confused836 Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 There's this girl who is the year below me and they just started class about a month ago. I've talked to her a few times at parties but haven't gotten her number yet. I also see her on campus every once in a while and she'll smile and wave but I don't really see her otherwise. What's my best approach here? I want to get to know her first before asking her out since I don't want to be seen as a creepy upperclassman hitting on a first-year student. Plus we're the same race too so she probably knows what my intentions are…Any thoughts?
KathyM Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 Approach her when you see her on campus, and after some small talk, ask her out for lunch or coffee or whatever. Take a chance. You don't have to get to know her first before asking her out. The whole point of asking her out on dates is to get to know her.
Author confused836 Posted August 22, 2012 Author Posted August 22, 2012 So I've seen her more the past week or so. Talked to her a few times and even got her number at a party last weekend. She seemed really flirtatious and we agreed after she gave my number that we would work out at some point this week and that she would text me. Yesterday I saw her again at a lunch on campus and I approached her after and I talked to her before class. We hung out a bit but my gut feeling was telling me she really didn't want to be there with me. She seemed pretty reserved and non-flirtatious yesterday. Also one of her friends asked me in front of her whether I was dating this other girl I'm always around but I told them that she's my really good friend but is actually engaged to someone else. When it was time to head to class my other friend waved at me and I went up to her and didn't really say bye to this girl or her friend. I left awkwardly and I'm mad at myself for that - I'm so NERVOUS around this girl and I feel like our conversations sound so forced and not natural. Plus the fact that I'm positive she knows I'm into her. Here's the problem: I feel that this girl isn't giving much in return. Except for the party in which I got her number she doesn't really flirt or anything. Maybe that's her personality. What should I do now? Wait for her to text me about working out? I don't think she will. Should I just text her and ask her to workout? Should I let it go completely? Please help.
Meg717 Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 Here's the problem: I feel that this girl isn't giving much in return. Except for the party in which I got her number she doesn't really flirt or anything. Maybe that's her personality. What should I do now? Wait for her to text me about working out? I don't think she will. Should I just text her and ask her to workout? Should I let it go completely? Please help. Maybe she's really shy and was able to open up/flirt at the party bc she had alcohol in her system. Text her, you have nothing to lose.
Author confused836 Posted August 22, 2012 Author Posted August 22, 2012 Should I text her even before giving her a chance to text me about working out? I feel like I'm doing all the initiating here - I always go up to her and whatnot but as the guy I guess I'm supposed to...?
Author confused836 Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 So I ended up texting her to build some rapport but I'm still confused - she will take hours to respond to my text but she does keep the conversation going. My last text she took a day to get back to me. Should I just write this one off?
the ill-made knight Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 So I ended up texting her to build some rapport but I'm still confused - she will take hours to respond to my text but she does keep the conversation going. My last text she took a day to get back to me. Should I just write this one off? No, not at all. If she responds after a day that means she's interested. No one responds after a day unless they really want to talk to you. Sounds like she might be preoccupied with other things though, I'd ask her to meet up in person aka on a date.
Author confused836 Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 Ugh I'm really not getting the sense at all that she's interested. It really does honestly feel like its all 1-sided and that every time we see each other I'm the one who goes up to talk to her. I don't want her to think of me as the guy who never leaves her alone. How do I even go about asking her out?
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