Future7 Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 Hello everyone. I am hurting very badly, I have lost my girlfriend of two years. Please bear with me for the story. I was absolute best friends with my girlfriend for about a year before we starting going out. I helped her through an entire break up she went through and realized that I wanted to be with her. The summer after that school year we remained friends but she went back to her ex. The following school year, our junior year in high school, she left her boyfriend to be with me because she couldn't not have me in her life. I treated her like gold and did so much for her. I treated her better than anyone before has treated her. And she knew it. The relationship was pretty strong for about 8 months and then some things started to happen. First her old ex started to make contact again with her. At this point she distanced herself from me and said she diden't know what she wanted. We were going to go on a break but we ended up staying together and getting stronger. Next one of her friends admitted to me she really liked me and wanted me. I felt horrible to know this but stayed true to my girlfriend. I never told her this. We went to a small school and the drama would have been severe. That following summer I was actually very good friends with Mike, the boyfriend of the girl who used to want me. Mike told me that his girlfriend told him I made sexual contact with her at a party, and cheated. I told him that is such a lie and that it's not true. He did not believe me but I thought it was insignifigent because I didn't do a thing. This summer also yielded another test to our relationship. A friend of mine texted my girlfriend acting like a guy she worked with. I was with him at the time and he thought it was funny. I asked him to stop but it got worse. He was actually flirting with her but also asked her to cheat. She said she was not a cheater but did flirt back the entire time. That entire night ruined my summer as I thought we had a good relationship. That week she distanced herself from me and at the end of the week I went to her house expecting to break up, but she convinced me it was worth staying together. So we did. My senior year was very good with her. We were saying I love you and she meant the world to me. She did so much for me and spent so much on me it was great and also about time. Skipping to the summer because it is the most important part, I went to several parties at my friends house. There are many girls who went to these parties but I was always taken so I never ever thought about cheating nor did any girls try to make moves on me. I told my friend Mike about this, and he actually told his girlfriend that I was cheating on my girlfriend. The summer was going very good until it hit time for college talk. And we both knew we didn't want to talk about it. We are only going to colleges 1 hour away and I was committed, but her not so much. We took a break for a week however nothing changed. We still acted like a couple. A week ago At her grad party Mike's girlfriend told a group of my own girlfriends friends I cheated on her. They in turn told her, and she accused me which I denied. She was sorry and said lets put that behind us which I did. However the following week she distanced herself once again from me. I knew what was about to happen. That Friday, or 3 days ago, I told my girlfriend we needed to figure this out. She asked me again if I cheated and I told her no. She told me her friends all hated me and told her I cheated. I did not. I swear. We broke up. She however told me she went to a dance club the night before with two of her friends, drank some Alcohol and grinded on four guys. She also gave two of the trashy guys her number. It may seem I am defending her but she was pressured by her two friends. She told me we were on a break so it was not cheating. At this point I am heartbroken. She is my first love but I also saw so much left for us. I want to still be with her but I want her to know I did not cheat on her. If anything I feel we still can rekindle down the road. But let me list some facts. The girl who wanted me to cheat on my girlfriend with ultimately broke us up because of the lies she spread. I would be willing to take her back. She texted me the day after we broke up and asked me if I was going to her cousins birthday party that day. WTF I know but all I replied with was a no. Ever since then it has been no contact but she did like a picture of mine on facebook. I want to contact her so bad. I will do anything at this point to feel normal. I go to college in one week. Please tell me what I should do and may God bless you for anyone who responds.
Car10e Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 If she would rather believe all these so-called friends of yours then let her. The fact that she asked if you were going to the party the day after you broke up makes it seem she's not really serious. She's keeping the door open for herself. She wants to be able to go out and experience the college life, but also wants you there just in case she wants to come running back. That is really up to you whether you want that or not.
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