youngnlove89 Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 He JUST sent me an email and wrote: "I.... almost got into my truck and drove over to your place, but didn't want to get shot by your roomates bf if he was home. but i lied in bed for awhile thinking about it. But then i also didn't want you to think i came over for sex. so i wasn't going to sleep with you. but then if you tried to sleep with me and i refused you would have been upset ugh!! so i just stayed in bed." Oh goodness. Please help me. What do I do?
Tree_Salmon Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 He JUST sent me an email and wrote: "I.... almost got into my truck and drove over to your place, but didn't want to get shot by your roomates bf if he was home. but i lied in bed for awhile thinking about it. But then i also didn't want you to think i came over for sex. so i wasn't going to sleep with you. but then if you tried to sleep with me and i refused you would have been upset ugh!! so i just stayed in bed." Oh goodness. Please help me. What do I do? I thought you didn't care about being with him anymore and were moving, etc? Sounds like he's missing the comfort. What do you want from this?
barese1 Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 I don't even know what he is trying to achieve from that. Bit of an odd message if you ask me. What do you actually want from him anyway?
Author youngnlove89 Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 I thought you didn't care about being with him anymore and were moving, etc? Sounds like he's missing the comfort. What do you want from this? Moving? Moving where? I'm not moving. And I don't remember saying that. I was trying to move on, because I thought he didn't want me. But now with that email, I'm so confused.
Author youngnlove89 Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 I don't even know what he is trying to achieve from that. Bit of an odd message if you ask me. What do you actually want from him anyway? It is very odd huh? Like he mine as well told me when he took a crap that day too. I do want him back. I miss him. but I'm afraid.
KatZee Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 Sounds like he wanted a booty call but didn't know how to go about it. He was just going to show up to your house, but didn't want you thinking he came for sex, so was going to turn you down but then you'd be upset... Blah blah blah... what exactly is the point of this message? I'm not the right person to be asking because I don't get this either. He's not saying he misses you, or wants you back, or regrets anything. He's talking about having sex with you. Whatever. NC. Keep it strong. 1
KatZee Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 It is very odd huh? Like he mine as well told me when he took a crap that day too. I do want him back. I miss him. but I'm afraid. Ugh. You were actually doing well there for a second.
Matt145 Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 Moving? Moving where? I'm not moving. And I don't remember saying that. I was trying to move on, because I thought he didn't want me. But now with that email, I'm so confused. Ive had texts like that for about a month and if they ment anything id be back with my ex now but they dont! Hes just playing mind games he wants you to contact him back and i bet as soon as you do he will be cold with you and still not want a relationship. If he wanted you back he would just tell you straight. 1
Tree_Salmon Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 Moving? Moving where? I'm not moving. And I don't remember saying that. I was trying to move on, because I thought he didn't want me. But now with that email, I'm so confused. You've said before that you're moving on and don't want someone who does 95% want you. I've seen you rant on here all the time about how you deserve better. Which is correct. And now you don't know what to do? He's throwing you a line and wants to see if you'll bite. "breadcrumbs" they call it here. He 95% wants to come to your place. It's all about him.
KatZee Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 Come on. Bald. Ugly. Douchebag. You're only 95% it. He's looking for a relationship with someone else... STICK TO WHAT REALITY IS. He's really that egotistical to think he can just drive by your house and you'd invite him in. He's a piece of work. He knows you're weak and that you'd allow this. PROVE HIM WRONG.
It's Just Me Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 The last thing you should be feeling right now is flattered. What a loser he is. Answer back, "Hi, who is this? Tom?" (Or whatever his name ISN'T.) 1
Author youngnlove89 Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 Thank you for all the quick responses! You are all right too. I haven't responded back, I came here first because I know I can't think clearly right now. I am trying to move on. I know what he is. But I didn't think he would message me that! It messed me up emotionally. My feelings are very fragile right now and easily breakable. But you are right KatZee, DEAD ON, he didn't say he missed me or wanted me back. He just basically told me how he was horny and didn't want to come over unless it was mutual. He thought I'd respond and tell him to come over. He knows we would have sex because I'm weak right now. I would do anything to be in his arms again. Now he set me off the path I was headed on. But I'm not going to respond. I just hate these mixed signals, these bumps in the road that I keep tripping on. I just want him to let me go. But most of all, I WANT TO LET GO
It's Just Me Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 You will. Just keeping putting one foot in front of the other. A wise friend once told me that you get to your destination faster by looking straight ahead through the windshield, not by staring at the rear-view mirror. Face forward, and keep your eyes on the prize: freedom!
Author youngnlove89 Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 And NOW he texts me to tell me to check my email...
Tree_Salmon Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 And NOW he texts me to tell me to check my email... This guy sounds like a major tool. And now hes horny. If you feel the need to have a conversation with him then maybe you should. But be honest with him and yourself. Don't be some angry burned ex lover like you've sounded here. Do whatever you think is best for your emotional health. Allot of people here will egg you on to make snap decisions in anger but you're the one who's going to have to live with the results. Right now you're very volatile emotionally and you need to take a second to think about things.
Author youngnlove89 Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 This guy sounds like a major tool. And now hes horny. If you feel the need to have a conversation with him then maybe you should. But be honest with him and yourself. Don't be some angry burned ex lover like you've sounded here. Do whatever you think is best for your emotional health. Allot of people here will egg you on to make snap decisions in anger but you're the one who's going to have to live with the results. Right now you're very volatile emotionally and you need to take a second to think about things. If he is so horny, why doesn't he just call up a girl or go to a bar? Or use his hand!? Why me? He knows how hard this is for me. and he is taking advantage of it. Thank you, you are right. I'm the only who has to deal with the results.
KatZee Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 And NOW he texts me to tell me to check my email... He's blocking your path because you're letting him. I think you're not fully letting go because you're still holding out hope that one day you're going to get the, "Oh baby I love you so much, you're my 100%!" You won't. Are you on Verizon? Get onto your account online and BLOCK HIS NUMBER. You're allowed up to 5 blocked numbers for free. Get on it. Do you use Gmail? Go set it up so anything coming from him gets send directly to spam/trash. Then you keep walking. One foot in front of the other. There will be no blocks, or ambiguity, or breadcrumbs. End it. Now. 1
lingardx Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 He knows how hard this is for me. and he is taking advantage of it. do not reply, do not even think about replying. if i got sent that email from an ex the only thing i would think is B O O T Y C A L L. he's checking to see if you're still there, as he would expect you to reply "oh yeah i'd love to see you" etc etc. sounds as if all he wants is sex. do not reply to him, because once you do he'll know he will still have you on a leash.
lingardx Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 Ive had texts like that for about a month and if they ment anything id be back with my ex now but they dont! Hes just playing mind games he wants you to contact him back and i bet as soon as you do he will be cold with you and still not want a relationship. If he wanted you back he would just tell you straight. couldn't find those words to put in my post but the poster is 100% right. my ex who i dated two years ago would do this to me, text me and then text me if i don't reply, tweet me and then email me if i didn't reply i'd then reply and not here from him for a week! do not be that girl 1
Author youngnlove89 Posted August 31, 2012 Author Posted August 31, 2012 It hurts! Why does he do that. Now he calls me all the time and messages me. I'm not taking him back till he proves that he wants what I want. It just makes this process harder for me.
veggirl Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 It hurts! Why does he do that. Now he calls me all the time and messages me. I'm not taking him back till he proves that he wants what I want. It just makes this process harder for me. what actions would prove that?
weallfalldown Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 your the one to blame here my dear.... your involving yourself in it all.... get a grip and ignore it????????......(no offence)
Author youngnlove89 Posted August 31, 2012 Author Posted August 31, 2012 your the one to blame here my dear.... your involving yourself in it all.... get a grip and ignore it????????......(no offence) I have been ignoring it.
Author youngnlove89 Posted August 31, 2012 Author Posted August 31, 2012 what actions would prove that? him showing up with a boombox (John Cusak style) proclaiming his love for me!
weallfalldown Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 hey miss drama queen... you need to be on your own for some time..... stick it out and you'll feel so much better in the long run....
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