irc333 Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 When I was talking with her we had a great time, but she didn't ask ONE question about myself, I only seemed to volunteer my info. Don't get me wrong, it was great hanging out with her, she even wanted to play ping pong, and spend time in the friends hot tub with me, but....and she was quite the talker. Great personality, laughs a lot, nice smile, and a cute girl. Maybe it's just her conversation style. She would talk about her pets/dogs, even asked me to walk with her to her car to get her cell phone to look at her pictures of her pets. Even got me a drink when she wanted to get up to get one. But, again, unless I volunteered info about myself, she'd never ask about what I did for a living (maybe that's a good thing, lol), what I do for fun, etc, etc.... Of course, I had women ask me questions like that before, but they were never interested in me either. I did get her digits though, and looked her up on FB, and we added each other. Turns out she has a lot of male friends. She's always talking about some zany guy friend of hers that does this and that. This isn't the first time that I would come across a woman that had many guy friends, but I am wondering if my chances are seriously greater that I'll be FZ'ed considering her accumulation of guy friends. She has a lot of photos of her and some guy somewhere , "This is me and my friend, Zack at the beach!" or "This is my bud, Henry, hanging out at the dog park!" Some of these guys are even attractive, too.
clueless123 Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 Funny I had very similar experience with a guy who I just met. But I didn't volunteer much personal info. either. Did you ask her about her? Because I didn't ask the guy his hobbies and stuff like that because he didn't ask me. If he had, I would have too. It's impossible to tell her feelings for you through her other relationships with other guys. They might just be friends.
GLDheart Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 She didn't ask about you because she is more worried about herself. The behavior you describe indicates a highly anxious/insecure girl. These volatile young ladies are the spice of life but can also be a roller coaster ride in a relationship. Caveat Emptor.
oldshirt Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 so she's cute, outgoing, personable, expresses herself freely and is adventurous and likes to get out and do things with people? That means she has dozens of satilites all orbiting around her waiting for her to pick one at any given time. She didn't need to ask you anything about yourself because she already knows your position on her call-list. check out the "Ladder Theory" if you haven't already. she already knows what rung you are going to be on her ladder and which ladder you are on. In essense she knows she's popular and knows she has lots of viable options and knows all she has to do is pick one for whatever she needs at that moment. I'm not saying you are dead in the water or don't stand any kind of chance. I'm just saying she already knows what your "place" is and doesn't need anymore information to determine what that place is for now. She may or may not need to find out more later. you have a lot of competition here in her other satilites. the question you need to ask yourself is are you better than the rest of the competition?
TaraMaiden Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 No, the question is, "Can I be bothered to 'compete'...?"
Art_Critic Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 She is dating for the fun of it and only to have more friends.. You were friend zoned from the get go...she likes all the attention that all the men give her... Until you mentioned her FB I was thinking she just was nervous.. but yeah.. she hasn't any intention of doing you.. Why do you friend people on FB that you don't even know ?.. of course she does the same...
Charlie Harper Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 These women are the easiest to get : do these 3 things and she will be calling you: 1) CAll her, say you had a great time and be sure she has your cel number, then after hanging up block her Facebook account ... or while closing your call say something that will make her feel insecure..like you hang out with lots of guys I saw your FB page but you are not in a relationship, but I guess it happens a lt to gay people (or something like that) she will JUMP and say I am not gay, and then say non chalantly ops I though you were sorry,... MAKE HER FEEL UNWANTED AND INSECURE. 2) Be mysterious , if she did not ask nothing about you that is great just give parts of the puzzle women love to play games on their minds and the ore mysterious, the mo re attracted they get 3) If you have a date enjoy have a great time treat her like a little sister, touch her on her shoulders look in to her eyes, be fun, but try to end the date early because of something came up, you had other things to do... whatever... Do it and you will see how easy insecure women are....BTW these kind of self centered women are no LTR material...have fun.
TaraMaiden Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 These women are the easiest to get : do these 3 things and she will be calling you: 1) CAll her, say you had a great time and be sure she has your cel number, then after hanging up block her Facebook account ... or while closing your call say something that will make her feel insecure..like you hang out with lots of guys I saw your FB page but you are not in a relationship, but I guess it happens a lt to gay people (or something like that) she will JUMP and say I am not gay, and then say non chalantly ops I though you were sorry,... MAKE HER FEEL UNWANTED AND INSECURE. 2) Be mysterious , if she did not ask nothing about you that is great just give parts of the puzzle women love to play games on their minds and the ore mysterious, the mo re attracted they get 3) If you have a date enjoy have a great time treat her like a little sister, touch her on her shoulders look in to her eyes, be fun, but try to end the date early because of something came up, you had other things to do... whatever... Do it and you will see how easy insecure women are....BTW these kind of self centered women are no LTR material...have fun. Yeah, the kind of stupid mind-games morons play because they haven't a clue how to interact on a mature level. You did that to me, I'd laugh at number one... and say, "well, it takes one to know one! Well spotted!" and - hang up.... Mature women with a wide social circle of men can recognise a jerk at a thousand paces. You think a woman with this many male friends gives a damn about some new kid on the block trying to make her "FEEL UNWANTED AND INSECURE"...? Plenty more fish in the sea when she's discarded the tiddlers, dear! Gimme a break!
Charlie Harper Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Yeah, the kind of stupid mind-games morons play because they haven't a clue how to interact on a mature level. You did that to me, I'd laugh at number one... and say, "well, it takes one to know one! Well spotted!" and - hang up.... Mature women with a wide social circle of men can recognise a jerk at a thousand paces. You think a woman with this many male friends gives a damn about some new kid on the block trying to make her "FEEL UNWANTED AND INSECURE"...? Plenty more fish in the sea when she's discarded the tiddlers, dear! Gimme a break! Don't get so worked up by my post, you are not that kind of person, but there are TONS of insecure drama queens out there...and they are easy to get, also why do you think there are a lot of beautiful women out there hanging out with jerks? this forum is full of post of nice guys who can fathom why Jane the cute girl next door can't be dated if you sent her flowers, and she goes out with a big douche. My point is that if you want to hang out with a woman who has a gazzilion of friends on FB, its quite probably she likes the attention and the best way to get this insecure drama queens is playing them... Too bad you took it personally. In the real world it works like magic (again with those kind of women). if in doubt, google Rihanna I rest my case.
TaraMaiden Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 oldshirt, post #4. Absolutely spot-on. I believe this scenario fits his analysis far more accurately than yours does. In this case. But I'm of the opinion that person-on-person mind-games, regardless of gender, is immature behaviour, and disrespectful to that person's place in life. Why treat a person like that, if they have insecurities already? Isn't that goading and adding to them, instead of being understanding and sympathising? Don't we all have issues we'd rather people understood, instead of exploited?
Charlie Harper Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 You are correct but unfortunately not all people are mature, or WANT to mature. Heck if I had the attitude that I only had to date smart and mature persons that were beyond his years at 20 to 22 years old I would never got a date, got out or had sex for like 10 years. Being smart, I broke the code for insecure women and had lots of fun (Yes I was immature but what the heck I was not guilty of women who are primma Donas and drama Queens with issues), later I only dated older Women because I found them more level headed, mature and tired of stupid games. As I grew older, I knew what I wanted and grew tired of mind games, and stupid high school dramas. here is an example: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/345805-why-do-people-leave-someone-nice-then-get-someone-not-very-nice Its NOT wrong to outplay a Player. Just learn your level and hone your skills ;-)
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