mammasita Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 My boyfriend of just under 2 years, who was my fiance for a few months, told me this past Monday that things weren't working out and it wasn't fair to my son and I if he was living in my house and unsure of his feelings for me. He threw the "I love you but am not in love with you" line out there. Contrary to that, his actions up to the point that the words came out of his mouth on Monday, always showed otherwise. He was always respectful, always kissing me and telling me he loves me, cuddling on the couch and brushing up against me, rubbing my arm....things like that. Needless to say, I let him go without begging or pleading. I did cry some, but that's something I really can't control . He's moved into his parents house for now. It's very sad being just my son and I again after all this time, but we both have things we need to work on. I'm not the best at communication and neither is he. Obviously a successful relationship can't be developed when we both lack in that area. On top of that we moved in together two months after meeting (I know, it was WAY too soon). He never really had to court me nor did we properly date and get to know one another like we should have. It was all so fast. When he first left, he was ready to walk away completely. Now he's saying he wants to start over and date and work on our communication. I'm scared to do it, but also very willing to try because I would call this a "clean" break up. Even though I would have preferred to work through it without him moving out. I want him to have his space so he can figure out what he REALLY wants. There was no cheating, abuse, or any negativity involved and I don't want to give up so quick. He is 28, I am 37. I know alot of this has to do with his maturity level, but he is very family oriented and kind hearted. Does it sound like we have a chance?
Liz2012 Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 go for it You can learn to get better at the communication, if that's the only thing really then it's worth just getting brave and out there. If he's a good man and worth fighting for you'll manage it. If he isn't and you hesitate for other reasons then that's worth having a long ponder about?
River Rain Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 Two years is a long time...I know you want to guard your heart, it's scary to give things a second chance. But if you are both able to start communicating with each other, it could really deepen your connection. I would give it a go.
brok3npr0mise Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 The other day someone told me, if you are lucky enough nowadays to find someone who is honest and loyal and you can trust, hold onto them. It's hard to find someone you can trust, especially nowadays, and if communication is the only problem then you should definitely try to work through it. I'm trying to take my own advice too. Conveying it to my boyfriend is a totally different story though.
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