He says he hates me and has a new girl, but keeps stalking, calling and texting me sa

[Caropuff]

I am pregnant with my x's baby right now ( super situation) yesterday he called me to inform me that someday he would like to see the baby ( just "one time", as he said) I said I wanted to think about it ( he has been very abusive to me, beaten me up many times and so on) and he got very angry. For the last couple of days he has been calling me eight or nine times a day and posting stuff about him "hating me" on my Tumblr blog, which I have to delete every day almost. So yesterday he gets really mad when I say "I'll have to think about it", that he responds " well I just wanted to ask you, because my new girlfriend and my therapist asked me to do it, I've told him everything about you, and he says you sound bipolar and you have a lot of problems. That's the reason I go there, cause you gave me such low confidence...". I was all in chock, not only does he suddenly have a new girlfriend ( or so he says) he is also going to counselling? ( I'm not sure if any of this is true, but I highly doubt that an educated counselor would tell him that about me, based on his "stories" ). Anyway, later that night he calls me and says " I love you, I still do" and hangs up. I don't call him back of course, because I don't want to ride on that emotional roller coaster anymore, but he keeps calling, saying " I love you" and hanging up. I put my phone on vibrate and this morning there were 6 unanswered calls. He texted me " I know you were unfaithful to me you whore" and " I only got a new girlfriend because you were so mean to me, it's nice to have somebody to tell me I am nice". I guess he thought I was "mean" because I felt so bad about the abuse ( he even got me so beaten up, I landed in hospital) that I had become emotionally withdrawn and didn't give him that much attention anymore. I don't know whether I should believe about the new "girlfriend" ( how much girlfriend can you be in 4 weeks... ) or any of the other things, but even IF he does have a new girlfriend and "hates me", then why the hell does he keep contacting me, stalking me and my blog, calling, sending messages over Skype and so on? I don't get it. Please help me out, what is going on with him?

[Greznog]

What IS it with young girls getting pregnant by guys that freakin' beat them up, desert them, lie to them and cheat on them. Who does this??

 

Then instead of learning from it, a lot of them end up pregnant again by yet another piece of crap loser a year or two later.

 

Jesus.

 

The two of you sound like you're in junior high and you're bringing a kid into this. Lovely.

 

Who CARES why this stupid little loser is doing what he's doing. Spend more of your time getting an eduction and learning about contraception and less time wondering about why this jerkoff is a human trainwreck.

 

Aim HIGHER next time for the love of God.

 

Because these are the men that turn them on.

[Caropuff]

first of all, I did use contraceptive, I guess it didn't work for me.

Second, we're not in junior high. I go to university, studying Latin and archaeology.

 

Yes i was attracted to him, and i didn't realize who he really was until it was too late. Stop judging. I have an apartment, a job and soon an education, so i do have a lot to give to a child.

[Caropuff]

I thought this was a place for help. I didn't post this just to get negative comments on how stupid i've been. To be clear, he wasn't like this when i met him at all. He was sweet, kind and sensitive. Then he became very jealous ( and no, of course i haven't cheated on him) and possessive. I was out of the blue. I did report the abuse to the police, and there has been written a report on it. I'm not sure where all this "anger" comes from. Maybe from the fact that he has been smoking a lot of weed and doing other drugs? ( which I didn't find out he was doing until long after we started dating).

 

Any comments that will help me perhaps? Instead of judging, be kind to me. I'm going through a hard time here.

[Caropuff]

Well abuse is not cool, and especially when there is going to be a baby coming soon. Do you have restraining orders in your country?

 

 

Yes we do, all I have to do is prove that he is dangerous, and I can, since I have a report from the hospital ( broken ribs, caused by him) and a report at the police..He has been knocking on my door when he's in town ( he's moved away) and will stay outside my door for 4 hours or more before he leaves. Of course I don't open, I'm scared of him. He has done this two times now. He will call on and off, of course I don't pick up, but he's trying to provoke me into picking up or texting him, by saying " i've got a new gf, much nicer than you" and " It's amazing how many lies i've told you, without you even noticing, hahaha" and the best one " I still love you, you're the one for me, forgive me".... W...T...F

[Caropuff]

Alex, indeed he isn't!!! Many times during this pregnancy ( i'm 7 months now) he's said " please, let me be a dad" and I've given him the chance to prove that he could. He kept breaking promises, hitting, verbally abusing and threatening me via facebook, skype and what else he could find.. So I called it quits. No more problems with him, I hope. Well... except he comes knocking on my door. And calling me. Etc. But I hope the police can help me figure out what to do in a situation like this. I'm sure it's familiar to them.

[Caropuff]

Yes it works in the same way basically, except it can be quite hard to press charges... but I do have evidence. Emails, reports, skype messages and so on...

 

Thank you for the answer, I am really stressed out :s