irc333 Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I have talked to women lately, and while some are all for dating people they meet in their social circle, be it through FB or meeting at pool parties and BBQ's....or even some of their activity groups. Some simply refuse to date someone that they know they'll see on a routine basis. I know of a woman who is an avid athlete, and is a member of many jogging/walking/mud obstacle course groups. Or even biking. She said she's never dated ANYONE from those groups, and refuses to do so. And I asked her, "Um, so how are you meeting men?" and she said she does it chance meetings at the grocery store or bookstore. Just plain out in public. I asked her if she did online dating, and she gave me a resounding "No way!" lol But, talk about limiting your opportunities. ANd she agreed, but she said, in case thing don't work out....you don't want to have to it get awkward the next time you go out biking or jogging with these people again. So what's a single person suppose to do meet people, if they're not willing to date in their circle of friends?
joystickd Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I prefer to date that way too. Everyone on here talks about social circle but in reality most don't anyway.
Emilia Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 She said she's never dated ANYONE from those groups, and refuses to do so. I'm sort of like this unless the person is really special. I have loose circles of acquaintances though where this doesn't matter, I don't see them frequently.
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I would only do it if I had strong feelings for them. NO way I would casually date them. 1
stillafool Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I always dated that way OP. Your friend is right it's too awkward when you decide to move on. No one wants to constantly see their Ex. Or at least I didn't.
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 My ex is peripherally connected to my social circle. It caused huge disruption to my social life post break up. I pretty much had to get a new set of friends.
MrCastle Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 I prefer to date that way too. Everyone on here talks about social circle but in reality most don't anyway. Uh the reality is most do.
grkBoy Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 So what's a single person suppose to do meet people, if they're not willing to date in their circle of friends? Don't make friends with these women. Forget that "friends first" BS some women push. Outsiders are easier to dump and cut off.
fishtaco Posted August 20, 2012 Posted August 20, 2012 My preference is not to date within my social circle. But it happens sometimes. During my single days, I'd hit on strangers as the logical preferential method (but it practice, doesn't always pan out that way). Cold approaches or even semi cold approaches are daunting and doesn't have very high success percentage. It's something I was working on, being so comfortable with cold approaches that I'd just throw it out there. Next step is acquaintances. With acquaintances the ice is usually already broken, there is a bit of familiarity so women's guard walls are usually lower, and there is repeated opportunity of running into each other, so you can take your time and observe and get a better feel of the situation. Ideally I should play in the stranger zone only, but because I don't have my game down 100% with cold approaches, I often found myself going after acquaintances as well. Then you have friends. I try not to date friends. But sometimes it just happens. Anyway, not dating in their own social circle is also a common "no thanks, I don't want to date you" response.
Author irc333 Posted August 21, 2012 Author Posted August 21, 2012 Anyway, not dating in their own social circle is also a common "no thanks, I don't want to date you" response. Yeah, when someone says this, it's usually an excuse. It's something I don't generally buy into. Because most women/men in my own social circle have now started dating exclusively. Some even coupled up as boyfriend/girlfriend. Some couples, I didn't even expect to get together. It happens, and probably because you've simply gotten comfortable being around them.
Author irc333 Posted August 21, 2012 Author Posted August 21, 2012 Don't make friends with these women. Forget that "friends first" BS some women push. Outsiders are easier to dump and cut off. Yeah that's why it's better to get together with the +1's, lol. You know, the friend that your friend brings to a gathering? LOL 1
Better_Days Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 I have talked to women lately, and while some are all for dating people they meet in their social circle, be it through FB or meeting at pool parties and BBQ's....or even some of their activity groups. Some simply refuse to date someone that they know they'll see on a routine basis. I know of a woman who is an avid athlete, and is a member of many jogging/walking/mud obstacle course groups. Or even biking. She said she's never dated ANYONE from those groups, and refuses to do so. And I asked her, "Um, so how are you meeting men?" and she said she does it chance meetings at the grocery store or bookstore. Just plain out in public. I asked her if she did online dating, and she gave me a resounding "No way!" lol But, talk about limiting your opportunities. ANd she agreed, but she said, in case thing don't work out....you don't want to have to it get awkward the next time you go out biking or jogging with these people again. So what's a single person suppose to do meet people, if they're not willing to date in their circle of friends? Well, you could just quit that social club/get-together/gatherings and start dating while that person is still in that club. I met this girl from work and asked her out and she said one of us needs to quit work (pretty much me) if we start dating. Reason being, she met her ex from work and when they broke up, it was awkward for both of them and had to deal with friends/co-workers constantly asking what happened. It's also a way for a girl to test how much a guy willing to sacrifice in order to get her. So if you like this woman, you could just part from that social circle and just date her if she is that much worth it.
RedRobin Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 If people have serious intentions and don't act like jerks during the relationship or breakup, I really don't understand why dating within one's social circle should be an issue. I prefer it.... dating within my social circle, that is.
threebyfate Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 Not every woman is obsessed about dating as some on LS. If she's happy, good for her. If she's not, then she'll have to open up her option door.
Pompom Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 I once explicitely told someone I would find it awkward to date him as I see him everyday. I was used to one night stands with complete strangers whose opinion of me didn't matter as I'd never see them again and the thought of that changing, scared me. I did want him, but I knew it would be weird to walk past him into the shop every day after that, so he told me "Find another branch and get your ass here" and well, I did the latter and refused to do the previous - having memorized his adorable sleeping face, his simpleton grin was my daily joy Other than that, yeah, I do refuse, simply because they are all my brother's friends and a bunch of, as he proudly calls them "f*cked by life", and while they are good people they are also the kind who agree with the self-immolators that the government is eeeeeeevil and to blame for someone's personal failure. Good, nice people but resigned to complaining about the injustice of life, while not trying to improve their situation. I want a man who cares about his life beyond getting through the day, he doesn't have to be rich or ambitious, but he needs to have an obvious desire to live the best life he can, FIGHT, not sit around with beer in hand, saying "Screw it". I'm not going down with people who chose to remain in a position of failure. I will not be the widow of some crybaby who set himself on fire Also, I can't stand noise and all they ever do, is listen to or play heavy metal. I am very wary of people who choose to keep their mood bad and edgy with angry, aggressive music all the time, the angrier the better. I enjoy me some Hollywood Undead but beyond that, I have no need for negativity to drag me down with it and I don't understand why others would want to reinforce their anger, which is what these guys love doing, including my brother himself. Leather, beer and noise - not my favorite entourage. The most attractive and pleasant guy in that bunch, sadly is not Jewish and I need a Jew to father my children and be my legal spouse. I'm not religious, but I'm a nationalist and in this country, you only find nationalists among fellow Jews; plus, while I'll happily socialize with every religion, ethnicity and party, I wish to breed only within my own kind, and that would be secular Middle Eastern Jews. I'm no racist, but I am a purist in that matter and luckily this is a free country where I get to be. You have to embrace life, and you have to represent the point of this nation, always capitalizing the Z in Zion-. And my "friends", well, don't do either. Also, most are far from attractive.
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