Johnny85 Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 I was dating a girl for 3 months; we met through a mutual friend. She was constantly saying things like, "we are so different" or "you should find another girl who is more similar to you." Once at a birthday party, she told me that her ex boyfriend was the most amazing guy (they broke up in 2008). That made me sad and I told her that if she didn't want to be with me, just tell me. She said she wanted to be together with me. This happened two weeks ago. This morning, she said once again: "we are so different." I responded once again by saying that perhaps we are not meant to be if you think we are so different. I told her she wouldn't be saying these things unless she meant them. Tonight we met to discuss our conversation earlier. I told her that I didn't like going to sleep upset. THEN she told me that she was not in love with me. She feels like we have a connection and she likes me as a person but she is not in love with me. Then she started kissing me and wanted to have sex. As we were having sex I started to cry. I told her that it is not meant to be. Then, after a while, she said she wanted us to be lovers. Then she said she wanted us to continue dating but to go slow this time (we have essentially seen each other every day for 2 months). she said she needed space and perhaps she will miss me. But she said she didn't feel the butterflies. We went to sleep but I was still sad so I told her that I would go home to my place. She said she would call me tomorrow. She wanted me to stay but I felt like such a push over so I just kissed her and left. At one point of the night she just wanted me to leave (and we were not even arguing). I think that's was acting indifferent towards me, like she never cared. What do y'all think? I honestly saw it coming but I am still sad and disappointed that it's over now. Any advice? I feel that since she said she wasn't in love with me, why even bother! Thanks guys. Input would be greatly appreciated.
Author Johnny85 Posted August 9, 2012 Author Posted August 9, 2012 Thanks! You don't think that When a woman says these things she actually means them? I mean, were arguing a few times over the last few weeks, but I think that is normal. Now I feel like everything is spoiled. She is not in love with me, which means that if I stay I'll come across as a pushover and weak with no respect for myself. It is all spoiled! :-(
Chunky Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 My girl told me yesterday that she doesn't love me either. She's moving away and I am heartbroken. But we deserve someone who wants to be with us because they love us. Let's both try to be brave and press on day by day. People are telling me that things will get better. I want to find out. I'll be praying for you. God bless.
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