Jackson3491 Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 (edited) Here is my dilemma. I had a secretary that worked for me for over a year. We got very close and even had an affair once but that was a one time thing. She would always tell me it was because we worked together that she didn’t want to take it further. Although she would tell me she loved me. So I went out a got a girlfriend and it didn’t seem like it bothered her in the least. I had my girlfriend for about three months before I got dumped. We were never single at the same time again that she worked here My secretary moved out of town to live with a guy she met through OLD and when that didn’t work out she came back and moved in with me. We had sex the first and second night then it stopped for a few days and started back up for a few more days and was great. She has lived with me for 3 weeks now and we still have sex but it seems like it is on her terms when we have it. She has been talking to a man that she met before the man she had moved in with. She has went out of town a few times to see him and take him to the doctor because he got his toe cut off. She always comes home at night and sleeps in bed with me and had sex with me after the second time she went to see him. She talks fondley of him and keeps a text on her phone from him breaking up with her. She doesn’t speak of him constantly and most days she won’t mention him at all. While sitting outside yesterday she was telling me that she thought I was falling madly in love with her and that she could wrap me around her little finger if she wanted to. I told her that I didn’t want to turn this who could wrap who around each others finger into a power struggle and she just nodded her head in agreement and smiled. We were laying in bed yesterday and I said. You know about you saying that you thought I was falling madly in love with you? Well that happened a long time ago. Just always know that. She then started touching me a little more and showing small signs of affection. But no sex last night. She said her tummy ached. I can’t help but wonder if she is just using me for a place to live and is in love with the guy she took to the doctor or if she isn’t sure of her feelings for me and is wanting to take more time. I drop little hints to start a conversation about it but the conversation gets sidetracked and I won’t pressure her into that conversation because pressure of any kind wont work out well. I have been having small anxiety attacks because I do love her but just don’t know what to do about it. Edited August 20, 2012 by Jackson3491 puntuation
WhatYouWantToHear Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Now, don't take this just the wrong way. I mean it condescendingly, but I also mean it as a factual statement: You get the relationship you deserve.
Author Jackson3491 Posted August 20, 2012 Author Posted August 20, 2012 I guess I don't understand what you are saying? I am sorry.
kaylan Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 Any gal who outright tells you she thinks she has you wrapped around her finger doesnt respect you. And a gal who doesnt respect you is a gal you shouldnt be dating.
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