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Ex texted me, finally?

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witmadskilllz Established Member

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A typical relationship that was ended in a year. A week after post breakup, I was stalking on her facebook and had realized she was already going on dates with another man. I broke NC and reached out to her telling her my mistakes and how I would change everything for her(asking for second chance) but if she had found happiness already with someone, I would respect that and wished her the best. She chose her new man over me, and told me we shouldn't contact each other anymore. I accepted her choice.

 

So after removing all contacts(facebook, cellphone, etc etc) with the ex, I remained NC with her until a year and 3 months later that she sent me a text with her name? I'm assuming because it was a new cell # that I didn't recognize and perhaps she was telling me that this new cell # is hers. I don't know what she would want from me still, and the last time I checked, she was very happy with her new man like a potential long term relationship type(Sources from a mutual friend, he just had to ****ing blurt this out to me lol ;/).

 

So I proceeded to ignore this text because I wouldn't know how to reply back or anything. I see no point in it either because I wouldn't benefit anything from this. Another week goes by and suddenly a random text from her best friend. I'm not getting a clue of what their aim is.. and this text of hers is again, stating only the ex's name(Oh gee, thanks for the awesome reminder, pal).

 

I'm really clueless here folks, and I know I'll always remain NC with her and anyone else associated. But am I missing out on these signs?

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A typical relationship that was ended in a year. A week after post breakup, I was stalking on her facebook and had realized she was already going on dates with another man. I broke NC and reached out to her telling her my mistakes and how I would change everything for her(asking for second chance) but if she had found happiness already with someone, I would respect that and wished her the best. She chose her new man over me, and told me we shouldn't contact each other anymore. I accepted her choice.

 

So after removing all contacts(facebook, cellphone, etc etc) with the ex, I remained NC with her until a year and 3 months later that she sent me a text with her name? I'm assuming because it was a new cell # that I didn't recognize and perhaps she was telling me that this new cell # is hers. I don't know what she would want from me still, and the last time I checked, she was very happy with her new man like a potential long term relationship type(Sources from a mutual friend, he just had to ****ing blurt this out to me lol ;/).

 

So I proceeded to ignore this text because I wouldn't know how to reply back or anything. I see no point in it either because I wouldn't benefit anything from this. Another week goes by and suddenly a random text from her best friend. I'm not getting a clue of what their aim is.. and this text of hers is again, stating only the ex's name(Oh gee, thanks for the awesome reminder, pal).

 

I'm really clueless here folks, and I know I'll always remain NC with her and anyone else associated. But am I missing out on these signs?

 

there's no sign. sending a name isn't a sign of anything. if she wants to talk to you, she'll do so.

2muchlove Established Member

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Are you sure it wasn't a mass text to all her contacts?

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Breck Established Member

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Reply: No, Ashley. (insert texted name) was the insecure one.

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Its up to you if you want to get back in

contact with your ex...

 

Personally I wouldn't since she's with a

new guy. That love triangle crap is

immature!

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The same thing happened to be a while ago. I was with my ex for almost 2 years and broke up. Almost a year later, she texts me out of the blues. The best thing to do is either ignore her (if you ended on bad terms) or if the break up wasn't so bad, perhaps you can still be friends again. But, I chose not to respond back and never looked back!

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witmadskilllz Established Member

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Yeah, you guys are right. But let's face it, sure there have been great relationships that ended neutral, good or bad ones, but even so, I appreciate it more than ever if the person I'm dating has her principles and to end off all contacts with the ex's because she's with me. Sure I can accept that she will do the same if we broke up despite the conditions. Life will always make its way for us depending if we're up for it instead of staggering in the past.

 

Thank you guys for your insight, as you know, I'll keep this thread updated if anything comes up but most likely not because I won't be responding back to any of my ex's texts unless....

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Chi townD Established Member

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So, she just sent you a text with just her name AS the text? Nothing else. Then a week goes by and you get a text from a mutual friend with only HER NAME as the text?

 

Weird.

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witmadskilllz Established Member

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So, she just sent you a text with just her name AS the text? Nothing else. Then a week goes by and you get a text from a mutual friend with only HER NAME as the text?

 

Weird.

 

Exactly, just what kind of mind **** is this ****...

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It's a mass txt that she sent from her contacts to a bunch of people and you were on it. She must have an iphone. This is the reason you're getting random txt messages from her friends. You must not have an iphone, which is why you can't see the list of people she sent the mass email to. It used to happen to me all the time, until I got an Iphone.

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One more thing...please don't read into this and please don't txt her back. I promise you, what I said above is exactly what happened. I don't mean to be mean, but she wasn't reaching out to you. She just was sending everyone her new number. If she wanted to talk to you, she would have emailed, called or txt'd you personally. She's not playing a Mind F--- game with you on purpose.

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Thanks for the clarification Crila16! So, this means that she still has my contact # saved on her phone? lol that's weird.

 

Now that I think more about it, my ex wouldn't be the first to contact anyways because I know she doesn't want to be rejected and be heart broken again.

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