dayslikelikethis Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Wow..... I'm emotionally in turmoil at the moment.. Yes, because I didn't take soooooo many people's advice on here to delete my ex from Facebook.. Well, here is a quick rundown on what happened... I'm crushed right now. I met my ex on New Years Eve... It seemed as if it was written out of a book.. Seemed "Fairytale" ish... On January 3rd I drove to her house at 3 AM to watch a rare meteor shower.. This was our first meeting other than on New Years.. (15 minutes before the clock struck 12 on New Years) We layed under the stars (it was about 30 degrees) in her front lawn and watched the meteor shower... She puts on Pandora on her cell phone just to have some music playing.. The first song that plays is Cold Play's "yellow" The first lyrics are "Look at the stars, look at how they shine for you, and everything you do"... We both looked at each other as we were laying under the stars and knew that it was destiny.. Well, so I thought... Our relationship was magical for the first several months... I ended up getting dumped in around July... I haven't been able to get over her. I just can't fathom meeting another woman who will ever be able to do what she did to my heart.. Well, anyway after I got dumped I did what I shouldn't have did... I pined over her... I sent messages "Baby, give me another chance", blah blah blah... We are both in our 30's so we aren't youngin's.. I've been through many relationships, but none has captured my heart like she did... Fast Forward until tonight....... She is still on my Facebook, and yes I'm guilty of creeping her Facebook page multiple times a day.. She doesn't post much on FB, but tonight I guess the booze that she was drinking got the best of her... She was at a birthday party.. Was out on boat on the lake with her friends all day.. She posted more than a few pics.. Nothing major that was going to crush me... Then about an hour ago at 2 AM I see the "Sitting in the middle of the lake with awesome friends" "Meteor shower, it can't get better than this"... Well, I know two of the friends that were with her.. Married couple who I like... the other "friend" that was out on the boat with her was a guy who I'm familiar with but don't know... She had been drinking all day, it's 2 in the morning... Well, you can guess what is filling my mind right now... Yep, Facebook is evil and you should delete the ex.. I somehow just kept hanging on to the 1 percent chance that she would come back I feel really, really bad right now..
Sav Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Wow..... I'm emotionally in turmoil at the moment.. Yes, because I didn't take soooooo many people's advice on here to delete my ex from Facebook.. Well, here is a quick rundown on what happened... I'm crushed right now. I met my ex on New Years Eve... It seemed as if it was written out of a book.. Seemed "Fairytale" ish... On January 3rd I drove to her house at 3 AM to watch a rare meteor shower.. This was our first meeting other than on New Years.. (15 minutes before the clock struck 12 on New Years) We layed under the stars (it was about 30 degrees) in her front lawn and watched the meteor shower... She puts on Pandora on her cell phone just to have some music playing.. The first song that plays is Cold Play's "yellow" The first lyrics are "Look at the stars, look at how they shine for you, and everything you do"... We both looked at each other as we were laying under the stars and knew that it was destiny.. Well, so I thought... Our relationship was magical for the first several months... I ended up getting dumped in around July... I haven't been able to get over her. I just can't fathom meeting another woman who will ever be able to do what she did to my heart.. Well, anyway after I got dumped I did what I shouldn't have did... I pined over her... I sent messages "Baby, give me another chance", blah blah blah... We are both in our 30's so we aren't youngin's.. I've been through many relationships, but none has captured my heart like she did... Fast Forward until tonight....... She is still on my Facebook, and yes I'm guilty of creeping her Facebook page multiple times a day.. She doesn't post much on FB, but tonight I guess the booze that she was drinking got the best of her... She was at a birthday party.. Was out on boat on the lake with her friends all day.. She posted more than a few pics.. Nothing major that was going to crush me... Then about an hour ago at 2 AM I see the "Sitting in the middle of the lake with awesome friends" "Meteor shower, it can't get better than this"... Well, I know two of the friends that were with her.. Married couple who I like... the other "friend" that was out on the boat with her was a guy who I'm familiar with but don't know... She had been drinking all day, it's 2 in the morning... Well, you can guess what is filling my mind right now... Yep, Facebook is evil and you should delete the ex.. I somehow just kept hanging on to the 1 percent chance that she would come back I feel really, really bad right now.. Me and my gf broke up in July too. I blocked her fb. Now you do the same. We can go through this together . Remember you're not alone
villageman Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 I'm so sorry to hear this, but, as it seems like you already know, you gotta block her on facebook and any other type of social media if you ever want to be able to move on and recover. It will completely suck at first, but really, you only have 2 choices. Cut the cords now and start working towards a better tomorrow, or hang on and torment yourself needlessly, hoping that she'll come back and probably missing out on opportunities to meet other people and do other things with your life. She could get in touch with you if she wanted, and she hasn't, and as you've seen she's moving on with her life so that's what you should do too. It will be hard for a while though, good lord do I know that. Don't hang on though. I've done this, and lost years of my life, YEARS, and had it ruin another relationship that probably could have been great if I'd come into it with a heart that was open and wasn't still tied down to a failed past relationship. Now I regret the end of that last relationship, but I'm doing everything I can to move on, which included blocking her on facebook, so that someday I'll be able to be happier and hopefully meet someone new. It's tough man, but you can do it, and in the long run , it's for the best.
whatdoesntkillyou Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Hang in there buddy, in the same boat. Write a post-it with a big-fat NO and stick it on your monitor if you don't want to delete her. Worked for me. But you still got to be strong
Author dayslikelikethis Posted August 11, 2012 Author Posted August 11, 2012 Thanks everyone for the excellent advice. I'm going to pull up my "big boy pants" and delete her from Facebook today. Wow, it's like a final string u cut as u watch the kite float away. Seems so simple...... But it's not when part of u is trying to hang on.... To anything
barese1 Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 I know it seems so superficial, deleteing someone from facebook but...if you're really trying to move on and forget about an ex it really needs to be done, blocking not deleting. In my case it was needed, I couldn't handle seeing pictures or happy updates and it gave a clear message to her that I couldn't be friends. Hrd as it is it really does need to be done
g450 Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 Not a bash against you but I have to say that I wish I had a dollar for every poster coming to these forums who refuses to block their ex for whatever lame excuse. I would be making at least $5 here every single day it seems. But to be fair, I did the same thing. In my case I wanted to see if my XW was divorcing me for another man or not. She blocked me a few days after she said she wanted a divorce. Best favor she ever did me.
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