whatdoesntkillyou Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 (edited) Hey guys My bf of 4 months and I broke up 5 weeks ago and went to LC for 4 weeks. Over the past week we had progressive contact, and he even invited me to meet him and his mate for a quick hi in a night club. You may have read about some of the promising signs in this thread. Anyway, long story short, the moral of the story is: talk is cheap, and don't get your hopes up for a second chance until ACTION takes place or you're in for disappointment! Also, first meeting should probably not take place in a night club. Basically, I dropped by the night club after another social gathering for the 'quick hi'. When I arrived we exchanged a few pleasantries and he was quite cold and absent, although polite. I was then introduced to his friend. We three danced for a bit - the whole time my Ex was looking around the room as he danced by himself, sometimes dancing and talking with randoms next to him. He moved around the dance floor a lot and danced with strangers a lot, barely making eye contact with me and barely danced with me. I should stress that HE invited me to meet him. After about 30 minutes of this rude bulls**t, got a friend to meet up with me and left with the remainder of my dignity. About an hour later I got a text from him saying something quite trivial, which I ignored. The next morning, I received a message asking how my night was, and that he had fun. What. The. Heck! It seems as though despite all the promising signs in text messages my Ex seemed to only want to string me along and kick me to the curb again, for some sick satisfaction. So take heed, my dear LS friends! Comments/support/lectures/Admonishments/Chastising welcome and appreciated!! Edited August 18, 2012 by whatdoesntkillyou
Regrets58 Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Think you have reached your own conclusion here! My ex wanted to stay friends.Lots of meetings,nights out. Visiting her house for meals,even a w/e away. Was all very nice and we had a lot of fun. However it is all breadcrumbs,as I have learnt on here! If you want them back the only contact you need from them is :- "I have made a huge mistake,can we please talk and let's try to put this right". Not saying friends is impossible,however only when all feelings of romantic love have died. 3
Brightmoon Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 Whatdoesnotkillyou, you seem to have handled this really well. It could have been very hurtful had you mot had your wits about you and acted as you did.
Author whatdoesntkillyou Posted August 18, 2012 Author Posted August 18, 2012 Thanks Brightmoon. I had a loyal group of friends who could provide candid and objective view of the situation, and the experience people on this forum helped! I walked in with little expectations and somewhat mentally prepared I guess. Doesn't mean it didn't hurt though.
Hornachero Posted August 23, 2012 Posted August 23, 2012 Same situation here. After 2 weeks of mostly NC (meaning me briefly replying to her texts only), ex invites for me for lunch. It took me a lot of energy to call her back and decline the invitation.I said that I didn't see the purpose of a meeting and would rather not be friends. As someone said above, the only contact that could actually lead to something positive is "I am sorry! Let's talk about what happened". All the rest is bad news. I know I have saved myself tons of pain by declining the invite, but the whole situation still sucks. I miss the girl and I really wish things were different. Oh well.
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