BenBeach Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 So I had a meeting with a therapist today about the ending of a relationship with a woman with whom I was deeply in love. He shed some good light on thing I've going through, and I wanted to share it on here because it helped and I feel a bit better, I can take a breath again. Over the last month trying to get over her I've been just battling with my own mind, trying so hard to let her go, not think about her, etc... This therapist suggested that it would be helpful to stop battling with the same mind I'm trying to control... to realize that yes, there will be pain... but that's ok... learn to instead of trying to control your pain or your thoughts, just be there with it... know that yes, it will hurt, and over time that hurt will subside... if you take care of the minutes, the hours will take care of themselves, if you take care of the days the weeks will take care of themselves, etc... Don't try to control, instead accept. The hurt cannot harm you. I hope this helps some of you. Best. 2
youngnlove89 Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 So I had a meeting with a therapist today about the ending of a relationship with a woman with whom I was deeply in love. He shed some good light on thing I've going through, and I wanted to share it on here because it helped and I feel a bit better, I can take a breath again. Over the last month trying to get over her I've been just battling with my own mind, trying so hard to let her go, not think about her, etc... This therapist suggested that it would be helpful to stop battling with the same mind I'm trying to control... to realize that yes, there will be pain... but that's ok... learn to instead of trying to control your pain or your thoughts, just be there with it... know that yes, it will hurt, and over time that hurt will subside... if you take care of the minutes, the hours will take care of themselves, if you take care of the days the weeks will take care of themselves, etc... Don't try to control, instead accept. The hurt cannot harm you. I hope this helps some of you. Best. that did help, thank you!
birdyJ Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 I really liked that BenBeach - I always think like this when I'm hurting. And also that the pain only means it was real. It is a comfort to know that whilst we feel such great sadness sometimes we were able to open our hearts and love someone with every ounce of ourselves. And will again. Thanks for sharing.
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