avon20 Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 Why do people decide to have children knowing full well the huge responsibilities that come with it?
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 Why would you not have children? I don't see a reason to not have them unless you're too old, infertile, or selfish.
Pyro Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 Why do people decide to have children knowing full well the huge responsibilities that come with it? Why buy a house? Why get a job? Why get behind the wheel? We know full well the huge responsibilities that come with those. Huge responsibilities = huge rewards. 5
Pyro Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 Why would you not have children? I don't see a reason to not have them unless you're too old, infertile, or selfish. Or immature, judgmental, close minded, etc. 2
mammasita Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 It's a huge responsibility but its also the most pure, unconditional, loving and rewarding relationship that anyone can ever have......unless of course they are emotionally immature and selfish as mentioned above. 1
crude Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 It's no different than anything else when it comes to personal preferences. Some people simply don't like or want children. It has nothing to do with being selfish. In fact, people who have children to save a bad marriage, because they're lonely, to support them in their old age, or want to populate the world with their clones are the selfish ones. The real problem is people having children they really don't want or can't support. 2
somedude81 Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 In the old days, people had children so they can have more workers on the farm. Today people have children because they are biologically programmed to want them. Women often more so than women. Personally, I see no benefit to having kids and I know they will be a huge drain in many ways. The only way I can see myself having kid(s) is if I marry a woman and can't convince her otherwise. It would have to be in a situation where she's a great woman and the choices are to either get a divorce or have kids.
SmileFace Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 Doesn't everything come with responsibility? However to each their own. I personally don't want kids any time soon. I use to say never but as I get older my view tends to change. Anyway point being deciding to have kids or not have kids - doesn't make someone more noble or less selfish. Since it isn't for everyone. However if you see kids as too much of a responsibility for you that is fine - however it isn't that way for others -- you don't need to understand. 1
rainfall Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 I'm with you OP. I have never understood why anyone would want to have children knowing everything that comes with it.
rainfall Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 Why would you not have children? I don't see a reason to not have them unless you're too old, infertile, or selfish. Maybe people don't want children because they have other things they want to do with their life that they view as more important.... 5
Woggle Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 Because some people want to be parents. I don't want kids myself but for some it is very rewarding and worth it. 2
Ross MwcFan Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 I think selfish is too much of a negative word to describe choosing a lifestyle that makes you happy, since you're not causing any harm to anyone. It's like calling someone selfish for deciding to listen to some great music to make themselves feel good. 5
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 Maybe people don't want children because they have other things they want to do with their life that they view as more important.... Or maybe they are selfish..
rainfall Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 Or maybe they are selfish.. I don't see how it is selfish to not have children. I think the people who say this are either immature without any real life experience or they have kids and they are miserable so they want everyone to be just as miserable as they are. If someone doesn't like children then it is probably a good idea that they don't have them. Not everyone has some insane desire to spend their life raising and taking care of children. 12
KraftDinner Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 There is no reason FOR having kids that isn't selfish. Having kids is very selfish. Think of one reason for having them that isn't selfish. Adopting, on the other hand, is the opposite of selfish. 9
Ross MwcFan Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 Or maybe they are selfish.. You can just as easily say that people who have kids are selfish. 2
KraftDinner Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 I don't see how it is selfish to not have children. I think the people who say this are either immature without any real life experience or they have kids and they are miserable so they want everyone to be just as miserable as they are. If someone doesn't like children then it is probably a good idea that they don't have them. Not everyone has some insane desire to spend their life raising and taking care of children. Agreed.... 1
KathyM Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 Well, I didn't have kids for the purpose of them taking care of me when I am old, or for the purpose of saving a marriage. They are a huge responsibility, no doubt, and a huge financial drain (I have two kids in college ATM). I don't think it's selfish to not want children. Everybody has their own concept of what type of life they would prefer. Some like the freedom that being childless gives them. Nothing wrong with that. I had children because it is one of life's greatest experiences, along with getting married, which I wanted to experience in my lifetime. Giving life to someone and raising them to be a wonderful and caring person, and seeing them go out and make a positive difference in the world is a very emotionally rewarding experience. And it's a win/win for us and our kids. They get life, loving and caring parents, and we get children to love and experience life with. 2
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 I don't see how it is selfish to not have children. I think the people who say this are either immature without any real life experience or they have kids and they are miserable so they want everyone to be just as miserable as they are. If someone doesn't like children then it is probably a good idea that they don't have them. Not everyone has some insane desire to spend their life raising and taking care of children. I guess it depends on there reasoning, I have heard some logical reasons for it but I have also heard idiotic reasons.
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 You can just as easily say that people who have kids are selfish. Yes because sacrificing yourself to bring children into the world is VERY selfish.
rainfall Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 I guess it depends on there reasoning, I have heard some logical reasons for it but I have also heard idiotic reasons. I can't really think of any idiotic reasons. I mean if someone doesn't want kids, they aren't going to be happy if they have a kid and will probably not show their kid the amount of love that a child will need. Their are enough people in this world who do want kids. I can't understand why people care so much about someone reproductive choices, unless they are dating or married to them. 7
KraftDinner Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 Yes because sacrificing yourself to bring children into the world is VERY selfish. How is it NOT selfish? Why is bringing more people into the world beneficial? 2
KathyM Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 How is it NOT selfish? Why is bringing more people into the world beneficial? It's beneficial for the children, of course, to be given life. It's beneficial for the parents because it is a wonderful experience in many ways. It's also beneficial for other people in the world whom your child touches in a positive way. Without people having children, the human race would die out, of course. And there would be no one to fill those jobs that we need to keep civilization going if everyone now in existence would just age and retire, and there would be no one left to run the businesses of the world. I mean, this is pretty obvious stuff. 3
ThaWholigan Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 Bit of a silly question, it's like asking people why they DON'T want children. I want children because I want to continue my family line, because I love children and because I would like to have a family. 1
Ross MwcFan Posted November 24, 2012 Posted November 24, 2012 There is no reason FOR having kids that isn't selfish. Having kids is very selfish. Think of one reason for having them that isn't selfish. Adopting, on the other hand, is the opposite of selfish. Yes because sacrificing yourself to bring children into the world is VERY selfish. You're doing it because it'll make you happier, therefore you're doing it for yourself. The world is becoming over populated, but no, you don't care about that do you? 'Me, me, me, I want kids, I want kids, I want kids' 2
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