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Hi, this is my first post. please help me out.

My girl friend does not want people to know that we are dating. And she gets mad if I tell anyone that we are dating. She flirts with guys all the time and will not stop talking to her ex boyfriend. If I get mad about it, she says I am insecure. Yet, she tells me she wants to marry me. What should I do??

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You should kick her to the curb.

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How long have you been dating her?

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I have the same problem too. We have been dating for 9 months now. But mine goes a little farther, she flirts alot, and when i ask her about it, she claims i have a trust issue. But she has "played" online with other men. What should i do??

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I suggest you GTFO of that relationship.

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I have the same problem too. We have been dating for 9 months now. But mine goes a little farther, she flirts alot, and when i ask her about it, she claims i have a trust issue. But she has "played" online with other men. What should i do??

 

IMO 9 months is a long time to not be allowed to say you're dating. I'd BU.

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You should have some self-respect and break up with her immediately.

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I've been with her for about a year. It is far more complicated though, and I have made mistakes as well.

 

I started out as roommates when I started graduate school, but she had a boyfriend then. She cheated on him, with me. But it turns out her bf was cheating also. After they broke up for good, I started dating her. But I found out she lies ALOT, and I decided to break up with her the first time.

 

I introduced her to my friend, and they were starting to date. BUT I still had feelings for her and I was still living there. So I tried to get her back and I did. But she is mad cuz she thinks I ruined her chances with my friend.

 

Ever since then, she would lie to me about talking/texting to my friend, flirt with him and his friends, and basically treat me like ****.

 

Yet, she says she wants to marry me because no other guy likes her..

I made my mistake of introducing her to my friend and created this mess, but the way she's been treating me has been pretty bad.

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she treats you like s.hit, won't tell people she is with you, has a proven RECENT history of cheating.

 

there is nothing worth saving.

 

I can't believe you put up with that for a year. that is so sad.

 

get out asap. she is trouble and she is TELLING YOU that the only reason she is with you is because she thinks she can't do better! omg! :sick:

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I try to look at it from her point of view also though..

She liked me, and then I introduced her to my friend, and now I want her back trying to salvage the relationship. (I have a hard time letting people go, this is my 2nd relationship).

 

I mean, I was very wrong to try to introduce her to my friend. I can't really know how it feels for a girl to have a guy introduce her to his friend.

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I also feel bad because she could have dated my friend, and I should have moved out. But I broke them up to get her back, and now I leave her.

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The only solution to this problem is a complete removal of yourself from this scenario entirely.

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I try to look at it from her point of view also though..

She liked me, and then I introduced her to my friend, and now I want her back trying to salvage the relationship. (I have a hard time letting people go, this is my 2nd relationship).

 

I mean, I was very wrong to try to introduce her to my friend. I can't really know how it feels for a girl to have a guy introduce her to his friend.

 

Did you introduce her to him knowing they were going to date or was it just that you thought theyd be good friends?

 

 

Either way you shouldn't feel bad that YOU ruined HER chances with your friend and if she makes you feel that way than she's a b*tch.

 

Stop feeling guilty and break up with her. NO ONE should make you feel bad about being in a relationship. You want to be with someone who wants to be with you!! Someone who can't wait to tell her friends and family about you, not hide you! Do it now before it's too late and you really regret it.

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This is a hard and fast rule that every human being should adhere to, male and female alike. Don't even think twice about it:

 

If a relationship has to be a secret, you probably shouldn't be in it.

 

Ever. Someone in the relationship has something to lose if other people know--aka most likely OTHER RELATIONSHIPS.

 

I guarantee you, GUARANTEE you, she's cheated on you. Get out NOW.

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It's time for her to accept the fact that you are with her and she is with you. You said so yourself, she is flirting with others and yet gets angry with you if you tell anyone she is your gf. Move on ASAP.

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I introduced her on accident. I did not have intention of doing so, i made plans to go out to eat with both of them at same time, TOTAL accident.

After she met him, she wouldnt stop talking about him. She kept telling me that hes too young and that she loves me. I went back to my hometown for a month, and they started dating. I told her 'oh u like him? then date him.' I was hoping she would say she wants to be with me. But she dated him

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she blames me that I am the one who told her to go out with him, and then I broke them apart.

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You will not find one poster on this board telling you you did anything wrong and to stay with this person.

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Main Entry: gaslight Part of Speech: v Definition: to manipulate someone into questioning their own sanity; to subtly drive someone crazy Etymology: 1956 Usage: slang; gaslighting, n

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We are roommates right now. And right when this was going on, she would not come home every other night. I kept asking her if she did anything (sex with another guy), but she always said no. But she lies ALOT.. She also has another guy that she talks to. She actually invited him over few times also. She always says she doesnt like him because he has no job and stuff. I donno, I cant even trust her cuz she lied to me so many times.

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This is not something normal people do. Normal, nice, WELL MEANING people do not LIE constantly or want to be in secret relationships. She wants to have her cake and eat it too. You're just on the backburner, my friend, while she goes out and parties and finds other guys. Don't be a patsy. Get out before she ruins your views on women forever.

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This is not something normal people do. Normal, nice, WELL MEANING people do not LIE constantly or want to be in secret relationships. She wants to have her cake and eat it too. You're just on the backburner, my friend, while she goes out and parties and finds other guys. Don't be a patsy. Get out before she ruins your views on women forever.

 

Yup. Leave now before you end up some bitter misogynist because that is what her type does to men.

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Thank you everyone for your comments.. I wanted to hear from a 3rd person's perspective because when I'm in love, I cannot tell what is really going on it blinds me. I kinda also want her to post her side of the story and see what people have to say.

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I really wish I could know if she had sex with other men ever since I got back from my hometown though.. cuz she was really nasty to me, blaming me for breaking them up and constantly went out and didnt come home

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lol the more you post "her side", the WORSE she sounds!

 

What a nutcase.

 

Please leave her.

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