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Badsingularity Established Member

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Sorry, I don't buy any of that, women have a sixth sense nonsense.

 

 

That's sad.

 

If a guy is ever going to be good with women he really needs to understand and accept this. It is part of understanding how women work. Guys who understand women do well with them.

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KaliLove Established Member

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It's not about having a sixth sense, it's about being able to read body language and vocal cues, and yes, women are actually much better at this than men are.

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somedude81 Established Member

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It's not about having a sixth sense, it's about being able to read body language and vocal cues, and yes, women are actually much better at this than men are.

 

I just don't believe that there is any way whatsoever that a woman can read my body language and vocal cues and discover that I'm insecure about my height.

 

I also have no problem flirting and joking with women who are a few inches taller than me so it almost seems ridiculous that a woman can peer deep into my subconscious.

KaliLove Established Member

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I just don't believe that there is any way whatsoever that a woman can read my body language and vocal cues and discover that I'm insecure about my height.

 

I also have no problem flirting and joking with women who are a few inches taller than me so it almost seems ridiculous that a woman can peer deep into my subconscious.

 

 

I'd have to meet you in person to find out. :p

Imajerk17 Established Member

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If you are struggling, there is something you are putting out that is turning women off. It's not your height or your looks, it's your energy.

 

Somedude, it's hard to give you advice because among other things, you keep changing the story. Before you were saying that you don't know how to approach a woman. Now you're saying you have no problems flirting and joking with women a few inches taller than you... Which is it?

thefooloftheyear Established Member

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I think the mods need to add another emoticon....

 

"beating a dead horse"

 

Good grief..

 

TFY

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hasaquestion Established Member

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Ha ha!Sorry, I don't buy any of that, women have a sixth sense nonsense.

 

And how's that working out?

 

Since I'm not trying to date or have sex with them, then it's not really a concern if they're getting turned off.

 

But you ARE trying to date or have sex with them. Because THEM is people in general. People in general are turned off by insecurity. Are you trying to date or have sex with aliens? Ducks?

 

SD all the thousands of "random people" who have told you that aren't all single. They're dating, married, sexually active, etc., who think like the women you're trying to attract.

somedude81 Established Member

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I'd have to meet you in person to find out. :p

Ha ha.

 

And I am sorry about that.

 

That's actually one thing that I don't like about how I am on this forum is that I do feel that I'm different in person, but I've never actually met anybody from this forum in person who can give me a good ole judgment.

 

I've come close a couple of times, but things either went wrong on their end, or mine :(

If you are struggling, there is something you are putting out that is turning women off. It's not your height or your looks, it's your energy.

Not quite.

 

If your looks don't turn a woman on, then your energy has to make up the difference.

 

People keep trying to say that looks don't matter to women at all, and that's just not the case.

 

Somedude, it's hard to give you advice because among other things, you keep changing the story. Before you were saying that you don't know how to approach a woman. Now you're saying you have no problems flirting and joking with women a few inches taller than you... Which is it?

Approaching random women does not equal joking and flirting.

 

Why do you think I take a dance class every semester in college?

 

What do you think I'm doing in that class?

R3d Established Member

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What do you think I'm doing in that class?

 

:laugh:

 

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KaliLove Established Member

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Ha ha.

 

And I am sorry about that.

 

That's actually one thing that I don't like about how I am on this forum is that I do feel that I'm different in person, but I've never actually met anybody from this forum in person who can give me a good ole judgment.

 

I've come close a couple of times, but things either went wrong on their end, or mine :(

 

Not quite.

 

If your looks don't turn a woman on, then your energy has to make up the difference.

 

People keep trying to say that looks don't matter to women at all, and that's just not the case.

 

 

Approaching random women does not equal joking and flirting.

 

Why do you think I take a dance class every semester in college?

 

What do you think I'm doing in that class?

 

You're not gonna tell us what you're doing in your dance classes?? I thought it was dancing but I guess I'm wrong..?

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somedude81 Established Member

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You're not gonna tell us what you're doing in your dance classes?? I thought it was dancing but I guess I'm wrong..?

 

Of course it's dancing. But I'm also flirting and joking with women the entire time.

 

That post was in reply to Imajerk17 who said

Somedude, it's hard to give you advice because among other things, you keep changing the story. Before you were saying that you don't know how to approach a woman. Now you're saying you have no problems flirting and joking with women a few inches taller than you... Which is it?

 

So no, I don't approach random woman on the street. But I have no problem flirting with the girls I meet in my dance classes and sometimes other classes at school.

 

Heck, the primary reason I even take the dance class is to meet women.

somedude81 Established Member

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I was joking.. :)

 

And I was bored :p

 

So I just went a did a full response in case anybody was curious.

xxoo Established Member

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If your looks don't turn a woman on, then your energy has to make up the difference.

 

People keep trying to say that looks don't matter to women at all, and that's just not the case

 

You're putting the focus on looks as a default.

 

Energy is closed to the default. A great lolkkng guy who gives off creepy energy, or egg imitate energy, or timid energy, will still struggle.

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xxoo Established Member

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You're putting the focus on looks as a default.

 

Energy is closed to the default. A great lolkkng guy who gives off creepy energy, or egg imitate energy, or timid energy, will still struggle.

 

:lmao: i'm laughing so hard re-reading this. Posted from my phone and it makes no sense at all :lmao:

 

I meant to say that energy is closer to the default. A great looking guy who gives off creepy energy, or effeminate energy, or timid energy, will struggle.

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serial muse Established Member

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You're putting the focus on looks as a default.

 

Energy is closed to the default. A great lolkkng guy who gives off creepy energy, or egg imitate energy, or timid energy, will still struggle.

 

I personally like egg imitate energy. :lmao:

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Weezy1973 Established Member

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I personally like egg imitate energy. :lmao:

 

Like in an Egg McMuffin! Delicious! Yes please, have egg imitate energy!:laugh:

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somedude81 Established Member

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:lmao: i'm laughing so hard re-reading this. Posted from my phone and it makes no sense at all :lmao:

 

I meant to say that energy is closer to the default. A great looking guy who gives off creepy energy, or effeminate energy, or timid energy, will struggle.

 

Yeah, that's why I didn't reply to you. I had no idea what the heck you were trying to say.

 

Posting with auto-correct can often be very bad humorous.

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Glinda.Good Established Member

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I personally like egg imitate energy. :lmao:

 

It's basically the same as effeminate …

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somedude81 Established Member

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It's basically the same as effeminate …

 

Is that because women have eggs? :laugh:

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Glinda.Good Established Member

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People keep trying to say that looks don't matter to women at all, and that's just not the case.

 

Are they really saying that? I don't think so. Looks matter to almost anyone. But, where you guys seem to get stuck in THIS thread is on the idea that the fact that you are short is the reason that you don't have a girlfriend, or a hookup or whatever.

 

And refuse to acknowledge all the bazillions of short guys who actually do have girlfriends, hookups, wives, etc.

 

Why?

 

Probably because it is so much easier to attribute girlfriendlessness to height and thereby, also to women's superficiality rather than to other attributes you may have, or lack.

 

That's too bad, because a person could do plenty about a lot of things … but not height.

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Glinda.Good Established Member

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Is that because women have eggs? :laugh:

 

Yes, and then there are the egg imitators.

Anela Established Member

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People keep trying to say that looks don't matter to women at all, and that's just not the case.

 

Why shouldn't they matter to us?

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somedude81 Established Member

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Are they really saying that? I don't think so. Looks matter to almost anyone.

Yes, I've seen many posts where some women try to pretend that women don't care about looks at all, and the only thing that matters is character or the mans personality traits. Of course that's a total lie.

 

But, where you guys seem to get stuck in THIS thread is on the idea that the fact that you are short is the reason that you don't have a girlfriend, or a hookup or whatever.

 

Yes and no.

 

I believe that being short is a reason why I haven't dated more.

 

I also believe that if I was at least 5'10, I would have dated a hell of a lot more than I have now at 5'6.

 

And refuse to acknowledge all the bazillions of short guys who actually do have girlfriends, hookups, wives, etc.

 

I do acknowledge that short guys can date and marry women. I myself have actually had an amazing GF despite my height. I also know that she did not leave me because of my height.

 

What I'm saying is that being short makes dating harder. For most short men, their height is a handicap.

 

The best way I've heard being short described was by xxoo, "Shortness is at best a neutral."

 

There are no women out there who prefer or get turned on by short guys. While many women are turned on by tall guys. That's what short guys have to compete with.

Glinda.Good Established Member

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Yes, I've seen many posts where some women try to pretend that women don't care about looks at all, and the only thing that matters is character or the mans personality traits. Of course that's a total lie.

 

How do you know? I bet there are people out there like that. There are people who are married to an ugly looking spouse.

 

Most of us care about looks; it's what attracts in the first place, usually. If the guy is a dud or an ass, next.

 

 

 

I also believe that if I was at least 5'10, I would have dated a hell of a lot more than I have now at 5'6.

 

That is a very convenient perspective for you to cling to. Maybe you should let go of it.

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