notsure252 Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 (edited) So my ex-gf of almost three years recently broke up with me about three weeks ago (we are both early 20's) because of the dreaded "not sure I love you enough" phase. Long story short I have the feeling that we will get back together, but that's not my question. For whatever reason a couple times a day I will get an intense butterfly feeling in my stomach and, I don't know why, but I just know that it's because my ex is either thinking of me or misses me. Is that crazy? Second question, is that the supposed bond people talk about that some couples share? And lastly, can that be one-sided or do you think to share such a thing both have to have it (regardless or not the other person will think the gut feeling means anything)? Edited August 10, 2012 by notsure252
Author notsure252 Posted August 11, 2012 Author Posted August 11, 2012 Does anyone have an opinion on this?
veggirl Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Well I don't think a bond can be completely one-sided unless the person is totally delusional. I do think, though, that the bond can be stronger for one person and mean more for one person than it does the other. You may have viewed things with more intensity than she did. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 It can definitely be one-sided..your emotions can be just that...your own. Bonding is about sharing, communicating and getting on the same page with your partner. Emotionally sharing and exposing yourself to know how each other feels and thinks, without that communication in all sorts..you're shooting in the dark and just being hopeful and I see a lot of people do that...they create their own fantasy/illusion about their relationships which is why they stay despite the growing-apart/distancing from one another, then you become in denial because you can't believe you fell for something that wasn't even real....happens all the time. I think it would be best for you two to move on with your lives, you're too young to be investing much more time into something that is unsure of. Right now you're just missing each other and thinking of all the good things about your relationship and really just being lonely. You're going to waste a lot of time because someone isn't really truly emotionally invested and that's just going to draw things out until someone finally backs out again...it doesn't just change or click over unless you manipulate yourself into believing this is it...which is easy to do to a degree when you don't know/believe or are used to anything else since you've been together so long. There's better things out there than this, you've got to trust in that. Your butterflies aren't going to save this relationship.
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