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He left me for another woman after 7 years,now he LIVES with her??? :(

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-I posted here 1 000 of times,I am devastating...

-I was with him since 19 till 26(I am now 26),he is 28,we needed one whole year to first kiss,we were getting known each other...

-He left me out of nowhere,by the phone,avoiding every contact with me,lied to me and blamed me for idiotic reasons...

-And then 2,5months since he left me,friend told me that he has new girlfriend...

-Yesterday I heard,that he already lives with her and with her child in her flat...

Is he CRAZY???WTF???

5 months has passed since he left me,and he is already LIVING with someone new???

WHAT STATE OF MIND IS THAT???

GRASS IS GREENER???

How selfish is that he ruined everything we had,just for his own happiness!!!He treated me like dirt,like I am annoying him(when I tried to reach him)...

What the hell???HOW THAT SOON???

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while you will probably struggle to see this - you're actually in luck. he's given you your life back so that you can find something better. what he does shouldn't matter at all to you. did you really want to be seeing/dating/living/marrying a guy like this? really?? you need to detach from all-things-him and get on with your life. you're 26, you have a lifetime in front of you. figure out what you can/could/will do better next time, and take care of you. stop relying on other people for your happiness, what he does or doesn't do is out of your need to know and care.

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Amen Mike! You said that! It happens to the best of us. smh Don't worry about it. I know it hurts but you know what he'll get it back. I've seen it happen to plenty of my exes. They move on and move in with another woman and then she ends up treating him like sh** and they break up. You know what I've been doing lately? Switching up my thoughts. It hurts like heck but...

 

Think of it like this... either she will do it to him OR what he did to you after 7 years he'll eventually do the same to her. Just be thankful that you hadn't married him or had kids by him. Sometimes these heartbreaks with people we love can be blessings in disguise. In months or years from now you may see or hear something about him that will make you even more thankful that he broke up with you. Trust me! I know that I have. Hang in there my friend.

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But I can't be indifferent!!!He lied to me,blamed me,I was blaming myself and destroying myself,didn't know what the hell is happening!!!He never confessed me about real truth!!!

I don't want man like that in my life ever,even if he is the last man in the world!!!Not even as a friend.Understand me,he was my first everything :( I can't believe in what person he turned,is it the same person with who I was growing up since my teenage years till March this year???

5 months since BU,and he already LIVES with her,and we needed 1 whole year just to kiss each other...

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Amen Mike! You said that! It happens to the best of us. smh Don't worry about it. I know it hurts but you know what he'll get it back. I've seen it happen to plenty of my exes. They move on and move in with another woman and then she ends up treating him like sh** and they break up. You know what I've been doing lately? Switching up my thoughts. It hurts like heck but...

 

Think of it like this... either she will do it to him OR what he did to you after 7 years he'll eventually do the same to her. Just be thankful that you hadn't married him or had kids by him. Sometimes these heartbreaks with people we love can be blessings in disguise. In months or years from now you may see or hear something about him that will make you even more thankful that he broke up with you. Trust me! I know that I have. Hang in there my friend.

 

I pray for that to happen,to hear something like this happening to him!This is SIN shutting down someone who loves you,we slept together 2 days before he dumped me!

I am looking at it like blessing,but it just shocked me once again,to hear that he already has moved in with her,I can't figure out how he was able for all this,that's all.You can't get our of a serious relationship for that length of time and jump straight into another one.

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But I can't be indifferent!!!He lied to me,blamed me,I was blaming myself and destroying myself,didn't know what the hell is happening!!!He never confessed me about real truth!!!

I don't want man like that in my life ever,even if he is the last man in the world!!!Not even as a friend.Understand me,he was my first everything :( I can't believe in what person he turned,is it the same person with who I was growing up since my teenage years till March this year???

5 months since BU,and he already LIVES with her,and we needed 1 whole year just to kiss each other...

 

why do you care what other people think? why do you care what he is doing? who cares if he lied or not?

 

in a healthy place you wouldn't. so get to your healthy place.

 

MOVE ON. THE GUY LIVES WITH ANOTHER WOMAN. HE IS A LIAR. HE IS NOT COMING BACK. HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU. seriously, get on with your life. It hurts, I get it. but you are not going to be able to move forward until you let all this sh*t that doesn't matter go. you cannot think your way out of this, and the dots are not going to line up, trying to make sense of the illogical won't happen. move on

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I care because I loved him,and I BELIEVED him!I was hanging in the air 2,5months,waiting to hear from him what is going on,my parents took him as a member of family,everybody was asking me about him,what is going on,and I had no explanation,then I had to hear from other people what he is up to.

I know that you are right but,my problem is:

1.First bf in every way

2.I had no experiences in breaking up

3.I haven't seen it coming

4.He just disappeared from my life without explination

5.In the end I realized that I was left for someone else

All that at once!

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why do you care what other people think? why do you care what he is doing? who cares if he lied or not?

 

in a healthy place you wouldn't. so get to your healthy place.

 

MOVE ON. THE GUY LIVES WITH ANOTHER WOMAN. HE IS A LIAR. HE IS NOT COMING BACK. HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU. seriously, get on with your life. It hurts, I get it. but you are not going to be able to move forward until you let all this sh*t that doesn't matter go. you cannot think your way out of this, and the dots are not going to line up, trying to make sense of the illogical won't happen. move on

 

Why don't you tell her to piss on his retarded brother and make a grocery list? I'm sure he has friends that she could f^ck alphabetically as well.

 

Your response comes across as mature and kind, unlike someone else. And I'm by no means a prissy who can't handle the truth, others on the other hand need a kinder approach. Your response was kind and truthful.

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:D It's ok,I get that he left me,doesn't love me anymore,moved in with another woman,but I just can't figure out how that soon,that hurts...
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-I posted here 1 000 of times,I am devastating...

-I was with him since 19 till 26(I am now 26),he is 28,we needed one whole year to first kiss,we were getting known each other...

-He left me out of nowhere,by the phone,avoiding every contact with me,lied to me and blamed me for idiotic reasons...

-And then 2,5months since he left me,friend told me that he has new girlfriend...

-Yesterday I heard,that he already lives with her and with her child in her flat...

Is he CRAZY???WTF???

5 months has passed since he left me,and he is already LIVING with someone new???

WHAT STATE OF MIND IS THAT???

GRASS IS GREENER???

How selfish is that he ruined everything we had,just for his own happiness!!!He treated me like dirt,like I am annoying him(when I tried to reach him)...

What the hell???HOW THAT SOON???

 

Don't worry. This is massive rebound. It might even last a little while but it will definitely fail. Guaranteed.

 

You don't need to worry about him. He will probably come crawling back when this fails. You need to make sure you are completely over it when he does.

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Don't worry. This is massive rebound. It might even last a little while but it will definitely fail. Guaranteed.

 

You don't need to worry about him. He will probably come crawling back when this fails. You need to make sure you are completely over it when he does.

 

From your mouth to God's ears,or please let it happen! :) I want him just to feel that low,how he treated me in the end!!!I want that revenge so bad!!!

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