee, you're an amazing person who's good looking, why haven't men (or if you're a guy women) beaten a path to your door"? It's a compliment, hardly something to take offense to... Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 I want to punch random people who ask me "why are you single?". What do they really expect me to say? Do they think relationship is something you can go buy at the store down the street? Exactly! What even makes it OK for people that barely know you to ask you that? I don't go around asking people why they settled. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
mesmerized Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 I think when people say that what they mean is "gee, you're an amazing person who's good looking, why haven't men (or if you're a guy women) beaten a path to your door"? It's a compliment, hardly something to take offense to... sometimes it's a compliment, sometimes they're trying to say "something must be/is wrong with you". In any case, it's an annoying question to answer to someone you barely know. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 sometimes it's a compliment, sometimes they're trying to say "something must be/is wrong with you". In any case, it's an annoying question to answer to someone you barely know. I went on a date with this guy once. Horrible person actually - was just trying to get in my pants. One of his first "let us get to know each other" questions was "What is your favorite position?" However the whole date was spent talking about something being wrong with me since I was single... I ended the date by telling him that guys like him was the reason I was single. I won't doubt something is wrong with me but people tend to forget the pickings are slim..teehee I rather be alone and working towards a relationship then settling for any ole relationship. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Bito Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 Because why settle for anyone? I dont want a relationship with someone im not happy with . Im very happy being alone so im not going to jump into a relationship just because. Link to post Share on other sites
mesmerized Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 I went on a date with this guy once. Horrible person actually - was just trying to get in my pants. One of his first "let us get to know each other" questions was "What is your favorite position?" However the whole date was spent talking about something being wrong with me since I was single... I ended the date by telling him that guys like him was the reason I was single. I won't doubt something is wrong with me but people tend to forget the pickings are slim..teehee I rather be alone and working towards a relationship then settling for any ole relationship. oh man, I laughed so hard, and you're pretty much right. I went on a date with a guy who chocked on his drink when I said how long I had been single. I've actually decided to start lying about it, say a few months or something. I think they will like that better. Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 oh man, I laughed so hard, and you're pretty much right. I went on a date with a guy who chocked on his drink when I said how long I had been single. I've actually decided to start lying about it, say a few months or something. I think they will like that better. I get it all the time. Especially if I am just trying to see a guy casually - they usually are under some notion that I am just cheating on my boyfriend. Guys say the darndest things. Link to post Share on other sites
iKING Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 oh man, I laughed so hard, and you're pretty much right. I went on a date with a guy who chocked on his drink when I said how long I had been single. I've actually decided to start lying about it, say a few months or something. I think they will like that better. That's pretty funny. Do you think people make judgment calls based on time spent alone? Just curious really. Although I may just go with the honesty route on that one just to get a good laugh out of the reaction. Link to post Share on other sites
mesmerized Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 That's pretty funny. Do you think people make judgment calls based on time spent alone? Just curious really. Although I may just go with the honesty route on that one just to get a good laugh out of the reaction. The only reason it's funny for you is because it's happening to someone else not you. And yes, guys are specially very judgmental when it comes to this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 Time spent single is irrelevant to me. Like all "history" questions, I just wouldn't bother to ask and wouldn't really want to know. Then again, I'm kind of weird like that. And my opinion never really matters on these kinds of things... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Bito Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 Time spent single is irrelevant to me. Like all "history" questions, I just wouldn't bother to ask and wouldn't really want to know. Then again, I'm kind of weird like that. And my opinion never really matters on these kinds of things... It matters to the only person who matters. Yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
iKING Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 The only reason it's funny for you is because it's happening to someone else not you. And yes, guys are specially very judgmental when it comes to this. Actually I ask because I'm in the same boat and am getting an idea of what to expect should the topic arise Link to post Share on other sites
mesmerized Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 Actually I ask because I'm in the same boat and am getting an idea of what to expect should the topic arise lol I don't know what to tell you cause I don't know how women react. Probably not as bad as men...Men are not expected to always be in relationships!! Link to post Share on other sites
mesmerized Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 Time spent single is irrelevant to me. Like all "history" questions, I just wouldn't bother to ask and wouldn't really want to know. Then again, I'm kind of weird like that. And my opinion never really matters on these kinds of things... lol you're so cute. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TheBigQuestion Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 Time spent single is irrelevant to me. Like all "history" questions, I just wouldn't bother to ask and wouldn't really want to know. Then again, I'm kind of weird like that. And my opinion never really matters on these kinds of things... Of all aspects of a woman's history, I think the last thing I'd ask about is for how long she's been single. Then again, perpetually single women who are seemingly normal and attractive who are getting up there in years will have at least something "off" about them. It could be commitment issues, unrealistic expectations, Cluster B disorders which make dating them a downright traumatic experience (particularly borderline and histrionic, as the vast majority of people diagnosed with these disorders are women), workaholism, and so forth. Even though things are slowly changing (and for the better, in my opinion), most people nowadays will not reach their late 30s/early 40s and stay single if they've spent their lives being open to being in relationships. On the other hand, if you're dealing with younger women, I actually think it's a positive thing when they reveal to you that they've been single for a long time. People need time to grow by themselves when in their 20s. Serial monogamists do not really give themselves that opportunity. Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 Of all aspects of a woman's history, I think the last thing I'd ask about is for how long she's been single. Then again, perpetually single women who are seemingly normal and attractive who are getting up there in years will have at least something "off" about them. It could be commitment issues, unrealistic expectations, Cluster B disorders which make dating them a downright traumatic experience (particularly borderline and histrionic, as the vast majority of people diagnosed with these disorders are women), workaholism, and so forth. Even though things are slowly changing (and for the better, in my opinion), most people nowadays will not reach their late 30s/early 40s and stay single if they've spent their lives being open to being in relationships. On the other hand, if you're dealing with younger women, I actually think it's a positive thing when they reveal to you that they've been single for a long time. People need time to grow by themselves when in their 20s. Serial monogamists do not really give themselves that opportunity. Most people with borderline and histronic personality disorders are never single. They are usually incapable of being alone and jump from one disastrous relationship to another. Just sayin' 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Lonely Ronin Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 oh man, I laughed so hard, and you're pretty much right. I went on a date with a guy who chocked on his drink when I said how long I had been single. I've actually decided to start lying about it, say a few months or something. I think they will like that better. If it makes you feel any better, I'm a guy and I get it as well. One or two women gave me the vide that they thought i was a player or a commitment phobe because i have been single for going on 2 1/2 years. Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 If it makes you feel any better, I'm a guy and I get it as well. One or two women gave me the vide that they thought i was a player or a commitment phobe because i have been single for going on 2 1/2 years. It's almost cool to be thought of as a player Link to post Share on other sites
TheBigQuestion Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 Most people with borderline and histronic personality disorders are never single. They are usually incapable of being alone and jump from one disastrous relationship to another. Just sayin' Yep. Primarily short-term, disastrous relationships, rather than long-term relationships including but not limited to marriage. That's exactly what I said. Link to post Share on other sites
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