socrushed Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/346478-does-my-coworker-wanna-bang-me-does-she-just-like-me-friend this is an update on that thread... the same girl started making a bunch of sexual comments when we were hanging out in a group. I am known as a shy and awkward person so all the attention in the group was suddenly focused on me and her. The guys found it extremely humorous that i was being hit on and made jokes that I have "game", that maybe they should stay quiet all the time like me and girls will hit on them too. The girls in the group, including the one i have a huge crush on, were making remarks that I was being a heart breaker for not responding. What i basically did was feel extremely uncomfortable and awkward and retreated in my "shell". my shell is basically where I do nothing but act incredibly distant and put on a fake smile the whole time. So the whole time she was trying to get me to dance with her and pulling her face close to mine to jokingly imply that she wants to kiss me, and i was just acting very distant and not saying anything back. eventually she stopped and the subject changed, but afterwards, the whole day she acted very distant after that. As if I hurt her feelings for acting distant. What do I do? Does she want me? Is she just joking? How should i have acted? I don't want things to be awkward, and i feel like i handled that situation poorly. What would you have done, and what will you plan to do, if you were in my situation?
Carenth Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 (edited) I once had a co-worker do this to me, but I wasn't interested so I dismissed it as nothing other than her been a little bit to friendly. I would play along with her "joking advances" by deflecting them onto something else, like the fact she had a boyfriend or that I was dating someone else, in my case I wasn't actually interested so I'm not sure what you want to achieve, do you like her? Then I after I left that job she asked me out. I rejected her as nicely as a I could but yeah it's been a bit awkward every time I bump into her, which seems to be once every few months. She still jokes that I owe her a date. Either way she could just find your shy behavior cute and is getting a rise out of you. Or she might actually like you, you could try talking to her and learn more about her to get a gauge of how she feels. Edited December 16, 2012 by Carenth
todreaminblue Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/346478-does-my-coworker-wanna-bang-me-does-she-just-like-me-friend this is an update on that thread... the same girl started making a bunch of sexual comments when we were hanging out in a group. I am known as a shy and awkward person so all the attention in the group was suddenly focused on me and her. The guys found it extremely humorous that i was being hit on and made jokes that I have "game", that maybe they should stay quiet all the time like me and girls will hit on them too. The girls in the group, including the one i have a huge crush on, were making remarks that I was being a heart breaker for not responding. What i basically did was feel extremely uncomfortable and awkward and retreated in my "shell". my shell is basically where I do nothing but act incredibly distant and put on a fake smile the whole time. So the whole time she was trying to get me to dance with her and pulling her face close to mine to jokingly imply that she wants to kiss me, and i was just acting very distant and not saying anything back. eventually she stopped and the subject changed, but afterwards, the whole day she acted very distant after that. As if I hurt her feelings for acting distant. What do I do? Does she want me? Is she just joking? How should i have acted? I don't want things to be awkward, and i feel like i handled that situation poorly. What would you have done, and what will you plan to do, if you were in my situation? im female so i can only speak as a female...if she truly liked you and have the nerve to do all that...i would say it is a not "as if you hurt her feelings" you certainly did hurt her...the distance is a protection thing and avoiding more hurt ......its way girls who dont play games move on..... distance.....a way to deal with the hurt.....if i were you i woudl approach her....she isnt likely to try again after a direct rejection that obviously was a public one...i could not handle a public rejection...haven't actually had a public rejection....makes me go ouch thinking about it....acting distant on your part and hers in response too is rejection....she may try again by just ebign friendly when the hurt dies down......or it might not...she now will feel wary of mucking around with you....so its on you....to fix it......or if she has moved on ...unfortunately it is too late...depends on how much you like her.....enough to move on her or not...you could tell her th e truth i find it the best way to deal with any situation no matter hwo awkward it is any answer to a situation will be for the best with the truth.....i wish you all the best i hope it works out for you.deb
Emissary Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 I think the more important question is how you feel about her. Is the best case scenario for you that she wants to be with you? Or would you just rather she stopped? I do find it concerning that she would do that in front of a coworker, it depends on the person, but I don't feel like a normal person would be testing the waters in front of another coworker, that's more of a private thing. At any rate, talk to her or the friend and get to the bottom of this, but before you do that make sure to decide on her or not.
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