lovehurts5 Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 Just curious... What is the longest amount of time you have gone with NC before hearing from an ex? I mean hearing from them first, not you giving in a breaking the NC. I am at 75 days... it's so completely crazy to me. Never thought it'd be possible. He tried contacting me exactly 1 month after NC but I never answered..
Dblock10 Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 well whats the point counting if your then not going to answer them when they do? when you go nc, its cause you dont care and want to move on. no/? 1
Author lovehurts5 Posted August 12, 2012 Author Posted August 12, 2012 No not at all. I care completely. He just hurt me extremely bad so I didn't answer because I knew if I picked up the phone i'd give him exactly what he was looking for and all the pain would come rushing back 10x worse. I care about him and think about him everyday,
barese1 Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 Well I've gone years NC with previous exs....in my experience once they move on you'll never hear from them again
BrokenAnna Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 Well I've gone years NC with previous exs....in my experience once they move on you'll never hear from them again Don't you ever wonder what they are up to or how their life has changed? I would imagine one being very curious how they have changed
barese1 Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 Its strange, I guess once all your feelings fade you don't really care. i was in love and lived with a girl for 2 years but since we borke up we haven't spoke at all...a year and a half now. I wonder every now and then what she's up to but it causes no emotion on my part. the recent ex, yes I want to hear about her life and miss not knowing what shes doing but I know it would just make things harder. Think of it this way, there's people you've been close to in your life, great friends maybe. You might have lost contact with these people over the years. Do you think about them anymore? No probably not. Another thing is if they don't care what I'm doing then I sure as hell don't want to be thinking about them all the time and what they're doing 1
RogerWallace111 Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 Counted em up, I'm on day 73. Honestly pretty surprised she hasn't tried to contact me when I think about it. She's probably vowed not to, and is respecting my wishes. I did tell her I'd get in touch in "weeks or months" when I could be "friends", but it became clear quickly that I won't be contacting her for a much longer time than that. I've kept thinking that around 3 months she'll send me a text saying "are you ever gonna call me ? can't we be friends ?". We'll see if that happens. If it doesn't, it's for the best. If it does, I'll just have to say no, sorry. Realistically if she had tried to get a hold of me it would have just made me miss her more. As is I can just tell myself she's moved on and thus do so myself with more of a f*ckit attitude. I've had down periods but things are really going well in my life at the moment and I'm content. I still miss her and would probably, against-all-logic, be holding her tonight given I had the opportunity. But the pain isn't so acute and difficult to handle. It's like I'm getting used to being on my own, but I still sometimes find myself reminiscing and acknowledging how much I loved having her. But that's a good stage to be entering. It's like if you lost a thumb... it'd be rough figuring out how to function without it, and would frustrate/sadden you. Then eventually you'd get to a point where you're managing alright without it and don't dote on it's absence anymore. Once there, though, you'd still inevitably have memories of how easy it was when you had your thumb, and look back on it fondly. 1
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