Consolidated Discussion - A man's/woman's height in the search for relationships

[somedude81]

I'm almost 5'9 and have never had a problem attracting guys, never had a guy say I'm too tall or anything like that. I've had plenty say I'm the tallest girl they've been with, though. Mostly I've dated guys right around my height (guys about 5'11) and yes I'm taller than them in heels

 

I don't think most men prefer short women, I don't think most men care that much about height tbh.

 

I will say that a lot of guys I've dated are leg men. They love long, lean legs which you aren't gonna find on a short girl.

 

I had a roommate who was 6 ft and very pretty. She never had a problem attracting guys, and all the guys I saw her date were shorter than she was.

 

You're spot on as usual veggirl.

 

Height really doesn't affect whether men want her or not.

 

Almost all of the men here who are saying they are with a short girl now, would have no problem dating a taller woman. The whole reason of a girl being short so the guy can "throw her around in bed" is garbage. It's almost as if they are saying that they can't do that to a tall woman

 

Simply put, straight guys prefer women.

[Toodaloo]

My brother (5ft 5ins) last lass was much taller than him (5ft 9ins).

 

Big mismatch and very unhappy.

 

My sister in law (5ft with heels) was dating a much taller chap (6ft 1in).

 

Big mismatch and very unhappy.

 

Now they are together and both very happy. She does make him look like a giant! I suspect that the attraction comes from personalities rather than anything else though.

 

I don't think it matters much to be honest. Though my personal preference for men has always been 6ft+. These days anything under seems "short" to me (6ft 4ins seems to be about average for me, shorter i.e. 6ft seems "normal"). I like that these guys are big and can "wrap" me up when they hug me. Makes me feel protected and safe. The "being thrown about" and being happy to leap on them with out fear of breaking them also helps (a lot..)! I guess my preference is just for "big" guys. I have been very attracted to shorter fellas in the past, mostly because their personality is far bigger than their height.

 

I am just bog standard 5ft 4in (I can just about squeeze 5ft 5ins if I stand up really straight and lean towards being on tippy toes). I can't say I have noticed that it has affected the height of the gentlemen attracted to me. I get all sorts.

 

Oh how I would love to have some of the families tall genes though... I woudl look amazing if I were stretched out a few more inches!

[veggirl]

The average height of a woman is only 5'4. So to say guys prefer short women when they are talking about women around that height is silly, because that isn't "short" compared to the norm.

 

IMO short would be like 5'1 or under, tall would start at 5'7.

[somedude81]

My brother (5ft 5ins) last lass was much taller than him (5ft 9ins).

 

Big mismatch and very unhappy.

 

My sister in law (5ft with heels) was dating a much taller chap (6ft 1in).

 

Big mismatch and very unhappy.

 

Now they are together and both very happy. She does make him look like a giant! I suspect that the attraction comes from personalities rather than anything else though.

 

I don't think it matters much to be honest. Though my personal preference for men has always been 6ft+. These days anything under seems "short" to me (6ft 4ins seems to be about average for me, shorter i.e. 6ft seems "normal"). I like that these guys are big and can "wrap" me up when they hug me. Makes me feel protected and safe. The "being thrown about" and being happy to leap on them with out fear of breaking them also helps (a lot..)! I guess my preference is just for "big" guys. I have been very attracted to shorter fellas in the past, mostly because their personality is far bigger than their height.

 

I am just bog standard 5ft 4in (I can just about squeeze 5ft 5ins if I stand up really straight and lean towards being on tippy toes). I can't say I have noticed that it has affected the height of the gentlemen attracted to me. I get all sorts.

 

Oh how I would love to have some of the families tall genes though... I woudl look amazing if I were stretched out a few more inches!

Uh, a guy being 6'4 is very tall. 6' is above average. 5'10 is average.

 

I'm 5'6. Unless you were 200 lbs, you wouldn't break me if you jumped on me.

[thefooloftheyear]

Even though I am pretty short(5'6")..I am a "big" short guy...I have been with women of all heights from 4'10" to 5'11"..I dont think it was an issue for either of us...I pretty much dont care, but I probably think its just more "proportionate" if they are on either side of my height +/- 2"...But I am also a person that has a certain compunction for things that look proportional..

 

Just never could understand the logic some small/short women have with demanding to be with sky high types...If you read some of the responses here, some sort of sound creepy and "daddy" like....Just an observation..apologies if thats not the case...

 

TFY

[Priv]

Even though I am pretty short(5'6")..I am a "big" short guy...I have been with women of all heights from 4'10" to 5'11"..I dont think it was an issue for either of us...I pretty much dont care, but I probably think its just more "proportionate" if they are on either side of my height +/- 2"...But I am also a person that has a certain compunction for things that look proportional..

 

Just never could understand the logic some small/short women have with demanding to be with sky high types...If you read some of the responses here, some sort of sound creepy and "daddy" like....Just an observation..apologies if thats not the case...

 

TFY

 

 

Her being taller didn't bother you at all? I dated a woman who was maybe an inch taller than me and it weighed heavy on my soul lol.

[Priv]

Lol that's what my bf says

 

Your BF is a wise man.

[thefooloftheyear]

Her being taller didn't bother you at all? I dated a woman who was maybe an inch taller than me and it weighed heavy on my soul lol.

 

Nah....She(5'11") was boring as hell....but the height deal wasnt the problem...

 

TFY

Edited September 11, 2014 by thefooloftheyear

[Toodaloo]

Uh, a guy being 6'4 is very tall. 6' is above average. 5'10 is average.

 

I'm 5'6. Unless you were 200 lbs, you wouldn't break me if you jumped on me.

 

Its just what I am used to. My poor brother, like me, inherited the short genes in the family... We stand out as everyone else is tall! I work in a male dominated environment (I only have 1 female colleague, who I only see a couple of days a week) and all but 3 are over 6ft - I guess they average around 6ft 2ins, some bigger, some nearer 6ft.

 

So 6ft+ to me is "normal". At least 2 of my exes have been 6ft 4ins/ 6ft 5ins, one was 7ft 2in (that didn't last long though).

 

I am not 200lbs so glad to hear I wouldn't "break" you! Tell me how many lbs are acceptable before we get to breakage point? Then I can check before I leap! Lets hope others of your height feel the same way when I start dating again.

[Candy_Pants]

I am only 5'1" so I fully support this "preference" !!

[ascendotum]

I am not 200lbs so glad to hear I wouldn't "break" you! Tell me how many lbs are acceptable before we get to breakage point? Then I can check before I leap! Lets hope others of your height feel the same way when I start dating again.

 

If you put on weight would you be fine if your bfs said they had to break up with you because they could not protect you as well by whisking you to safety or shielding you (from whatever it is you need protection from) or they felt less manly because you could not jump on them anymore or they could pick you up so easy?

[jay1983]

I'm 5'11" and I've only dated one girl who was 5'9" because most girls that like me are short. Very few girls are taller than 5'9" with flats on.

[Toodaloo]

Nah....She(5'11") was boring as hell....but the height deal wasnt the problem...

 

TFY

 

That's the same problem my brother had. Looks but not the brains to match...! It actually became very difficult to hold a conversation with her.

[Toodaloo]

If you put on weight would you be fine if your bfs said they had to break up with you because they could not protect you as well by whisking you to safety or shielding you (from whatever it is you need protection from) or they felt less manly because you could not jump on them anymore or they could pick you up so easy?

 

If he broke up with me because I got fat I am afraid I would be happy to be shot of him. I can lose weight, but you can't lose a superficial attitude.I get fat when I am ill or miserable.

 

A very long time ago I was hideously thin. I had a 13 inch waist and really struggled to put weight on (opposite problem now mind!). My "ubber cool" boyfriend, who all the girls were chasing, told me I looked fat when I turned up at his door in some very slinky undies, heals and a long coat. The relationship must of lasted a whole 5 minutes after that!

 

My decision that he was a bigger arse than mine turned out to be correct when he started sleeping with his cousin... may not be illegal but too close to incest for my liking...

 

As for the shielding/ protection - I don't actually need it, I just like to know it is there. I don't want someone aggressive, assertive and confident is good. I am perfectly capable of dealing with any situation on my own. Any of the chaps I work with will tell you that I am not to be trifled with and the bosses send them to see me for a telling off when needed as it has more effect. It would just be nice to know that I don't have to. That "my man" has got my back and will look after me.

 

If my weight was causing a genuine problem with his self esteem then I guess that I would sit down and think about shedding a few pounds. If not for him then at least for myself.

[Phoe]

 

I will say that a lot of guys I've dated are leg men. They love long, lean legs which you aren't gonna find on a short girl.

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That's lucky. I unfortunately had men in the past who weren't leg men, and told me my legs were too long. Absolutely the most silly thing to think about, telling a girl with long legs that her legs are too long. Like that's a legitimate complaint.

[RoseMadder]

Thanks for proving my point.

 

If tall women only want to date tall guys. And short girls want to date tall guys. Who is left to date the short guys?

 

What point? That the majority of people should be with someone they're not attracted to in order to keep a minority of people from feeling bad about themselves?

 

I agree that some short guys have a harder time than their taller counterparts when it comes to dating, but as many other posters pointed out it mainly comes down to attitude. My brothers about 5.7 but came home from a festival a few weeks ago with a 5.11 catwalk model, she was STUNNING! He's only 20 and she was 24! I was so proud !! The thing is he's never thought of his height as a bad thing, he's a nice, talented, well built, good looking boy (I'm not being biased as his big sister, my female friends comment about him as well) what has he got to feel bad about? There's plenty of shorter guys in my circle of friends, I can't think of one who's had trouble attracting women because of their height. My best friends ex is 5.5 and the biggest womaniser i know! He's NEVER without a GF and assorted FWBs, total man slut!

 

MY preference is taller guys, does that mean I'd never date someone short? No, if the chemistry was right and I liked the man of course I wouldn't throw away something potentially awesome. It's like a bloke liking big boobies, if they met the perfect girl but she had a small chest would they not want to date her?

 

I think some of you are using your height as an excuse, it's easy to blame something you have no control over rather than look at your real issues.

[thefooloftheyear]

My only issue with taller women is most of 'em have some enormously big, snowshoe type feet...

 

I like me some small and dainty feet on my wimmenz....:laugh:

 

TFY

[dichotomy]

What is tall - taller then the guy? Height is not a big issue, but rarely do I meet a woman taller than me. Recently a women I know who is kind a tall, was at a party in heels, and was able to look me in the eye as we talked. It felt to me ....intimate... and charging... to have a women face to face with me. I liked it.

 

But as another poster mentioned at my height and build the shorter or petite women (and some men) feel intimidated meeting me, so I react and shift to those who don't... which are generally taller/bigger women, or ones with more moxy.

 

Yep just give me a girl with hips and moxy..and a heart of gold

[Candy_Pants]

My only issue with taller women is most of 'em have some enormously big, snowshoe type feet...

 

I like me some small and dainty feet on my wimmenz....:laugh:

 

TFY

I used to wear a 5 1/2 in heels. Hope these little sausage toes go away once I give birth!!

[MoreCoffee]

Another vote for moxy right here.

 

Veggirl, I'm thinking you have plenty of moxy.

 

 

What is tall - taller then the guy? Height is not a big issue, but rarely do I meet a woman taller than me. Recently a women I know who is kind a tall, was at a party in heels, and was able to look me in the eye as we talked. It felt to me ....intimate... and charging... to have a women face to face with me. I liked it.

 

But as another poster mentioned at my height and build the shorter or petite women (and some men) feel intimidated meeting me, so I react and shift to those who don't... which are generally taller/bigger women, or ones with more moxy.

 

Yep just give me a girl with hips and moxy..and a heart of gold

[Priv]

I used to wear a 5 1/2 in heels. Hope these little sausage toes go away once I give birth!!

 

Seeing you are 5'1" I am sure they are petite little sausage toes

[Priv]

We petite ladies have more energy than the Energizer Bunny. That's why men prefer shorter women.

 

This has actually been researched and is widely accepted in academic circles:

 

 

Priv, J., et al. (2010) 'Energy levels in relation to height in college aged women'. Nature, vol. 2, August, pp. 207-222.

[RoseMadder]

I used to wear a 5 1/2 in heels. Hope these little sausage toes go away once I give birth!!

 

I'm the same! I worked bloody hard for my collection of designer heels (I could stocktake for Louboutin) It'd be a nightmare being with someone who didn't like me wearing them because I'd be taller than them. Love or Louboutins, the real "Sophie's Choice"

 

I know three chicks who've had babies lately, the two that've lost their baby weight have returned to pre-pregnancy podalic perfection!

 

I'll show myself out....

[sillyanswer]

Why do most men prefer to date a shorter woman?

 

Is it really most?

 

I think it's great when I'm dating a short woman and I can lift her up - which is just practically harder with someone taller as she'll weigh more (for an otherwise similar build) but then I think it's great when I'm dating a tall woman and I can kiss her without having to bend down or pick her up. Plus, those legs on the tall women! mmmm!

[Toodaloo]

Just thought I would update for the shorter guys...

 

Its not just about height - Last night I found myself being rather attracted to a chap I saw who was only an inch taller because he had nice buns... He was also really skinny compared to my normal "type"...

 

Needless to say I just had a sneaky perv and went back to selecting a lettuce!

 

Pros and Cons to all shapes and sizes I guess!