KatZee Posted September 11, 2012 Share Posted September 11, 2012 are you for real?.......jeez if she can't even talk about it, and sort things she's no good to anyone.......i think you did ok fella........and she really isn't worth the bother. Again, you may want to go back and read. Things were fine until he picked her up, and treated her like garbage. She wanted to hang out, and he was cold as ice saying, "No I have plans." Passive aggressive much? What is she supposed to do? Grovel at his feet and be like OMG TALK TO ME OMFG WHY ARE YOU BEING THIS WAY WHAT DID I DO WAHHHH. No. She went home and realized what a jerk OP was, how he clearly couldn't even man up and communicate like an adult. She wants no part of it. And honestly, I wouldn't either. HE'S the one that refused to talk. Not her. And because she doesn't want to deal with the OP's sh*t, she's not worth the bother? And now I'm REALLY starting to understand why there are so many weak women in the world. Link to post Share on other sites
weallfalldown Posted September 11, 2012 Share Posted September 11, 2012 Again, you may want to go back and read. Things were fine until he picked her up, and treated her like garbage. She wanted to hang out, and he was cold as ice saying, "No I have plans." Passive aggressive much? What is she supposed to do? Grovel at his feet and be like OMG TALK TO ME OMFG WHY ARE YOU BEING THIS WAY WHAT DID I DO WAHHHH. No. She went home and realized what a jerk OP was, how he clearly couldn't even man up and communicate like an adult. She wants no part of it. And honestly, I wouldn't either. HE'S the one that refused to talk. Not her. And because she doesn't want to deal with the OP's sh*t, she's not worth the bother? And now I'm REALLY starting to understand why there are so many weak women in the world. keep yer knickers on..... yea didn't want to deal with the ****.....not good. I would have thought after a month, a woman should have the self respect to get serious?....or have all women lost self respect , and sleep around. as casual as they like? Link to post Share on other sites
Author OCCDAVE Posted September 11, 2012 Author Share Posted September 11, 2012 Well another update I ran into today I was grabbing lunch we talked a bit .she said I knew u were mad about the dating profile I was on and saw you ?Im not talking to any other guy just you.so then I ask it's not fb why update it her reply dunno I treat it like fb ? I asked can I come pick you up tonight she says ya sounds good.we then text rest of day here and there then I get this Look I've been thinking what you did and I can't do this of I forgive you it enables you to think its ok to do.i don't wanna see you again .its over As this was sent she was logged into that sight hmm Link to post Share on other sites
TLY22 Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 Well another update I ran into today I was grabbing lunch we talked a bit .she said I knew u were mad about the dating profile I was on and saw you ?Im not talking to any other guy just you.so then I ask it's not fb why update it her reply dunno I treat it like fb ? I asked can I come pick you up tonight she says ya sounds good.we then text rest of day here and there then I get this Look I've been thinking what you did and I can't do this of I forgive you it enables you to think its ok to do.i don't wanna see you again .its over As this was sent she was logged into that sight hmm How do you know she was logged on if you deleted your profile? You two don't seem compatible. You're too quick to act like a jerk, and she's too quick to act like a pompous b**ch, to be honest. Let it go. Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 Well another update I ran into today I was grabbing lunch we talked a bit .she said I knew u were mad about the dating profile I was on and saw you ?Im not talking to any other guy just you.so then I ask it's not fb why update it her reply dunno I treat it like fb ? I asked can I come pick you up tonight she says ya sounds good.we then text rest of day here and there then I get this Look I've been thinking what you did and I can't do this of I forgive you it enables you to think its ok to do.i don't wanna see you again .its over As this was sent she was logged into that sight hmm She didn't want to tell you no to your face, it was over already. Link to post Share on other sites
Author OCCDAVE Posted September 12, 2012 Author Share Posted September 12, 2012 Smh guess I'll chalk up another rs gone downhill due to my mouth sigh Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 Smh guess I'll chalk up another rs gone downhill due to my mouth sigh ANOTHER one? You clearly don't learn from mistakes, do you? Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 Guess I let my anger get the best of me I just picked her up from work acted cold.shes like wanna come inside I said nope I gotta go I got plans .shes was like um ok .then sent me this Let me know when ever you want to talk about what just happened. How cold were you? I know it's over but I wanna know if she's got a legit point or if it's becasue the BBD is one click away. Link to post Share on other sites
JayL Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 Fact # 1 : At the stage you two were in, If a girl isn't planning on dating around, she would not have kept her online dating profile. Yes, you guys may have gone too fast as you had sex within a month, but sex could also mean "exclusivity". I met one of my ex girlfriend's online and she deleted her online profile after 2 successful dates. First date was a quick meet up, second date was 4 days later. Fact # 2 : You could have handled it better. It is understandable though that you were angry that time. Solution : Give it time, wait a couple of days to a week, send her a simple message "how have you been?" If she responds, go for it, ask her out again. If she blows you off, at least you know what to do next time. Also, if a girl keeps her online dating profile even though things between you two are great, yes, it is a red flag. You can talk to her about it, but if she refuses to take it down, drop her. Link to post Share on other sites
CptObvious Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 ITT 13 yr old moron gets what he deserves. thanks for the laugh kiddo, stay in school. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JayL Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 Smh guess I'll chalk up another rs gone downhill due to my mouth sigh Hey, I got led on by my last "girlfriend" who I was official with for a month and a half and yet continued entertaining men that liked her. I got more serious and stopped playing the head games that originally made her interested and kept her interested in the first couple of weeks, then she lost interest. Some women are just not worth it, move on, find a better one. That's what I'm doing now... single for 8 days now. I'm still sad, but it wouldn't have worked in the long run anyway... so it's better off this way... except I miss sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Author OCCDAVE Posted September 12, 2012 Author Share Posted September 12, 2012 I know I'll get crap for this bit I went to her house last night and tried to get her to talk to me.we talked for about an hour to sum it up I disrespected her and she is to familer with past bfs who have done that and she stayed.I tried saying well I could tell you I'm gonna change but it's just words I need for you to let me show you.she wasn't backing down I dunno maybe this visiting of the website someone sparked her interest and I gave her the green light to run.It sucks it's only a month but we have spent every day talking and seemed to click well.i regret hurting her she didn't deserve it.i was thinking starting today nc then maybe text her Saturday see if my invite to the party is a go meh Link to post Share on other sites
Author OCCDAVE Posted September 12, 2012 Author Share Posted September 12, 2012 To back track a bit Friday was really good we spent the night together all was well .saturday get a call from my uncle and it's drama over my father who passed away.to sum it up I stayed in contact all weekend with her but I was unstable .Tuesday comes and I see her logged in I just flipped and best I could do was just act cold .she text me that same night to talk but I was out of it so I text her next morning.she kept telling me what happen Saturday during our hour convo I didn't wanna tell her cuz I don't wanna come off as a drama even from my uncle I was embarrassed sigh Link to post Share on other sites
weallfalldown Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 If you have to feel embarassed about serious stuff like that, and she makes you feel like you couldn't talk about it, she's got her head stuck so far up her own arse she's coming back out of her own mouth!....she's not worth it dude...like another poster said, and with my last gf, she took herself off the dating site after 2 weeks.........she's obviously playing games here.......find someone else better....she's trouble!. Link to post Share on other sites
SpiralOut Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 I really enjoy the way some of the posters on here are saying the girl is the one with the problem. After the way the OP treated her he is lucky to have gotten another chance with her and now he is making the SAME mistake he made at the beginning of the post: going cold and being moody with her when he's mad instead of communicating with her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author OCCDAVE Posted September 12, 2012 Author Share Posted September 12, 2012 Tbh I could have talked to her about it she's easy to talk to I just didn't wanna seem I was looking for pity or an excuse I treated her like crap Link to post Share on other sites
Author OCCDAVE Posted September 12, 2012 Author Share Posted September 12, 2012 Maybe I should text her and say can she hook me up with her sister lol jk Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 Maybe I should text her and say can she hook me up with her sister lol jk oy. don't contact her for any reason, not to apologize, not to hang out, not anything. at this point the ball is 100% in her court. Link to post Share on other sites
Author OCCDAVE Posted September 12, 2012 Author Share Posted September 12, 2012 oy. don't contact her for any reason, not to apologize, not to hang out, not anything. at this point the ball is 100% in her court.so giving it a few days and contacting her is a bad idea? Link to post Share on other sites
Author OCCDAVE Posted September 13, 2012 Author Share Posted September 13, 2012 Ugh it's only day 1 of nc I miss her Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 so giving it a few days and contacting her is a bad idea? YES dave! leave it up to her. you apologized and explained and if she accepts it, she will contact you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author OCCDAVE Posted September 13, 2012 Author Share Posted September 13, 2012 Not gonna lie every time I think about her I tear up sigh why couldn't I just stop being a hard head Link to post Share on other sites
Author OCCDAVE Posted September 13, 2012 Author Share Posted September 13, 2012 You mentioned I should give it time tell her contact me.well today she has a dinner with her sister then Saturday a b day party which I was suppose to go till my mouth changed that.if not by Sunday/Monday is it safe to assume i won't be hearing from her or you can't put a time on it Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 You mentioned I should give it time tell her contact me.well today she has a dinner with her sister then Saturday a b day party which I was suppose to go till my mouth changed that.if not by Sunday/Monday is it safe to assume i won't be hearing from her or you can't put a time on it oh geez well if you really wanna call her just do it. you know you will anyway. try to wait at least til monday. Link to post Share on other sites
Author OCCDAVE Posted September 13, 2012 Author Share Posted September 13, 2012 Up Untill now I havnt taken any advice otherwise I wouldn't have had this problem .Anyway starting now I will as you said give it till Monday and I'll wait see if I hear from her if not case closed :-/ Thanks again to everyone who has replied Link to post Share on other sites
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