irc333 Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I was wondering, I notice that some people, depending on the city in which they live.....won't even drive to parts of the same city to meet someone for dating purposes. There'st his one woman I've been talking to, I'm going to be in town for the day (Sunday), and she apparently lives on the FAR south side of the city. My location is going to be only a half hour drive for her, and she considers even THAT too far. BUt you know of anyone that won't date people even in the same city, because they live WAY on the other side of town? There was this one girl, I knew, lived in the northern suburbs/outskirts of the city, but the nightclub she went to with friends was on the south west side.....and she was talking to a guy, said the city in which she lived, and he said, "Oh...you're G.U.!" (Geographically UNdesirable) lol
eleanorhurting Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I would drive half an hour... or more. For someone I was attracted to.
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I would go to the ends of Earth. For someone I am truly into. 2
Radu Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I was wondering, I notice that some people, depending on the city in which they live.....won't even drive to parts of the same city to meet someone for dating purposes. There'st his one woman I've been talking to, I'm going to be in town for the day (Sunday), and she apparently lives on the FAR south side of the city. My location is going to be only a half hour drive for her, and she considers even THAT too far. BUt you know of anyone that won't date people even in the same city, because they live WAY on the other side of town? There was this one girl, I knew, lived in the northern suburbs/outskirts of the city, but the nightclub she went to with friends was on the south west side.....and she was talking to a guy, said the city in which she lived, and he said, "Oh...you're G.U.!" (Geographically UNdesirable) lol She's a S.B. ! PS: Spoiled B*tch.
iris219 Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I hate driving. I once went on few dates with a guy who ended up buying a house across town and I knew it was over. Clearly, I wasn’t that into him. My ex travels for job and I used to drive HOURS to see him. I never considered it inconvenient. I used to look forward to it and I’d think about how much closer I was to him as I drove. 2
Eclypse Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I'm kind of like that. Same city but almost 60 miles apart. Means we can only see each other twice a week. I don't mind the driving, but I wouldn't do it again if I had to find someone new.
Author irc333 Posted August 18, 2012 Author Posted August 18, 2012 I hate driving. I once went on few dates with a guy who ended up buying a house across town and I knew it was over. Clearly, I wasn’t that into him. My ex travels for job and I used to drive HOURS to see him. I never considered it inconvenient. I used to look forward to it and I’d think about how much closer I was to him as I drove. Wow, guy just on the other side of town...too far for you, ex boyfriend, you'll travel 100's of miles. LOL
iris219 Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Wow, guy just on the other side of town...too far for you, ex boyfriend, you'll travel 100's of miles. LOL When you care about someone and want to be with them, you find yourself doing things you'd never thought you'd do. You find you don't mind doing these things; they don't even feel like sacrifices.
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I have just rejected a nice guy picking me up, driving me to an expensive place for dinner and a cool bar afterwards. Why? Because I couldn't be bothered washing my hair. That's how hard everything is when you are not into someone 2
Author irc333 Posted August 18, 2012 Author Posted August 18, 2012 I have just rejected a nice guy picking me up, driving me to an expensive place for dinner and a cool bar afterwards. Why? Because I couldn't be bothered washing my hair. That's how hard everything is when you are not into someone Well, at least you stopped it there. I knew of a woman that went out with a guy, and ordered HIGH Dollar items on the menu, I think she ordered Lobster, and she loaded up on booze..while he only had a beer. HER bill came out to twice the amount of his.
iris219 Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Well, at least you stopped it there. I knew of a woman that went out with a guy, and ordered HIGH Dollar items on the menu, I think she ordered Lobster, and she loaded up on booze..while he only had a beer. HER bill came out to twice the amount of his. IME, this is rare. What ES says is so true. I'd rather stay home and eat cereal by myself than go out somewhere nice with a guy I'm not feeling it for. 2
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Well, at least you stopped it there. I knew of a woman that went out with a guy, and ordered HIGH Dollar items on the menu, I think she ordered Lobster, and she loaded up on booze..while he only had a beer. HER bill came out to twice the amount of his. This guy is very rich so he can afford it too. But I am completely non-materialistic and even rich guys have feelings IME, this is rare. What ES says is so true. I'd rather stay home and eat cereal by myself than go out somewhere nice with a guy I'm not feeling it for. I made some scrambled eggs 1
grkBoy Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I live in Chicago, a city big enough that just being located outside of the central areas around downtown will be a turnoff for men and women. Seen both men and women who live near downtown, and ended up rejecting potential mates because they lived farther north or south. I can't blame them. I won't drive more than 45 min to see someone. If dating someone far away becomes a hassle to set up times and you can't spontaneously get together on a whim, the RL becomes "work" and thus people choose "staying single" over doing the work.
FitChick Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I have traveled thousands of miles to be with a man and men have traveled thousands of miles just to meet me. If you have a connection, distance doesn't matter.
AlexCross Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 SBES is what she suffers from - Selfish B*tch Entitlement Syndrome. A half an hour is not that long at all.
carhill Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 My definition of a LDR is anything where I can't visit the person and return home in the same day. Of my 3 LTR's and one M, two were LDR's, one of about 300 miles by road and another about 6000 miles by aircraft. My exW lived about 60 miles away while dating and we never considered it to be 'long distance'. No, I don't know of anyone who won't date someone in the same city due to distance, and some cities in Cali are horrifically spread out. IMO, if the lady in question balks at the distance after meeting you, move on. She's not sufficiently interested. Good luck.
eleanorhurting Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 thats funny some of the men are calling her a self entitled bitch yet all the women have answered the same thing: " if she wont drive 45 minutes for you then shes just not that into you!" edit: i just saw carhills post and he could not have said it best. move on!
Imajerk17 Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I used to do OLD on a niche site, where there are few people on the site who live in one area. If I got a nice email from someone who didn't excite me and who lived more than 50 miles away, I used to write back and say that they were further away than I was hoping for. Meanwhile I HAVE driven over 400 miles to meet up with someone. See where I'm going with this chief? 1
Imajerk17 Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I was wondering, I notice that some people, depending on the city in which they live.....won't even drive to parts of the same city to meet someone for dating purposes. There'st his one woman I've been talking to, I'm going to be in town for the day (Sunday), and she apparently lives on the FAR south side of the city. My location is going to be only a half hour drive for her, and she considers even THAT too far. BUt you know of anyone that won't date people even in the same city, because they live WAY on the other side of town? There was this one girl, I knew, lived in the northern suburbs/outskirts of the city, but the nightclub she went to with friends was on the south west side.....and she was talking to a guy, said the city in which she lived, and he said, "Oh...you're G.U.!" (Geographically UNdesirable) lol She's not into you bro. If she were she'd find a way to meet up. You could tell her that you were going to be next door from her and she'd still find an excuse as to why she couldn't see you. Instead of posting all these crazy excuses you're getting as a sign that women are nuts, I think you'd be better off working on making a stronger impression. 2
Radu Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 thats funny some of the men are calling her a self entitled bitch yet all the women have answered the same thing: " if she wont drive 45 minutes for you then shes just not that into you!" edit: i just saw carhills post and he could not have said it best. move on! *Radu waves hand in eleanor's face ... This is not the gender bias you are looking for !
Author irc333 Posted August 18, 2012 Author Posted August 18, 2012 She's not into you bro. If she were she'd find a way to meet up. You could tell her that you were going to be next door from her and she'd still find an excuse as to why she couldn't see you. Instead of posting all these crazy excuses you're getting as a sign that women are nuts, I think you'd be better off working on making a stronger impression. Actually, I told her that the half hour wasn't long, and she responded by just rescheduling for next week, which would be better for her, because she and her daughter were needing to get ready for the first day of school early Monday. She's a school teacher getting ready for the new year. So, we'll be scheduling for next week I suppose 1
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