ech Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Not sure where to post this. I have read many threads about guys preference between curvy or thin women. Most prefer curvy it seems. WELL then why do they all stare at the thin ones when out? Just askin! I am 5'8" and 145. I have the curves in the right places. Not so much the boobs, but I def got the Bum and def not a ugly face. I am not trying to be conceited in any way here, I do not think I am better than anybody else thats for sure. I am just trying to paint the picture. When out alone many guys stare, when at the mall they stare at the stick thin women. And I have to say, they do not have much of a body. Is it just cause society says its not "right" to stare at curvier women? That "thin is in"? Just askin men:) Trying to figure out what is going on in those heads! (both of em:D)
Greznog Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 (edited) Because they secretly prefer thin women, but not every guy can get a thin woman and so they convince themselves they like "thick" women. It's the same as very plain looking women saying they don't care about money or an athletic body. It's because they know they can't get it and so they pretend they don't find any of that particularly attractive. Also, in the US thick is the new average so it's nothing special even if they're attracted to it. Seeing a really fit looking woman is fairly rare depending on where you reside. Edited August 20, 2012 by Greznog
Author ech Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 Plenty of these men could get the women their looking at. We are not talking supermodels! We're talking just thin. I was VERY thin. I prefer to be this way. I look healthy. Next.....
Titanwolf Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 (edited) If you're in America, it's most likely approval. Picture this scenario; a fairly "large" lady walks past my friends and I, whilst we're hanging out. I stare at her as she walks past and she reciprocates with a smile. Now what do you think my friends would think or say to me afterwards? probably something that expresses their disapproval, "Err she's fat", "What's wrong with you man?" (my friends aren't really like this). Now imagine this on a much larger scale, i.e a mall setting where a man publicly shows his interest in a "large" lady. People will think he's "odd", "strange" a "weirdo" for even looking. However, if a stick woman walks past looking all fragile and ****, men will stare because as you said, it's ok to stare at thin women. Where I'm from though, people appreciate curvy women. Edited August 20, 2012 by Titanwolf 1
Andy_K Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Plenty of thin girls look curvy too. Also, don't compare how much you see guys staring at someone else with how much you see them staring at you. Most are careful enough not to be seen staring by the person they're looking at. For every one you catch looking at you, there were nine you missed. But when you're watching guys stare at someone else you'll catch every single glance. 1
MrCastle Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 If you don't have curves, then you look like a boy. I've seen the phrase "healthy" used to describe skinny women. Fine. You look like a healthy boy. Most men want tits and ass in their sex life. I know I do. 1
StrangeBehaviors Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I've dated & had sex with what some would consider the epitome of female health. Tri-athlete competing on a regular basis. Curvy is much better than this ^ in my opinion. 1
pteromom Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 How do you dress at the mall? Do you wear clothes that fit you well, with heels and makeup and your hair done? Or do you wear an oversize t-shirt and a ponytail and walking shoes? If the latter, that is probably why you aren't getting the looks. You also have to be open and confident and project a certain vibe of sensuality.
grkBoy Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Not sure where to post this. I have read many threads about guys preference between curvy or thin women. Most prefer curvy it seems. WELL then why do they all stare at the thin ones when out? Just askin! I am 5'8" and 145. I have the curves in the right places. Not so much the boobs, but I def got the Bum and def not a ugly face. I am not trying to be conceited in any way here, I do not think I am better than anybody else thats for sure. I am just trying to paint the picture. When out alone many guys stare, when at the mall they stare at the stick thin women. And I have to say, they do not have much of a body. Is it just cause society says its not "right" to stare at curvier women? That "thin is in"? Just askin men:) Trying to figure out what is going on in those heads! (both of em:D) I don't know your exact situation or what you look like, but here's the honesty from a guy: 1) Too many FAT women will claim to be "curvy". I'm not calling you fat, but merely stating how often I see the debate on how men claim to like "curvy" but run for "thin" usually is spoken by a BBW who wants to deny her size. 2) Men like women who look like women. Again, I am not speaking of you because I don't know what you look like. However, I see women in great shape complain how men pass them up, and too often I want to tell them the truth. They chopped their hair into a pixie cut, dress too "tomboy", and/or often have a bad attitude when it comes to men. Men do not want to date a b***h. Boys will only tolerate the b***h if she's a hot girl that's a guaranteed good lay. What is your age? How approachable do you make yourself? Do you look nice when you go out to the mall? Tell us more and perhaps we can find solutions.
Author ech Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 I agree its all in "how" a woman presents herself. When I am out (like at the mall) I am there usually to just shop. I am 35, so I am not there to pick up guys lol. I do dress nice, but not in heels! And dont get me wrong, my whole time is not spent seeing how many guys are staring! It was just something I noticed. Why guys say one things and do the opposite when in public. I will try to post a few pictures here. I've never done it so we'll see how it goes. I am not a BBW trying to say I'm "curvy". I just never really had to classify myself before thats why I put that:D Ok I cant figure it out.
GLDheart Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 35, 145lbs, 5'8'', pretty face, and the rest of the way you describe yourself sounds pretty damn attractive. Besides at 5'8" you could gain a few pounds and still look perfectly fine. In fact, if you were my spouse, you'd catch a guy staring at you quite often ;-)
strongnrelaxed Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 A few thoughts: 1- Obese does not = curvy. Too many women use "curvy" as a euphemism for way overweight. There is a fine line there. 2 - Curves and body type are less important than how it is carried and displayed. Some women are beanpoles and look like crack addicts, while others make it work. Same general looks, same body type, but different attitude. It shows and we notice. Women feel the same about men. 3 - Youth and healthiness matter much more than body type. Young and/or fit = attractive; while older and/or out of shape = not attractive. Forget societal norms here. That only goes so far. Don't take Reubens paintings as some sort of indication that they loved obese women in the old days. Those are just caricatures of bodies to emphasize what was considered healthy in those times. 4 - Biology and evolution will ALWAYS matter more to the best men and women. The lower one is in the proverbial food chain, the more flexible one must be with one's choices. I have known friends who were completely unaware of their own level and were continually perplexed about why "there are no good men out there" There are plenty of good men. They just don't want you because you don't get it. Same holds for men, BTW. Quick story. Once I dated perhaps the most stunningly beautiful woman I ever had. I cannot overemphasize the beauty of this woman. When we had sex it was like doing a mannequin. She was too bony and it just felt stiff and cold. That is not to say that I don't appreciate thin healthy women. Just that it isn't always good in that way.
strongnrelaxed Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 I don't know your exact situation or what you look like, but here's the honesty from a guy: 1) Too many FAT women will claim to be "curvy". I'm not calling you fat, but merely stating how often I see the debate on how men claim to like "curvy" but run for "thin" usually is spoken by a BBW who wants to deny her size. 2) Men like women who look like women. Again, I am not speaking of you because I don't know what you look like. However, I see women in great shape complain how men pass them up, and too often I want to tell them the truth. They chopped their hair into a pixie cut, dress too "tomboy", and/or often have a bad attitude when it comes to men. Men do not want to date a b***h. Boys will only tolerate the b***h if she's a hot girl that's a guaranteed good lay. What is your age? How approachable do you make yourself? Do you look nice when you go out to the mall? Tell us more and perhaps we can find solutions. Damn. I didn't read your post. Looks like you beat me to the punch!
bdash Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 agree with the others, curvy usually is a euphemism for "I'm fat and want to feel confident about my body", although I am not saying this is you. Personally although many guys don't talk about it I think abs and back are the most important part of a girl. If a guy can see a significant drop from the chest to the stomach, and a flat stomach most guys will find that girl attractive (I know I do, and these are the girls that most of my friends stare at). These aren't necessarily the "thin" girls, although that can look good too, but usually the well toned ones. So if you consider fit thin then yeah, thin is in and this is what will turn heads. Also remember that a nice backside won't turn many heads you can see because people have to be behind you to notice it
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