RonChalant Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 a friend of mine i haven't hung out with in a while invited me to go to atl for new years. i wouldn't have to pay for a hotel, just for my flight down there. this will be my gf and I's first new years together, but I want to go hang out with my friend. she's pissy, saying its new years, our first together, and that I should WANT to be with her. I feel like I little kid who wants to go out and play but who's mother wont allow him out so am i wrong...should i just stay home with my gf
mammasita Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 I dont blame her for being upset, especially since this would be your first new years together. Why not invite her along with you to ATL? If you can't do that, then I would take a rain check on hanging with your buddy. 1
mammasita Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 You are right to feel emotional black mail and manipulated from your so called gf. All I can do is tell you words of male wisdom. Bro's before Ho's! Male friends stay for life...gf's....well....should I say more? Meh. Unless he's getting a new years kiss and a warm vagina from his buddy he needs to spend the holiday with his girl. His friend will always be there and should understand.
Negative Nancy Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 she's pissy rightfully so Am I wrong for wanting to spend new years with friends and not my GF yes you are, in my current mood I would kick you to the curb if you came to me with such a dumb disrespectful request you clearly don't care about her , she's better off without you 1
Negative Nancy Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 a friend of mine i haven't hung out with in a while invited me to go to atl for new years what is this supposed to mean anyway? 2 men out and about in another city by themselves, you seriously think we are going to believe you that you wouldn't live it up there and cheat on her and bang other women there?
carhill Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 a friend of mine i haven't hung out with in a while this will be my gf and I's first new years together Hmm..... If it were your best friend, perhaps, but a friend you haven't hung out with in awhile and have to fly to hang out with? My vote is for spending NYE with your main squeeze.
DC4 Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 I'd be bummed about it, but I wouldn't throw a hissy fit at my boyfriend over it either. It's not like you're going down the street and leaving her at home; it's a major event. How long have you two been together?
Ami1uwant Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 a friend of mine i haven't hung out with in a while invited me to go to atl for new years. i wouldn't have to pay for a hotel, just for my flight down there. this will be my gf and I's first new years together, but I want to go hang out with my friend. she's pissy, saying its new years, our first together, and that I should WANT to be with her. I feel like I little kid who wants to go out and play but who's mother wont allow him out so am i wrong...should i just stay home with my gf Is there areason you arent brining her with you? Personally I think this kind of stuff is way overrated. Personally I dont care much for te holiday. The only time I have ever gone to any party was the one a close friend of mine has back home. If I am in town then I go. Its more of habing out with friends...not partting. What happens if you travel to see your buddies a different time of year? Would she react the same? Is she the jealous type? Have you travelled some place on your own without her coming...how did she react?
Ami1uwant Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 Meh. Unless he's getting a new years kiss and a warm vagina from his buddy he needs to spend the holiday with his girl. His friend will always be there and should understand. You obviously dont get it.... I am assuming the OP is older than an early 20something. After you get past 30 and people start to get married and move elsewhere because of job/marriage/life and start to have a family it gets complicated trying to get everyone back together at once. When me and my brother goes back home its a time when the rest of the group makes an effort to get together. There is a group of 8-10 of us. The ones still in town will get together but its a much smaller event where 2 or 3 of the 6 may get together. 1
serial muse Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 (edited) Does your question about your feelings for her have anything to do with this decision? Because if so, and she knows it, then yes, she has a legitimate complaint and I suspect you know you're kind of dodging it, despite the "bad mommy" framing. Much more convenient to be annoyed with her than to feel guilty. Or maybe you're still looking for a reason to break up? I think you have some soul-searching to do, honestly. I tend to think NYE is overrated too, but if you really aren't looking forward to the idea of spending it with her and would rather "escape" to be with your buddy, maybe that's the answer to your earlier question. Don't toy with people, OK? Edited November 14, 2012 by serial muse 1
serial muse Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 People treat each other, like they want to be treated. She chooses to be and stay with him, so he should have no quilt what so ever. If you smack her in a face and she forgives you, no guilt should be felt. Well, I like to think that the OP has more of a soul than that, and cares more about this person who, in his words, "does everything for him" than you seem to think he should. But I guess that's his call.
youngnlove89 Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 OH PUHLEEEZ, this is so melodramatic. Do what you want OP, but reap the outcome. If you aren't interested in her enough to want to spend the most fun holiday of the year with her, then maybe you need to re-think your feelings towards her. You know why you don't want to invite her? Because you want to be "single" you want to drink and have fun and flirt. DUH. Just be aware that she will hate your decision and she might find someone else who wants to spend the holiday with her. Someone better, it seems. This is coming from someone who had an EX bf who would do things like this. It just pisses her off and it's all set up for failure. Here are your options, to the most simplest degree (since guys always like simple..) 1. Be single, do what you want. 2. Have a girlfriend, and ask her to join you and your friend. Those are your only options. Choose wisely. 1
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