adamw5963 Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 Ok I've known this girl a few weeks. I met here a week and a half ago. We really clicked and since then we have seen each other every day. In fact I have spent the night with her most nights. A couple of days she brought up the fact that she wanted a serious relationship because she was starting to develop feelings for me and wanted to know what I wanted out of the relationship. I told her the same thing because it's true. She said in the past she thought she was in a serious relationship but found out she was wrong. So she didn't want to make the same mistake. I think we are exclusive but I'm not sure. I guess my problem is that I have trust issues because I've been cheated on before. I don't know if I should bring it up or not. Her friends have told me that she really likes me and warned me not to hurt her so I take that as a good sign.
mysteryscape Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 By all means, talk to her about it and bring up the "E" business if you like -- when I was younger, exclusivity was more tacitly implied than it is now -- but it sounds like you both want the same thing -- "serious" and "exclusive" -- especially if her friends are warning you not to hurt her -- and it sounds like you have similar concerns for yourself.
AlexCross Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 Ok I've known this girl a few weeks. I met here a week and a half ago. We really clicked and since then we have seen each other every day. In fact I have spent the night with her most nights. A couple of days she brought up the fact that she wanted a serious relationship because she was starting to develop feelings for me and wanted to know what I wanted out of the relationship. I told her the same thing because it's true. She said in the past she thought she was in a serious relationship but found out she was wrong. So she didn't want to make the same mistake. I think we are exclusive but I'm not sure. I guess my problem is that I have trust issues because I've been cheated on before. I don't know if I should bring it up or not. Her friends have told me that she really likes me and warned me not to hurt her so I take that as a good sign. Just some words of wisdom, people do not become exclusive in a week and a half.
mysteryscape Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 People make up their minds to become all kinds of things whenever they want to. If they've been spending most nights together, I'd say it's certainly appropriate, if that's how they feel. If not, they should discuss it and let each other know. I would certainly not be "spending most nights" with someone if I didn't have an expectation -- tacit or explicit -- of "exclusivity."
Author adamw5963 Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 People make up their minds to become all kinds of things whenever they want to. If they've been spending most nights together, I'd say it's certainly appropriate, if that's how they feel. If not, they should discuss it and let each other know. I would certainly not be "spending most nights" with someone if I didn't have an expectation -- tacit or explicit -- of "exclusivity." That's what I was thinking. I'm pretty sure we are and I want to be. I just have trust issues bc of crap that has happened to me before. She also has guy friends that like to hang out with her. I do trust her but I just want to make sure.
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