mizundastud Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Hello everyone, I have been using this forum for the past 3 years to cope with my very bad break up from my ex. Over the past 3 yrs I have been miserable and depressed feeling like I lost of a piece of me every since our break up. I have dated other guys and have had a 1 1/2 serious relationship but still could not get over him. Well currently after three years we are finally talking about getting back together, talking about starting a family and business together. Because I was so depressed about our separation I moved 14hrs away to another state. So now that we are in reconciliation mode we have discussed me moving back. I was so happy to have the love of my life back but now here is the problem. During our break up he had gotten back with his ex. They were living together but he moved out because he said she didn't want to change somethings that he couldn't deal with. Me and this girl hate each other and she has been a major part of a lot of our problems. I know that he has moved out because I visited home a couple weeks ago and been to his new place. The thing is I know that he still loves her and I have a big problem with that being as though she has gone out her way to cause problems in our relationship when we were together. In talking to him its seems to me that she is always going to be in the picture because they are still friends. I have a very hard time with that because I feel like how can you claim to love me so much but still associate yourself with someone who has tried so hard to break us up. Now I have the decision to make to move back home and still try to work it out something I have been wanting for the past 3 yrs, or let the situation go because of the problems that this girls causes? Please some advice on this. I love my ex very much but I have extreme anger towards this girl and I don't want to lash out and do something stupid. I just cant understand why he doesn't see through her manipulation and deceit. And also I am extremely jealous of his love for her. I'm confused because I don't want to go another 3 yrs being without him but I can't deal with this girl again.
pteromom Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Now I have the decision to make to move back home and still try to work it out something I have been wanting for the past 3 yrs, or let the situation go because of the problems that this girls causes? Or a third option - stay where you are. Make a visit back home. Keep talking; Skyping; etc. See if your feelings for each other grow to the point where you both can get past this other girl. I would absolutely not move back to him when he still loves her. But I wouldn't write him off if you think there's a possibility there. I would be wary though. If he's just broken up with her, he may be idealizing what you and he had and running back to you because it's the least painful option. Another reason I would take it slowly.
Author mizundastud Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 I know but the whole idea of her just disgust me. My whole history with this girl is just a mess and I just really want the idea of her out my life but for that to happen I'm going to have to let him go also and I'm not ready for that. I just wish there was a for sure of moving past her because I don't want to get extremely emotionally involved to have to deal with this girl finding out we are getting back together and harassing me again.
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