google_girl Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 There is this Drop dead gorgeous girl working on my bf office.My boyfriend is her boss .He runs the company.She is vice president there. I am so freakout.I am trying hard to not to feel insecure about it but inside deep down i am. I just dont know how to cope with this.She is more attractive,more talented,sophisticated,ambitious,smart,know how to dress etc as compare to me. Me n my bf are dating 6 months now .He says he loves me and sees future with me.But we are not formarly commited yet.He is the one for me!I am so scare to loose him. Thanks for letting me vent.I am feeling better.
darkmoon Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 if your boyf has not said anything about her, he might not be that keen on her like you imagine, then again, when is he going to give you a good job, give it to a friend (you) not a stranger, that's how the world works
Greznog Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 if your boyf has not said anything about her, he might not be that keen on her like you imagine, then again, when is he going to give you a good job, give it to a friend (you) not a stranger, that's how the world works He hasn't said anything about her because he knows women tend to have egos about as fragile as a silicon wafer.
darkmoon Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 (edited) He hasn't said anything about her because he knows women tend to have egos about as fragile as a silicon wafer. it is only the poster's perception of this woman upsetting her why bully her here? so unsupportive Edited August 27, 2012 by darkmoon 1
Greznog Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 it is only the poster's perception of this woman upsetting her why bully her here? so unsupportive Im not bullying anyone, it's a simple fact that women take any mention of another ( especially attractive ) woman extremely poorly, hence men are better off not mentioning them. 1
plethora Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 There is this Drop dead gorgeous girl working on my bf office.My boyfriend is her boss .He runs the company.She is vice president there. I am so freakout.I am trying hard to not to feel insecure about it but inside deep down i am. I just dont know how to cope with this.She is more attractive,more talented,sophisticated,ambitious,smart,know how to dress etc as compare to me. Me n my bf are dating 6 months now .He says he loves me and sees future with me.But we are not formarly commited yet.He is the one for me!I am so scare to loose him. Thanks for letting me vent.I am feeling better. What exactly has she 'proposed' to him?
SmileFace Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 What exactly has she 'proposed' to him? Her gorgeous-ness.
plethora Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Her gorgeous-ness. I see. She can't really help that can she OP? Why do you think he will leave/cheat just because she's good-looking/dresses well etc?
Disenchantedly Yours Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Im not bullying anyone, it's a simple fact that women take any mention of another ( especially attractive ) woman extremely poorly, hence men are better off not mentioning them. Of course we do. It's when a woman stops caring how her man feels about other women when he should worry. Not WHEN she cares. 1
Author google_girl Posted August 28, 2012 Author Posted August 28, 2012 if your boyf has not said anything about her, he might not be that keen on her like you imagine, then again, when is he going to give you a good job, give it to a friend (you) not a stranger, that's how the world works I am not in position where i could influence his choices of employees.We are still dating. He might not like that.I agree but what if he likes her back.We are not committed yet.
Author google_girl Posted August 28, 2012 Author Posted August 28, 2012 He hasn't said anything about her because he knows women tend to have egos about as fragile as a silicon wafer. I admitted it myself.She is better deal than me.That speaks volume about my ego.I like myself and i am proud of myself too but it doesnt mean i cant see and admit the reality.
Author google_girl Posted August 28, 2012 Author Posted August 28, 2012 What exactly has she 'proposed' to him? That i too dont know.
Author google_girl Posted August 28, 2012 Author Posted August 28, 2012 I see. She can't really help that can she OP? Why do you think he will leave/cheat just because she's good-looking/dresses well etc? We are not committed yet.No engagement.If better deal comes his way why he wont accept it?
Author google_girl Posted August 28, 2012 Author Posted August 28, 2012 Of course we do. It's when a woman stops caring how her man feels about other women when he should worry. Not WHEN she cares. Exxactly!! 1
Fondue Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Calm down. He's not going to go after his own co-worker, especially since she's the VP. If he is the boss and has his own business, he is a smart man. A smart man knows not to let personal life be a part of your work life. Imagine the ****storm that will happen if anything goes poorly with that girl? Say, for instance, he does start something with her. Then what? Most relationships fail, they fail, and the company suffers. Suffers a lot. Or even if they just bang once. The awkwardness and the backlash from such an event can break their company up. He will never do this. As far as the other poster mentioning that he should get you a job. I would avoid that. Avoid it at all costs. Again, mixing personal life with professional. Same principal. Again, I wouldn't even worry about their situation if I was you.
manup Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 There is this Drop dead gorgeous girl working on my bf office.My boyfriend is her boss .He runs the company.She is vice president there. I am so freakout.I am trying hard to not to feel insecure about it but inside deep down i am. I just dont know how to cope with this.She is more attractive,more talented,sophisticated,ambitious,smart,know how to dress etc as compare to me. Me n my bf are dating 6 months now .He says he loves me and sees future with me.But we are not formarly commited yet.He is the one for me!I am so scare to loose him. Thanks for letting me vent.I am feeling better. So basically this girl is better than you or why else would you feel insecure? If you really want to keep him you need to step your game up. Are you nice, do you do things for him, why not try dressing better too? Also DO NOT bring this girl up a lot. Men no that women only bitch about other women when they feel threatened.
VodkaShots Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 (edited) So basically this girl is better than you or why else would you feel insecure? If you really want to keep him you need to step your game up. Are you nice, do you do things for him, why not try dressing better too? Also DO NOT bring this girl up a lot. Men no that women only bitch about other women when they feel threatened. What? Why should she have to compete with another woman for her own partner? If her boyfriend is happy with the way she is now (I presume that's the case), why should she go and do more just because he might have a wandering eye? In any case, you can't stop someone from cheating if they have it in them. If he's that way inclined, the best thing to do is dump him and move on. Likewise, if he's truly committed to his girlfriend, he won't cheat, even if he thinks the other girl is attractive. Likewise, if he leaves her for the other woman. You almost make it sound as if it would be the OPs fault if he did decide to cheat/leave her because she didn't tart herself up enough for him or something. Edited August 28, 2012 by VodkaShots
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 I think when women obsess like this over their insecurity compared to another woman it has an even more negative affect on him. You actually convince yourself and him to a degree that this woman may in fact be better than you because you lay it out on the table things that he may not have noticed or thought of. He may be like "Wow, she's hot" and then just move on realize he is with someone who's he's into and has emotions for. But when you freak out and get paranoid he starts to think that "maybe the girl I'm dating actually has a point...plus look how insecure she's acting about it". I think you're lowering yourself and your own value by doing this, you should be confident and comfortable with what you have with him because a man who's going to cheat and desire other women isn't just going to count on working with an amazing woman. Is it a threat? maybe, maybe not, but your reaction does not help. Should you compete? no, you shouldn't have to...have confidence in your relationship and don't even mention her What should you do then? act confident, unaffected and continue on with the situation you are in and try to establish exclusivity and a relationship like all women are trying to do (half-kidding) but really, just focus on that. If he's willing to go with this girl in the end instead of you, then he never really cared that much about you in the first place, trust me...it just doesn't happen If temptation isn't near, that's like a person who loves twinkies trying to avoid all twinkies then the twinkie eventually finds them! You've got to trust in your relationship and stop comparing yourself to this woman and basing your value on that. Your insecurity will only weaken the bond you have and give him doubts and consideration of that. I only hope he has the sense not to mention anything about this woman If he realizes you comparing yourself to her, because he'll be stepping unknowingly on a land mine.
veggirl Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 What does it mean that you call him your boyfriend but say you are not committed? You just mean you are not engaged? Also--I am just...perplexed...your boyfriend is a VP of a company? Your posts are very difficult to read/understand... eta: oh I see she is a VP and he is a regular office worker. I guess that makes more sense..
manup Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 What? Why should she have to compete with another woman for her own partner? If her boyfriend is happy with the way she is now (I presume that's the case), why should she go and do more just because he might have a wandering eye? In any case, you can't stop someone from cheating if they have it in them. If he's that way inclined, the best thing to do is dump him and move on. Likewise, if he's truly committed to his girlfriend, he won't cheat, even if he thinks the other girl is attractive. Likewise, if he leaves her for the other woman. You almost make it sound as if it would be the OPs fault if he did decide to cheat/leave her because she didn't tart herself up enough for him or something. Her boyfriends eye isn't wandering she's insecure, women get insecure like this when they feel threatened. It's the same advice you give guys on here better yourself and your insecurities will go away. I mean she's all freaked out because she dressed better so she should dress better.
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