mortensorchid Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 Last night I was on Facebook, I got an IM from the last serious bf who broke it off after six months with me back in March. He said he needed to talk to me. I called him. He said he has a new girlfriend now and is about to update his Facebook status. He didn't want me to find out by reading the Facebook newsfeed. I said, deadpan, "What difference does it make of my reaction? If I react with anger or screaming or whatever else, you're still going to be with the new girlfriend right?". He said "Yes." I said "Godspeed." And hung up. Then he changed his Facebook status. I don't really get that. He did break up with me, after all. It was about 6 months ago. I'd seen him a few times since then, once to return his things to him that he had left at my place. We'd been on friendly terms. Think he was trying to hurt me? This is another example of my coldness, I realize. I won't show my feelings to others, I fear it. I'm rather ... Numb. But he's an Alpha Male. He's more fun than a barrel of monkeys, he's a tornado in the sack, but it's going to get old once he starts throwing chairs through windows, getting into fist fights, and calling for bail money. He'll pull the same things with the new gf.
my body is a cage Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 Sounds like it was either a misguided attempt at being considerate or a successful attempt at messing with your mind. It is a good thing you didn't give him more a more emotive response.
gaius Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 I don't think he was trying to hurt you. I think his ego is so big that he still thinks something like that might upset you. I bet he even enjoyed when you hung up, thinking that it did. The whole thing was more about him than it was about you.
Author mortensorchid Posted August 15, 2012 Author Posted August 15, 2012 I don't think he was trying to hurt you. I think his ego is so big that he still thinks something like that might upset you. I bet he even enjoyed when you hung up, thinking that it did. The whole thing was more about him than it was about you. Yes, he has a tremendous ego. It's like talking to Lex Luthor, pure evil, plotting, dominating, always trying to outthink the next guy. He did me a favor. I miss not having someone, but it was about having his ego stroked rather than some kind of consideration for my feelings. The new gf will learn soon enough and she'll dump him like all the other women before me.
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