SheLeftMe Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 You can get the whole backstory on my breakup in the thread "ive lost hope." So i just got back to the house from being out of town for the weekend. Pretty much all of her things are gone except her furniture, tv, computer etc. I had a great time at the wedding this weekend, but then when i got home to find all her things gone, i am now a wreck again. I went and visited her sister over the weekend just to catch up. She started crying to me saying she feels so bad for me because she thought we would never break up. She also told me my ex was planning on coming to talk to me because she doesnt want me completely out of her life. The problem is, i dont know how i am going to react around her. I havent seen her in 3 weeks and i know my heart is just going to sink once i see her. I need some advice on what to do. Please i cant fall apart in front of this girl again.
Author SheLeftMe Posted October 2, 2012 Author Posted October 2, 2012 Here is the link to my backstory if you havent read it. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/348847-ive-lost-hope Need some guidance....please help me.
DavidG Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 I haven't read your initial post but in all honesty, she cant just plan to come see you. At this point, all it will do is open the wound and you simply need to remain NC for YOU to heal. If she wants you back, she will tell you but in the mean time you must concentrate on YOU. She has more than likely had time to recover (being the dumper) prior to the end of your relationship so you need to focus on your life now. It sucks man, but you will get better before you know it and if it was meant to be, it will be. Ive seem tons of relationships where people ended up back with their ex's for the long run but in ALL situations, both people had completely moved on and were happy without each other.
Author SheLeftMe Posted October 2, 2012 Author Posted October 2, 2012 I just cant not let her talk to me or see me. She still has some things in the hoise that belong to her (couch, tv) and i know shes gonna come asking for it. We are also on the same softball team and i cant just quit because it actually brings me a little bit of happiness. I just want to know how i can act around her so i dont fall apart in front of her again. I know this is asking alot but i just cant afford taking 10the steps back.
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