Damsel in Distress Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Hi Destroyed. Sorry last night was bad. You really don't know what TM would say?? I don't think you need her to spell it out. Are you saying the dad called again or just the one time? I think you should block the dad (based on how much it set you back). But if he's a sick man and you think he's truly worried about her, how much worse harm can it do to text him, "Sorry I'm not in contact with her" before you block him. Sounds like she's caused him a fair share of suffering too. But that's just me speaking as a parent myself. You have to decide what's best for you and what you can handle. Hang in there Destroyed. I was worried last night and glad you checked in with LS today.
cavalier99 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 I ***n blocked him...put on blacklist. anyway, you can do more than a blacklist? bc you can still see that they called if u look at missed calls....IS THERE ANYWAY OUT OF.THIS TORTURE? Yes the way out is to stop thinking so much, time and staying NC. The other option is to turn to harcore drugs and alcohol and then slut your way out of it! Cav 1
destroyed4sho Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Yes the way out is to stop thinking so much, time and staying NC. The other option is to turn to harcore drugs and alcohol and then slut your way out of it! Cav Thats what a friend told me...and.then.she got an std 2 weeks after her bf dumped her.
destroyed4sho Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 damsel- i know you had said you want him to call/contact.you but trust me you DONT!! i bet he will though soon enough...it aint fun
cavalier99 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Thats what a friend told me...and.then.she got an std 2 weeks after her bf dumped her. Did it work? I mean hey... there are always sacrifices. Lol 1
destroyed4sho Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 i need to start slutting it up..maybe an std is worth it. lol. But how can i? I walk around.like a zombie
destroyed4sho Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Did it work? I mean hey... there are always sacrifices. Lol yeah it did work. and she is STILL slutting around...and its been months. she doesnt talk about him at all...i asked her the other day..she was like who? She forgot all about him..lol 1
cavalier99 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 i need to start slutting it up..maybe an std is worth it. lol. But how can i? I walk around.like a zombie Maybe just stick to NC. Lol Now slutty girl wants to go out tonight. This dating stuff is taxing. Cant decide. She is a partier and it will be total decadence. And i like this..but i dont also. I dont know what i want..confused.....Heeeelp!
Damsel in Distress Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Well, damsel lost a LDR...maybe you can stand in his place for a while until she recovers...and you can have a LDR TOO along with the other 2 local gfs...lol..its a win.win situation..:-) LOL That would be a win for Cav "4sho", but I suspect it would be a bit (maybe a LOT) cougar-ish, lol. And I don't think any self-respecting woman would allow herself to be one of stable of THREE! And I think if we add in the latina dance instructor, we might be up to four. That Cav gets around! 2
destroyed4sho Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Hi Destroyed. Sorry last night was bad. You really don't know what TM would say?? I don't think you need her to spell it out. Are you saying the dad called again or just the one time? I think you should block the dad (based on how much it set you back). But if he's a sick man and you think he's truly worried about her, how much worse harm can it do to text him, "Sorry I'm not in contact with her" before you block him. Sounds like she's caused him a fair share of suffering too. But that's just me speaking as a parent myself. You have to decide what's best for you and what you can handle. Hang in there Destroyed. I was worried last night and glad you checked in with LS today. Hmm interesting..yeah she isnt the best daughter...i have many stories about that. I know maybe I should text him something like that...or like 'i see you called. sorry i couldnt answer. I am no longer in contact with her. have a goodday'... Last.nite is the last meltdown im.ever going to have with this situation. IM DONE. Im going.out.tonight and having a drink. 1
destroyed4sho Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Maybe just stick to NC. Lol Now slutty girl wants to go out tonight. This dating stuff is taxing. Cant decide. She is a partier and it will be total decadence. And i like this..but i dont also. I dont know what i want..confused.....Heeeelp! cmon cav. you know you want to...:-).....i would if i could. Plus you dont want the girl to think it was a one nighter....take her to dinner, seafood and clams. yumm then you can post about it later.:-) 1
cavalier99 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 That would be a win for Cav "4sho", but I suspect it would be a bit (maybe a LOT) cougar-ish, lol. And I don't think any self-respecting woman would allow herself to be one of stable of THREE! And I think if we add in the latina dance instructor, we might be up to four. That Cav gets around! Lol Ha. This is just a recent occurence with my new found confidence. My RS was 8 years. Im also not as young as NA and a lot of the posters here. I just figured youd like an ego boost! 1
cavalier99 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 cmon cav. you know you want to...:-).....i would if i could. Plus you dont want the girl to think it was a one nighter....take her to dinner, seafood and clams. yumm then you can post about it later.:-) No I AM thinking i want her to think it was a one night thing. The problem is i have her necklace and 1 earing. I may just have to take one for the team. Lol 2
destroyed4sho Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 im not a youngie either. i figured cav wasnt young bc of the long relationship.
cavalier99 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 So confused and indecisive. This is whole new set of concerns that im not used to. Not kidding. All this has sorta caught me.unprepared believe it or not. I guess im grateful that these thought are not EX related. I just sorta want to go to.the gym and go out with other girl next week. Sorry im sure my dilema sounds completly miniscule to the newly heart broken. 2
destroyed4sho Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Cav..this is all great stuff!! Whatever you decide to do it better then staying home! I would go.to.the gym and go have one drink with slutty. Tell her you havr to be up early for church or whatever. lol!! 2
Toddbt12y1 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Confused look that no emoticon can make* ???????? You guys are...funny...that's the word I'm looking got...we'll go with funny....Haha... 1
Damsel in Distress Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 damsel- i know you had said you want him to call/contact.you but trust me you DONT!! i bet he will though soon enough...it aint fun believe me, the more I watch what happens when people have contact (even though you were strong and didn't even reply!) I realize he has done me a favor to go silent. I'm sorry your ex and the family are torturing you like this And Destroyed the reason I wanted him to contact me was because I thought I was still waiting for the final breakup talk. It was killing me to think he was being cruel - delaying it and leaving me waiting and hanging. But with one insightful post you made me realize he already did his best to make it clear and final. And in his mind there was nothing else for him to say to me. And today I am feeling better than I have in 7 weeks. So I owe you big-time for showing me that I DID get a breakup talk. 1
destroyed4sho Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 hopefully ill be posted stuff like this in a couple months..who knows right??
cavalier99 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 hopefully ill be posted stuff like this in a couple months..who knows right?? Absolutley. Keep the faith! Youll get over this guaranteed. 2
destroyed4sho Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 believe me, the more I watch what happens when people have contact (even though you were strong and didn't even reply!) I realize he has done me a favor to go silent. I'm sorry your ex and the family are torturing you like this And Destroyed the reason I wanted him to contact me was because I thought I was still waiting for the final breakup talk. It was killing me to think he was being cruel - delaying it and leaving me waiting and hanging. But with one insightful post you made me realize he already did his best to make it clear and final. And in his mind there was nothing else for him to say to me. And today I am feeling better than I have in 7 weeks. So I owe you big-time for showing me that I DID get a breakup talk. aw, thanks damsel. I know your strong a person and you will be getting stronger as the days go by. Also, unlike me, your breakuo seems to be mostly around external.circumstances - distance...so its not your fault and maybe not his either.? So dont beat yourself up about it. You will be better in a month. just keep.NC even if he messages you..dont respond back. at least not now. <> 1
Damsel in Distress Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 I just figured youd like an ego boost! Who doesn't appreciate an ego boost! You definitely made me smile - I love it! 1
cavalier99 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 (edited) I just caved. Meeting girl from last weekend again. I feel so weak and dirty. But i sorta like it! God help me! Ps Ill spare everyone the details. Am i in the wrong forum now?. Ive never even looked at the dating forum. I still feel more comfortable with you guys. This is all part of recovering right? Rock on! Cav Edited April 6, 2013 by cavalier99 2
Simon Phoenix Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 I just caved. Meeting girl from last weekend again. I feel so weak and dirty. But i sorta like it! God help me! Ps Ill spare everyone the details. Am i in the wrong forum now?. Ive never even looked at the dating forum. I still feel more comfortable with you guys. This is all part of recovering right? Rock on! Cav What was wrong with the girl from last weekend?
Damsel in Distress Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 What was wrong with the girl from last weekend? She was intended to be a one-night stand. But Cav Caved. 1
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