irc333 Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 Was talking to a female friend of mine, she says she has a female friend that's single, only because she never gets out of the house. And she's pretty darned attractive, too....so I find that a bit perplexing, ever met people like this?
Hawaii50 Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 I've had points in my life where I've been a little recluse. Also, for some people, all it takes is an option. They might not be social butterflies, ,but just waiting for someone to pull our of their shell. 1
USMCHokie Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 I am a hermit. I was a hermit all through college and remained single the whole time.
denise_xo Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 I'm married if but if I were to be single again I think I would end up like one of those. Not as in not leaving the house or not socialising at all, but just happily spending a lot of time on my own.
enchanted24 Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 This is part of the reason why I think meeting people on dating websites is helpful for people who have reclusive tendencies. .
Woggle Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 Maybe that's why I got a lot of dates when single I am damn sure not a hermit.
johan Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 What about hermit CRABS? The harder you try to get them to come out of their shell, the more likely you are to just kill them. 2
carhill Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 Yes, it's quite easy to remain long-term single if one limits regular/comprehensive human contact, especially social contact, meaning social functions, church, sports, etc. Many such people work regular jobs and retire to their 'shell', never substantially interacting with anyone other than on a work level. Since my divorce, other than activities with friends, I've limited social contact to traveling. Not exactly a 'hermit', but far less social than when I was married. I would say that choice has traction in explaining part of why I'm still single.
Anela Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 (edited) Was talking to a female friend of mine, she says she has a female friend that's single, only because she never gets out of the house. And she's pretty darned attractive, too....so I find that a bit perplexing, ever met people like this? Me. I'm not so attractive anymore, but that was/is me. I was agoraphobic for years, and am still pretty isolated, although I get out more now. Being partnered wasn't a big deal for me. It would have been nice if it happened with a decent guy, but I'd seen enough to know that I shouldn't make dating the focus of my life. I missed having friends, though. Edited September 8, 2012 by Anela
Forever Learning Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 Was talking to a female friend of mine, she says she has a female friend that's single, only because she never gets out of the house. And she's pretty darned attractive, too....so I find that a bit perplexing, ever met people like this? Oh that pretty much sums me up at the moment. The ex moved out in January, and I have had some social opportunities, but less than I'd like, due to not getting out as much as I'd like due to the kids. But I'm going to work on that in the future, and the key for me will probably be a mix of online dating, and getting involved with an outdoor group activity/club of some sort. I can't wait. Me, the cat, the kids and the coons are not cutting it.
El Brujo Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Well DUH, that's why I got applications from 3 different companies to become a speed dating host. I'm openly asexual, and I have no problem accepting that; it's just the way God wired me (talk to Him if you have a complaint). But it's been a little harder for me to accept that I'm introverted. BTW I think introverted singles are a huge market waiting to be tapped (hint, hint).
ScreamingTrees Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 This is basically what those around me seem to think is MY general life problem, but I'm pretty happy at home, alone, for the time being at least. I don't see it as a problem, but they do.
Emilia Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 BTW I think introverted singles are a huge market waiting to be tapped (hint, hint). I thought they were the ones that OLD was aimed for?
Imported Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 My next door neighbor. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/322756-hot-girl-hermit-crab Still pretty much the same. I did see her a few more times and said hi, but she doesn't really seem to want to talk so I just leave her alone. 1
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