rach24680 Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 it's been just over a week since me and my ex split up. I went out last night with a group of friends and met a nice guy, we exchanged numbers and other things... anyway, I know it's only been a week but I wasn't happy in my relationship with my ex and I partly feel like I was over him a few months before we split up. I know it's early doors and we haven't even arranged a date yet but I don't want to rebound. Is it too soon to get into a relationship? Some people finish their current partners to get with someone else so I suppose it might not be too soon?
Disenchantedly Yours Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 Do you still have feelings for your ex? Any feelings at all? Anger, love, hate, frustration, saddness? If so, it's too soon to be jumping into something with someone else. 1
Author rach24680 Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 i thought most people always have some sort of feelings towards their exs?
zanesfan Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 You may not want it to be a rebound but it may end up being that way. Sometimes when you are emotionally unavailable in a relationship, its easier to move on to the next person. However, if you have hopes that you and your ex reconcile, dont string this guy along.
Author rach24680 Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 i couldn't care less about what my ex does, there's no way I want to get back with him. How do you know if you're in a rebound relationship? what's the difference?
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 There is still a residual wave that comes over people when transitioning out of a relationship officially. It's more of a recalibration period and focusing back on yourself and reflecting on the past. Otherwise you're still highly vulnerable to being a rebound, especially If things go well and you feel a sudden surge of emotion and likeness towards your SO...but a lot of that is residual from your last relationship. Therefore you can't correctly read men at this time and interpret their actions or motives properly (not that you could before unfortunately, I'm just sayin!) This is exactly how things go though, you're still in a prime state of rebounding...i would recommend waiting much longer than just one week, sounds ridiculous, regardless of what you say. And the length depends on the length of the relationship, you were obviously in it for a reason If you stayed in it for a long time (if that's the case) don't understand the emotional inbalance even If you feel "ok". You still need time or it's like you just get caught in this transition stage, if not worth and stuck. Then keep going from wrong man to wrong man until you figure out your own issues here.
youngskywalker Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 Personally I get back on the horse as soon as I can. Rebounding or not, it helps me move on and heal.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted August 27, 2012 Posted August 27, 2012 i thought most people always have some sort of feelings towards their exs? Gosh, I would hope not. They might remember the feelings they did have with a person but hopefully they don't still have those same feelings presently for the rest of time.
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