KatZee Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 OK so quick background story... broke up with my ex of 2yrs9mos about 4 months ago. For the past couple of weeks I've been talking to this guy and we're planning on meeting up for drinks this Thursday. He's pretty cool and he's showing signs of being interested... I guess I'm just worried about him being a rebound. I obviously still think about the ex from time to time but I'm done with all the stages of grief, I don't have the anger or sadness, I'm totally cool with being single right now and have been having a lot of fun... How does one KNOW for sure that they are ready to date? I'm actually really excited/semi-nervous but I guess I just want to take it slow, and not just rush into anything super serious. I've actually never really dated casually before... I guess I'm kind of a serial dater, never really staying single for too long... but in this case I just want to get to know him, start off as friends, and not just jump into some physical thing. Is this something you tell the guy from the get go? Or do you just go with the flow?
AlexCross Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 Four months isn't a terrible amount of time to be considered a rebound. Do you have romantic feelings for your ex? If so I wouldn't see this guy or lead him on. The only way your gonna know if your ready is to put yourself out there and see how you feel afterwords. If the date goes well I'd tell him how you feel and if he is understanding he will be cool with it.
Author KatZee Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 Four months isn't a terrible amount of time to be considered a rebound. Do you have romantic feelings for your ex? If so I wouldn't see this guy or lead him on. The only way your gonna know if your ready is to put yourself out there and see how you feel afterwords. If the date goes well I'd tell him how you feel and if he is understanding he will be cool with it. I don't have any romantic feelings towards my ex. I still feel quick jolts of pain about it occasionally but it doesn't last for more than a few minutes and then it's gone. I could never be with my ex again, he did some pretty crappy things so I don't even view him in the same light anymore.
Author KatZee Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 Date, meet new people... don't sweat trying to explain your feelings to new people you're trying to get to know. When/if things become more serious, I'm sure you'll know what to do. dating is nothing more than learning about yourself. OK, sounds easy enough. The only thing I've seen fairly consistently among guys, is that if a girl isn't sleeping with you by like... date 3??? they bounce? I'm not trying to put out in a couple weeks. I don't do things like that, but is this a real mentality among guys? They won't even continue trying to date a girl if she's not putting out almost immediately?
youngnlove89 Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 Weren't you dating your friend? What happened there?
Author KatZee Posted August 29, 2012 Author Posted August 29, 2012 Weren't you dating your friend? What happened there? Out of order... this thread came before the 12 year long friend one. This guy... I'm not interested in anymore. Our second date kind of bombed at the end, turned me off and I pulled back 100%. He kinda was trying to make me a wife, really moving way too fast. And plus I wasn't feeling that "thing" with him. Nice guy, just not for me.
weallfalldown Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 just go with the flow and have fun, what will be will be.....balls, life's too short.
youngnlove89 Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 Out of order... this thread came before the 12 year long friend one. This guy... I'm not interested in anymore. Our second date kind of bombed at the end, turned me off and I pulled back 100%. He kinda was trying to make me a wife, really moving way too fast. And plus I wasn't feeling that "thing" with him. Nice guy, just not for me. Yea sorry I was trying to find that thread. Some guys are just too clingy at first, that scares me off too. Clinginess is okay once you both are in love with eachother. It's natural but in the beginning it's needy and freaky.
Author KatZee Posted August 29, 2012 Author Posted August 29, 2012 Yea sorry I was trying to find that thread. Some guys are just too clingy at first, that scares me off too. Clinginess is okay once you both are in love with eachother. It's natural but in the beginning it's needy and freaky. Yeah I'm sure if I felt something for him it wouldn't have freaked me out, but it totally did. I feel bad because he seems like a nice guy just WAY too eager. He tried to kiss me at the end of date 2, fine, I went with it... YIKES. We'll just leave it at that.
rocketman122 Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 How does one KNOW for sure that they are ready to date? You just answered your own question I'm totally cool with being single right now and have been having a lot of fun...I'm actually really excited/semi-nervous but I guess I just want to take it slow, and not just rush into anything super serious. Just let the guy know of your intentions.
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