mammasita Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 I want to tell my "boyfriend" that I'm done......and I need advice, pep talk, do it, don't do it.....something??!! http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/351634-dumpee-once-again-but-i-feel-like-there-glimmer-hope So /\ in a nutshell. I've been thinking/stressing about my situation every day since that happened. I've come to realize that what he is doing to me is not fair. I deserve better. He's making me the "right for now" and not the "right forever" like he won't hesitate for a second when he meets the one that he WILL commit to and marry. I'm being strung along because he doesn't know WTF he wants. I'm angry. He wants to date but is not sure now that he wants to get married (to me at least). I intend on asking him this evening so I can hear the truth and then I need to wash my hands of him. I'm looking for strength, realness, advice......anything.
geegirl Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 I want to tell my "boyfriend" that I'm done......and I need advice, pep talk, do it, don't do it.....something??!! http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/351634-dumpee-once-again-but-i-feel-like-there-glimmer-hope So /\ in a nutshell. I've been thinking/stressing about my situation every day since that happened. I've come to realize that what he is doing to me is not fair. I deserve better. He's making me the "right for now" and not the "right forever" like he won't hesitate for a second when he meets the one that he WILL commit to and marry. I'm being strung along because he doesn't know WTF he wants. I'm angry. He wants to date but is not sure now that he wants to get married (to me at least). I intend on asking him this evening so I can hear the truth and then I need to wash my hands of him. I'm looking for strength, realness, advice......anything. But in the post attached, you say that he now wants to work on communication and on the relationship. What changed?
Author mammasita Posted October 17, 2012 Author Posted October 17, 2012 But in the post attached, you say that he now wants to work on communication and on the relationship. What changed? Yes he does, he wants to date....but I want more, I was willing to try, but the more i think about it, the more I know that I want a "family" not any more kids, but I want to play house, so to speak. I need someone to WANT to be with me. I don't know what to do, I don't know if I should give home some time or just cut my losses. I'm really on a roller coaster and am extremely confused.
geegirl Posted October 17, 2012 Posted October 17, 2012 Yes he does, he wants to date....but I want more, I was willing to try, but the more i think about it, the more I know that I want a "family" not any more kids, but I want to play house, so to speak. I need someone to WANT to be with me. I don't know what to do, I don't know if I should give home some time or just cut my losses. I'm really on a roller coaster and am extremely confused. You convey your needs and if he cannot give you what you want, then it is time to let go. There is no relationship if two people are bringing different needs and wants to the table, and having different expectations for each other. And most times, we have these talks because we're trying to provoke an outcome, so mean what you say and say what you mean, with no motive other than to take control of your life and to do what's best for you.
Author mammasita Posted October 18, 2012 Author Posted October 18, 2012 Thank you. He is on his way over as I type this. My gut knows this will end tonight so I will be back because I'll need a shoulder.
geegirl Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 Thank you. He is on his way over as I type this. My gut knows this will end tonight so I will be back because I'll need a shoulder. Be strong. I hope things work out fine but if not, come here, share and find the support you need. Good luck.
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