Take your negative emotions, and turn them into creative energy.

[source24]

Some of the best advice I have gotten through my breakup is to focus your emotions towards something constructive. For some it is working out, others cooking, or painting, or reading, or playing games, or going out with friends. The point is, you take your negative emotions and you channel that energy towards something that you can take good emotion out of.

 

 

Take your sadness, take your anger, take your heartbreak, and turn it into creative energy. Take these insular emotions and turn them into extravagant actions of expression.

 

Whatever it is for you, this simple way of thinking has helped me immensely. For me, my method of channeling my creative energy is graphic design. After getting out of a really horrible breakup (You can read my story here) I channeled my energy towards something creative and it really was an amazing experience.

 

I do NBA wallpapers and the such, and since I started really focusing on it, I have been offered design jobs for various athletes, and I am currently working on a TV show, and my facebook page has grown like crazy, adding over 4,000 likes in the past few months since my breakup! (My goal at the start of the year was to get to 2,000 likes by 2013, right now I am nearing 8,500!) Ever since the breakup, I put more energy towards achieving success in other parts of my life, and it has really helped me to look at this breakup in a positive light. I am doing better in school, I am connecting with old friends, I am learning and reading more. The more steps I take towards finding myself again, the further away I get from my heartbreak.

 

I mean, It still hurts, and some days are still ****ty and feel much longer than others, but I am happy when I think that I took these negative emotions and turned them into something that made me feel better, made me feel worth something, and made me feel happy again.

 

I know a lot of times, when we go through a breakup, we focus on ourselves to make the other person regret leaving us, and even if that is your reasoning, in the end if you truly end up improving yourself, you should feel better about your own self-efficacy and therefore take something positive from your breakup.

 

I guess my point is, that even if you feel down in the dumps, try to do something. And then when you look back on your breakup, at least you will see that you progressed forward in something, and that will help you feel better about moving on.

 

Put yourself in the best possible situation for success, and make yourself the best person you can possibly be to set yourself up for happiness. You gotta be willing to put yourself out there. Life is all about making the most of the time we have, and you can't let the fear of failure keep you from following your dreams.

 

Godspeed my friends. Godspeed.

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Good Post source24. I 100% agree with you. Getting hurt doesn't necessarily have to be a bad thing. Sometimes it takes something like this to make you take a hard look at your life and see where you can make improvements. I remember awhile back when I was heartbroken I ended enrolling into a graduate program and getting my MBA.

 

This time around I looked at everything from the inside out. I took a look at every aspect of my life and redefined what I wanted to change about myself. For starters, I began to lose a ton of weight and changed my appearance. After that I looked at my professional life and focused on my career. Today, I have been promoted and am in the process of relocating to another state to take on more challenges and responsibilities. I know that if I was still with her I wouldn't have even thought of doing any of these things because I was to busy focusing on making her happy. One aspect of my life has failed but that doesn't necessarily mean the other aspects of my life has to fail as well. I have no doubt that I will find another its just a matter of time. In the meantime I have taken the negative emotions and refocused them. I do have to admit though that in the beginning my motivations was because of her. I wanted to do these things to try to win her back. As time has progressed so has my motivation. Now, I'm doing this for me and can careless if she comes back.