dp421685 Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 Wanted to get some input. Been in NC for about 3 weeks and I have been doing better each day. Anyways, I have been avoiding social media sites, FB, Twitter, Instagram since she is on there and follows me/follow her. I went on to check a mention on Twitter and started to poke around. I saw that she has been really, really active on the twitter posts the past few weeks. She was not like this at all prior or during when we were together. To be honest, I really didn't feel any feelings nor did it affect me (good i guess?). Just pretty much tweets about hanging with friends, i guess "inside jokes", just generally things she has been doing or going to do. What does all this mean? Let me iterate that this was the first time i went on ins few weeks. Is she trying "hard" to let me know she has moved on, or is it a mind game she is trying to play?
fray5 Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 Wanted to get some input. Been in NC for about 3 weeks and I have been doing better each day. Anyways, I have been avoiding social media sites, FB, Twitter, Instagram since she is on there and follows me/follow her. I went on to check a mention on Twitter and started to poke around. I saw that she has been really, really active on the twitter posts the past few weeks. She was not like this at all prior or during when we were together. To be honest, I really didn't feel any feelings nor did it affect me (good i guess?). Just pretty much tweets about hanging with friends, i guess "inside jokes", just generally things she has been doing or going to do. What does all this mean? Let me iterate that this was the first time i went on ins few weeks. Is she trying "hard" to let me know she has moved on, or is it a mind game she is trying to play? I wouldn't think anything into it as to if she's playing a game or not. Of course that's easier for me to say than you to do. However, I will say it's bad news from my experience. I broke up with my ex about a week ago and we had a breakup before that too in the middle of our relationship. Her tweeting some weird crap is what brought the end of it that first time. She eventually came back and didn't tweet bc I think she was afraid of it ruining our relationship. Well, the last month when things headed downhill, I got on twitter and saw she had begun tweeting again. As silly as it sounds, I got a bad feeling and sure enough she started acting weird and pretty much gave me no option but to end things. I'm not sure if that helps or not but all I can say is that any girl using twitter to get a reaction or say ridiculous things is immature- I think the term twitter whore is appropriate. There's a good chance she's just using that to screw with you, but don't let it bother you man. Use it as ammo to show you how you're better off without her. Relationships and break ups would be soooo much easier without the social media sites.
weallfalldown Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 ****in twitter......it should be called i'm a twatter, i can't keep anything to myself, i want the whole world to know when i'm taking a **** 2
Author dp421685 Posted August 22, 2012 Author Posted August 22, 2012 I have "disappeared" on all theses sites will continue to do so. She broke up with me and called me "immature" because of NC, she called it "ignoring her". I don't know if she is playing games, or if I am reading into it too much. I analyze data for a living so, I always look for trends in everything...so her recent spike in activity does make me wonder what her motives might be. In general, are there psychological motives behind why she has become so active besides mind games?
weallfalldown Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 say " my cock has never seen so much action recently" Put that in your pipe and smoke it beatchhhhh 2
fray5 Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 I have "disappeared" on all theses sites will continue to do so. She broke up with me and called me "immature" because of NC, she called it "ignoring her". I don't know if she is playing games, or if I am reading into it too much. I analyze data for a living so, I always look for trends in everything...so her recent spike in activity does make me wonder what her motives might be. In general, are there psychological motives behind why she has become so active besides mind games? She's just telling you the NC is immature bc she doesn't like it and it's not what she wants. You could be reading into it too much; I know the feeling. However, I do believe that when they go from not posting to posting and then to more posting it does represent some type of psychological change/motive.
InAFog Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 My ex did about the same. Never used FB and now is adding a bunch of new friends (girls i may add) and changing his pictures to him out having fun. I really do think he's doing it just for me to see. I actually think he's out meeting people JUST to friend them on FB to try to make me jealous. It doesn't really though. He adds them and then nothing else about them. Seems more childish than anything. I never said anything about it and he has stopped and done no more activity for over a month.
weallfalldown Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 hmmm.....i bet the greedy little **** that thought up Fb.....is not so concerned about the overall damage it has done....over the years, let's call it divorce book.......we by nature are over curious, nosey creatures, such communication is a bad bad thing........call me a pecimist, but we are becoming are own demise................we're damaging, threatning....the only real values that hold a relationship together......... 1
InAFog Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 hmmm.....i bet the greedy little **** that thought up Fb.....is not so concerned about the overall damage it has done....over the years, let's call it divorce book.......we by nature are over curious, nosey creatures, such communication is a bad bad thing........call me a pecimist, but we are becoming are own demise................we're damaging, threatning....the only real values that hold a relationship together......... Agreed. People such attention mongers now. More interested in being just a persona on a screen than in real relationships with real people. 2
Me13 Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 It's really hard to say without knowing what kind of person she is. On one hand, she could be quite literally just trying to move on, and Twitter is a way of socialising with people and keeping busy. If she's a bit more cynical, she could definitely be using it as a way of coming off as happy and "all moved on". Either way it's unhealthy for you to look right now. I have a bad habit of that, I went thru a nasty break-up 6 months ago, and have been NC ever since... went on Twitter the other day to find out he is already moved on and engaged (whether or not thats "normal behaviour" is up to each person I guess...) but either way it ripped me apart and I was much better not knowing!! If it was meant to be, or is meant to be, it will all sort itself out, in the meantime - don't torture yourself!!! Seriously, not worth it!!
Me13 Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 Oh and another thought to keep in mind with social media -- things are NEVER what they seem. People ONLY post about happy things, good things, fun pictures... they could sit in a dark room crying for 10 hours a day, go out for a drink with a friend and tweet that - we see it and our overactive imaginations fill in the rest of what their world must be like. So always take what you see with a grain of salt!
g450 Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 Who gives a rat's azz what she thinks. And more importantly, why the hell do you care? Just block her. Your life is none of her concern and vise versa. Be done with that **** already!
SoConfusedAndInShock Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 why are you snooping on her twitter? why did you guys BU?
Author dp421685 Posted August 23, 2012 Author Posted August 23, 2012 I wasn't snooping, I have a list built out for people I'm friends with and I went on since I haven't been on there in probably 2weeks and she was all over the list. To be honest i really don't know why she broke up with me. Never really gave me a real reason.
Kovalchoke Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 Yeah this whole twitter/facebook thing really makes it hard to move on. Im starting to avoid twitter/fb at least until i get over my ex. Ive been in NC for about 2 months and so far not a peep, just a bunch of mind games. My ex got her sister to text me a picture of my ex's back with a ribbon on it with my name.... I always thought she was playing games and now i know she is. What im saying is, just keep silent and eventually she'll do something to get ur attention...Silence is Golden
Mint Sauce Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 on the other hand, I find that FB really helps the dumpee survive lonely times. There's always company at hand when you need it, even if none of your close friends are around. But the ex has to be unfriended of course.
SoConfusedAndInShock Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 do what i did.... i deleted MY fb and made my twitter private BUT IF YOU REALLY need your twitter, make a private one and delete her from the last. that way no chance of her snooping on you or you running across her things accidentally. if common friends have to go, well then that needs to be done as well. stay strong and good luck!
woodbeez Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 took me a month to realize seeing her random tweets with mediocre jokes and the occasional Youtube link just twisted the knife a little and made me feel like utter toxic garbage. why would I want that? why would you want that? she moved on, at least enough on to make you feel so bad. it's hard to understand and accept - but it's a fact. your thread, for a second there, made me think about checking her Twitter page. but I've blocked her in every way possible. and I know checking up will only make me feel really bad. so I don't. how am I capable? I denied myself the possibility of checking up on her. if you're using Firefox, get an add-on named "Blocksite" and block her Twitter page, instagram, FB, whatever. what she does now is irrelevant to you. and yes, this one is hard to sink as well. it's unnatural not to know what goes on in her life. but seriously, she's a different person now. you're missing something that ended, that died. don't be a necrophiliac. block, embrace the pain, it'll eventually get easier.
g450 Posted August 25, 2012 Posted August 25, 2012 on the other hand, I find that FB really helps the dumpee survive lonely times. There's always company at hand when you need it, even if none of your close friends are around. But the ex has to be unfriended of course. I agree. FB has its uses. Which is why I simply tell the BS to block the person causing the drama and pain in their life. Simple to do. But every single time I post this advice it gets ignored. Go figure. Some people really dont come here for good advice. Its like they crave the drama.
Author dp421685 Posted September 14, 2012 Author Posted September 14, 2012 wanted to give an update. been about 35 days nc. went on twitter to see a tweet my buddy posted. i saw my ex on there while searching my timeline. i dont know why i didnt block her - maybe its immature. anyways, she tweeted something like having someone hook her up with an "attractive assistant" or something along those lines. she has never posted anything like this before. is she trying to get me to chase and playing ****ing mind games?
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