1st Love Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 Hey guys I'm new to the forums and I just want to hear some opinions... Well my first girlfriend broke up with me a month ago (I'm 18 and she's 19). I would say she was my first love, but I don't think she feels the same way about me. We went out for 10 weeks, but flirted with each other for like a month before that. We live in the same residential college and hang around the same group of friends, which makes the break up a whole lot harder. She said she wasn't happy being in a relationship with me and that I was too controlling and so she broke up with me. When she did, I begged for her to give me one more chance, but she said no. 3 days later, we talked and she said she missed me and we hugged and kissed. I thought we'd be getting back together. 4 days after that, we talked and she said it was over. She saw that day as closure and said she was completely over me. Then she started ignoring me for no good reason at all. 3 days after that I constantly went into her room asking why she was ignoring me. She would not give me a straight answer, she just said "Because I can". She was also really harsh on me, saying she shut off all feelings for me and she didn't care about me. (Ok, this is me getting desperate for her to take me back) This was when I pissed her off, by constantly going into her room. She said she needed space. She completely ignored me after that - when we walked past each other and I said hi she said nothing. She had an angry face on and stayed quiet whenever I was around the group. 11 days later (when she wasn't so angry at me) we talked and said she'll stop ignoring me and act normal when I'm around. She still didn't know if we could be friends. She didn't seem like she wanted me back or had any interest in me what so ever. It was a good talk though, she kept her word and we acted normally and stuff around each other, like acquaintances. 6 days later, I told her I missed her and I still had feelings for her. She told me I had to stop thinking like that, that she was over me and she said she never ever wanted to be in a relationship with me again. She said she's moved on. Well, I've see her with another guy a lot the past few weeks. Everyone says there's nothing going on between them, they're just friends, but I suspect there is something more. She is now really angry at me again, because I got angry at her for being so harsh to me when I said I missed her. Do you think I was being too desperate? Too clingy, and not giving her enough space? What will become of us now? Will I ever have another chance with her, or is that it?
Dimartinez Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 Ok man, you need to get the hell outta that situation. I dont care how much you love her or how long you were dating. She's controlling you because she knows you'll come back in the blink of an eye. You don't deserve to be toyed around like that, you're being an honest sincere person to her and she ignores you "because she can"? I'm not saying you should flip out or be sour against her, but from how it looks, she can't make up her mind. You have made up your mind, you like her. Don't wait around for her to decide. Be confident, if you see her in the hall or with your friends, a simple nod will suffice. If she sees this confidence, she may want you back. Who knows. But for Pete's sake, don't let her throw your feelings around like a rag doll.
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