henderson14 Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 I went out with a girl on Wednesday and it went well and we already agreed on plans and a date on Sunday, no time yet, during our goodbye. When should I confirm and can it be by phone or text? Do I wait until Sunday? I ask because I've never had a circumstance where we already planned a date before the first one ended and am not sure about the proper etiquette. Its not like I have to ask her out because I already did.
eMGunslinger Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 Call her Saturday at a time when she is free. Texting is cheap when starting seeing someone, phone calls reinforce the person you are because of your voice! Keep it short and sweet sound confident and up beat. Then after your established and this is a personal touch of mine, text sunday just as a follow up with a flirty joke before the date. Just to make her laugh and play into what she might be wearing. 9/10 they eat it up and its relaxing.
FitChick Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 I'd call no later than after lunch Saturday and confirm a time and place on Sunday. What if she needs to buy special clothes for the date or get a pedicure? She'll still have time to do it. I personally hate last minute invitations because they feel like an afterthought.
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 It depends on the connection you have with the girl. If you have to ponder these kinds of questions, you need to go with your gut instinct but also not be afraid to make a move. If you like the girl and had a strong connection then I'd contact her any time I felt like it. I wouldn't be worried about how she felt or what she would think, I would just be confident about it...If she doesn't like it then oh well, she doesn't like or is not that into me If that were the case. Otherwise If it was just a casual vibe meeting then go with the typical two to three day rule, especially If you are both busy and awaiting Sunday but even that's a risky move imo If you really like a girl. You have to use your aggressive instinct...does a lion ask a gazelle when it should chase? no, it comes out the brush like a bat out of hell and just goes for it...you have to have that go after what you want mentality at some point, i think too many men pussyfoot around and wait for all the stars to align and meet and return interest to make a move (I've been playing/evaluating the passive role for some time after being assertive in romance and I can tell you being passive sucks balls, I see few advantages other than maybe getting to know person better instead of just romancing them). So unless you feel like this is a person who would play games why are you going to? Most women are pretty direct and open, especially to a man who has the confidence and knows what he wants...and that's you should aspire to be...if you strike out then learn from your mistakes and try again...there's a billion more women in the world, you have no shortage.
sydneysider1978 Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 Call her. On Saturday or before. Have a plan in mind before you call her, movies or bowling would be fun for a Sunday date. Don't leave it until Sunday, she may make other plans if you don't lock it in. It sounds promising! Good luck
sweetheart5381 Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 Well since she is obviously into you, then call/text her casually, preferably by/on Friday. Don't leave her waiting too long. Confirm your intentions to get together, women are just as scared as men of rejection/being blown off. Keep it simple, nice and short... nothing too flirty. Whatever you do, keep your word and do what you say you will do. Good luck and have fun
Author henderson14 Posted August 17, 2012 Author Posted August 17, 2012 Well our date activity was even planned. Thats why I said, "we agreed on plans." We agreed to go to the driving range already, and I texted her the next day. No call needed this time.
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